KungFuJoe Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 It's not my thing. Drugs are a major major turn off to me. Even something as lite as pot. I have friends who smoke it on rare occasions, and that's fine, because I don't have to date them. If someone I'm dating does it, I find it unattractive. Ok...but people don't just arbitrarily dislike something. There has to be a reason. For instance. I wouldn't date someone who smoked. Not because I think it's wrong to smoke but because I grew up around it daily and I can't stand to be around the smell.
MrCastle Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 What if marijuana became legal and more socially accepted? would your view on it change?[/Quote] No. I said in my first post that I think it's silly that it's illegal. But even if it was, my opinion wouldn't change. Cigs are legal and I'm not down. Alcohol is legal and I don't like heavy drinkers. The fact that it's illegal is the least of my concern. what if you fell in love with the girl and only found out later? would that be enough to turn you off of her even if she is pretty amazing? If I found out she used to do it, I wouldn't mind. If I expressed my dislike and she continued to smoke, it would be a turn off, yeah. Ok...but people don't just arbitrarily dislike something. There has to be a reason. For instance. I wouldn't date someone who smoked. Not because I think it's wrong to smoke but because I grew up around it daily and I can't stand to be around the smell. Not really, I just never got into it. Drugs were never my thing, I'm not even remotely curious what it feels like to be high. It's just a lifestyle preference. I prefer not to smoke or date people who do. Simple as. It's no different than other turn offs people have. I'm not going to judge those who smoke or look down on them, like I'm somehow better than them. It's just not something I like at all.
pandagirl Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 My boyfriend smokes pot frequently, and we actually got into a HUGE fight over toward the beginning of our relationship. I do not have a problem with people smoking weed at all; however I do not like a person who lives the LIFESTYLE of a stoner (meaning, unproductive, lazy, etc.). I also don't want to date someone who makes smoking it a priority. I also would not want to date someone who drank a lot or excessively. That being said, my boyfriend is extremely responsible, has a job, pays his bill, is very intelligent, goes to the gym regularly. He does not make weed a priority in his life, though it is something he enjoys partaking in. He does not take any other drugs, beside drinking alcohol. I don't see smoking marijuana any different than having a glass of wine every day. There is a big difference between getting stoned out of your mind, and taking one or two puffs. Anyway, I made it clear to him that I don't mind him smoking occasionally, but I don't want to to become something he does out of habit. He has no problem with that. PS - I rarely drink, because I am allergic to a lot of different alcohols. I've found taking one hit relaxes me, much like a cocktail does. I don't see the difference. 1
mn311601 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Turn off if they smoked anything, I don't care how often. I don't do smokers, don't care what you're smoking. 1
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Turn off if they smoked anything, I don't care how often. I don't do smokers, don't care what you're smoking. What if you bake it in brownies? thats not smoking
El Brujo Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 What I believe has nothing to do with what the state says. Most states, including the one I live in, have decriminalized pot, though it still is technically illegal. Alcoholics can be problematic, but there is just something very special and dumb about stoners. Scientifically speaking, alcohol despite its numerous side effects if abused long term, does not destroy brain cells (a myth that is commonly believed, but untrue), while smoking pot does. Pretty much everything you eat drink or smoke in modern society, causes numerous adverse side affects. That's besides the point, and I don't really care too much. My pet peeve is my current condition, where I go to school and live around people my own age who are nothing but mouth-breathing, brain dead, overweight pot zombies. I don't think it was like this back when kids partied with a few beers. The culture that goes along with smoking pot, is also utterly obnoxious. Man, that's overstating it a bit. Most of those stoners disappeared in the late 90s, when they realized the lifestyle was a dead end and it wasn't earning them any kudos. Interestingly, back in '09 I ran into just such a guy who'd been a co-worker of mine back in '88. Saw him in a 99c store. He's only 5 years older than me, but he looked like he was pushing 70. He recognized me, but I didn't recognize him until he told me his name. He'd start talking, then he'd forget what he was going to say... every sentence faded away into giggling that reminded me of Beavis and Butthead. Needless to say, the guy was a mess.
