It hurts but was it right?

[Oursecret]

I broke up with my girlfriend of 1 and a half years last week but we have been chatting and she has been trying to mend things. She is a great girl but I couldn't tell her that I don't feel the passion for her therefore I told her that I need to be independant at the moment to fully discover myself which she doesn't believe. I believe I love her but not to the degree she loves me.

 

She has a great personality and we have such a great time together. She has supported me with my major life problems over the past 6 months (gambling, depression, therapy, lies).

 

I haven't told her this and I can't as it would destroy her. But a few months ago I got very drunk and slept with a girl. I feel terrible everyday, this guilt kills me and I feel like the world's worst person. Nobody deserves what I did. I'm trying to free her from this bad person.

 

I'm currently at University and I don't want to grow old and resent missed opportunities. I have heard a few of my friends who have been in relationship talk about how they wish they could have been single during University. It's totally selfish of me but I don't think this feeling of wantinng to discover what university and life is about unless I go solo.

 

I have always been in long term relationships from the age of 16 and I am now into my early 20's.

 

I fear it was a terriible decision to break up with a great person and part of my life but she deserves much better. Have I done an awful decision?

[CptSaveAho]

Fully understandable and you are doing the right thing.

 

Good Luck

[venusianx13]

Once upon a time, my cheating boyfriend (at that point, of 3 years) had a moment of clarity in which his conscience spoke to him loud and clear. It was a short-lived epiphany, and he told me to never talk to him again, as I was too good for what he was doing to me. Well, he redacted on that a short time later, and I stayed... I wish I hadn't. Things only got worse for the next 2+ years.

 

Let her go. Some things are meant to be, but not meant to last. Let her move onto a new chapter in life and love. Holding on will only cause more pain and confusion (for both of you).