brahmabull117 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 What does that have to do with anything? People from all walks of life smoke meth too, from truck drivers to dieting supermodels, doesn't mean that I can't judge people who tweak and the fact that it turns them into drooling, yet sometimes functional, zombies . Michael Phelps was photographed smoking weed. He also has a body that is almost made specifically for swimming, does that mean that because he has achieved status in some regard the world has to enjoy being in his company? I'm a man, I don't respond to status for its own sake, for all I know Michael Phelps is a nitwit pothead outside of training season who thinks pissing in the pool is hilarious. And academia, thanks for reminding me. The hippy burnouts of the 60's are now molding the minds of the future, and that is exactly my point. College today is a joke, and this is coming from someone only a couple of months away from getting their college degree. Deductive and free thinking in social sciences, political ethics, psychology and philosophy has been completely replaced with empty mantras you memorize and regurgitate for a test. College of today is the Abbie Hoffman's of the 60's wasting our time and given a pulpit to make a mockery of the tradition of high education. Thanks for bringing up pot in relation to this, it probably is partly to blame for the anti-natural, fact-less, and completely irrational BS these people force on students. So do all drugs. You'd be surprised at how many well-known and high status people have done heroine, go to orgies, have gotten away with murder, or have sex with their dog, that doesn't mean I want to be around these people or have conversations with them. There is a type of personality that is attracted to smoking weed, even if superficially they have different professions and degrees of success, this kind of personality is not someone I want to be around. I'm not talking about fitness or other purely physical effects that seem to be the only concepts you can wrap your mind around, I'm talking about empty people who interpret everything as being abstract and revel in pointlessness. People like that annoy me, you can hang out with them if you want, never said you couldn't . -An ex-pothead, whose had many pothead friends and acquiantances. One of the most ridiculously judgmental people I've ever met Smoking weed somehow means one's an idiot and not worthy of being around "you"? How is smoking weed any different than alcohol or do you specifically avoid anybody who drinks once a week as well? Most pot smokers I know are about the same as most people who drink. They do it a couple times a week for fun and aren't addicted to it and don't let it become a problem. Of course the pot addicts who do nothing but smoke all day are not folks you want to be around but that's not the majority of them, (not by a long shot). Addiction to anything is bad You just have a very very undeserved superiority complex over people who are much much more successful than you and likely have done a lot more than you to benefit the world 2
Leigh 87 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I smoked pot as a teen every day, and it ruined me at the time. Sometimes it is a real turn off if the person cannot get heir act together. On the other hand, some people can be professionals and maintain a respectful life, whilst still smoking pot. I do not think it should matter. A person who smokes pot responsibly can still be everything you want in a mate. Every bit as intelligent, career orientated, and every bit as succesfull as people who do not smoke weed. However, some people are judgmental, and would discared a mate who would otherwise be perfect for them and make them very happy, simply because they smoke pot. Everyone has a right to an opinion though! Look, I get that it looks bad when a girl smokes a bong or even a joint, it can look like they are not motivated and do not have much regard for their health; but really, they could have everything you want in a person. Not all pot smokers have no jobs and are the stero types of the irresponsibe stoner. I do not smoke it, and I would not LIKe a guy I see to smoke it, purely because I see the negative impact it has on people first hand; I saw what it did to my boyfriend of two years ( ages ago!), to his friends, and to people inmy life right now. Most of all, pot had such a negative impact on ME. I would still date a guy that smoked it, however I would prefer them not to. I suppose the more secure and financially stable they were, the more I could be okay with it; it is just people with unestablished careers and low income jobs, scare me when they smoke pot! I have seen a lot of those types turn lazy and into silly stoners.
KungFuJoe Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 It's a TOTAL turn off for me if a girl smokes pot And doesn't share! 2
Leigh 87 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Being brutally honest here; I do not mind if a successful lawyer or enginneer smokes pot. Or a teacher or nurse, who all have stable jobs, in established careers. If they smoke up once a week, I honestly would NOT care. I do not mind if a successful tradesman who can support himself, and has a solid job an established career, smokes pot, either. Successful blue collar workers can smoke pot and I will not bat an eyelid. It is just the tradesmen, blue collar workers, and people who DO NOT have established careers, who have not worked full time for more than two years non stop without losing their job, and people who have the tendency to be lazy; these people I would not want to smoke pot, if I were dating them. I would not want my partner to smoke pot. Plain and simple. He once did, but no longer desires to. Thank god. He is in construction and is about to start a career in driving heavy and alrge vechiles and opperating difficult machinary. He will earn a decent living from it, because he lives in his fathers mansion. He has one house, and owns half of his dead mothers house, which he obviously inhrereted. He IS career orientated, but not in the academic fields, and he has not yet established a career( even though he plans to asap and is in the process every day). The reason I do not like people like my partner smoking, is more or less because he does not have an established career as yet. And also because he has the tendency to be lazy, because he is already well off financially. (Albiet, bad trait he knows about and has the will to fix) I think pot smoking should only be for people who have established careers and have a steady job which they have held for AT LEAST two years. Otherwise, it just reminds me off the idiot stoners who waste their lives away smoking, losing jobs and not educating themselves acaemically because they are too busy being lazy stoners. There are lazy stoners, and responsable stoners. The latter is fine. When my partner and I have been working for a couple of years in steady jobs without being made redundant - then maybe I will have a few joints every week!
Leigh 87 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 It's a TOTAL turn off for me if a girl smokes pot And doesn't share! hahahah lol I agree though, that it is a turn off for girls especially; just seeing a girl hold a bong in their hand and smoke like seasoned smokers... is a turn off to me. Although it is still not a great image in general, even for men. I joints are better lol. Not that I have had one for MANY years. The next time I have one will be when I travel haha as I plan to party and let lose for the remainder of my 20's. I always felt VERY self concious, smoking bongs in front of people. I just thought I looked highly unnappealing, being a girl and smoking a bong. I actually went and smoked it away from the group at times.
MercuryMorrison1 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I don't mind if a girl smokes pot in moderation, But it would cause turbulance in our hypothetical relationship if she were the type he did it all day everyday and had no means of going out in the world and bettering herself. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Why butt-hurt at what I said? Oh, kaylan, it just makes me sad to think that you'd pass me by for something so silly
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Being brutally honest here; I do not mind if a successful lawyer or enginneer smokes pot. Or a teacher or nurse, who all have stable jobs, in established careers. If they smoke up once a week, I honestly would NOT care. I do not mind if a successful tradesman who can support himself, and has a solid job an established career, smokes pot, either. Successful blue collar workers can smoke pot and I will not bat an eyelid. It is just the tradesmen, blue collar workers, and people who DO NOT have established careers, who have not worked full time for more than two years non stop without losing their job, and people who have the tendency to be lazy; these people I would not want to smoke pot, if I were dating them. I would not want my partner to smoke pot. Plain and simple. He once did, but no longer desires to. Thank god. He is in construction and is about to start a career in driving heavy and alrge vechiles and opperating difficult machinary. He will earn a decent living from it, because he lives in his fathers mansion. He has one house, and owns half of his dead mothers house, which he obviously inhrereted. He IS career orientated, but not in the academic fields, and he has not yet established a career( even though he plans to asap and is in the process every day). The reason I do not like people like my partner smoking, is more or less because he does not have an established career as yet. And also because he has the tendency to be lazy, because he is already well off financially. (Albiet, bad trait he knows about and has the will to fix) I think pot smoking should only be for people who have established careers and have a steady job which they have held for AT LEAST two years. Otherwise, it just reminds me off the idiot stoners who waste their lives away smoking, losing jobs and not educating themselves acaemically because they are too busy being lazy stoners. There are lazy stoners, and responsable stoners. The latter is fine. When my partner and I have been working for a couple of years in steady jobs without being made redundant - then maybe I will have a few joints every week! so its nothing with pot, you just wont date someone who isnt successful
KungFuJoe Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 If you don't want to try weed, then don't. But I hate when people make IGNORANT assumptions about people who do. Smoking pot doesn't make you any less responsible than someone who doesn't. Being irresponsible makes you irresponsible. 3
ThaWholigan Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 If you don't want to try weed, then don't. But I hate when people make IGNORANT assumptions about people who do. Smoking pot doesn't make you any less responsible than someone who doesn't. Being irresponsible makes you irresponsible. I don't hate it, I expect it when people make assumptions about a lot of things. That's probably why it doesn't bother me. I like weed, occasionally I smoke it. I used to smoke a lot, but I stopped while I had some nerve damage, as the weed was making it quite uncomfortable to deal with. I don't really care who doesn't like it, so really it's an exercise in futility to defend why I am an exception to anyone's generalization of weed smokers. Still, we succumb to it anyhow, I myself have done so for other such things - but generally not with something as minor as weed.
William Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Since the topic has drifted from this: Turn off if girl smokes pot? A question for the guys, would you be turned off if a woman smoked pot once or twice a month? and some of the posts have become polarized upon drug use itself versus turn-ons and/or turn-offs, I'll declare this a Stage Two and invite posters to remain on-topic. The intricacies of marijuana use and its legality are great topics; please start a thread on those issues and continue the discussion, either in the Addiction forum or the Water Cooler, as appropriate.
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 People who smoke pot have a really obnoxious streak in them, that is not necessarily violent or destructive. It's a pattern I've noticed, and likely due to the fact that marijuana fries your brain even in moderation. Really? It didn't seem to affect these incredibly successful people.
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