Sunslides Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Hi everyone, My first post here... I will explain my recent break up. Before the recent ex, I had a GF for 6 years, we had a child together, she went in Cancun... She cheated. We broke up. I was EXTREMELY heartbroken. Months passes by, I get a lot better. After a while, I got ready for a new relationship... On to the new girl : Me - 37 : Her - 25 ( I know, I know... She is Young). Lasted 10 months. We had a... strange relationship. We where happy together, did tons of stuff, where generally always having a blast. But we did get into some arguments. The main one : I have commitment issues. Why? My ex! I always told her I was not ready for a full time relation. So during these 10 months, we actually said quits 3 times. But we always came back after a few days. Told you this is a strange one. Now... Last few weeks, my "protective shell" was slowly coming off, and I wanted to have a long term relationship. So during the last quits, she met a guy (of course). We talked over what we wanted and she agreed that she wants to be with me. Stating that she has been wanting this for 10 months! Horray!!! Hmmm Hmmm.... 3 days after ; A Thursday. No Text. Emails with a minimal Hi, have a nice day. So I sense something is, of course... wrong. This until Saturday morning. She came to pick up work clothes at my place 10 minutes before her shift. She said she wanted space and think that our relation would not work. I, again, was heartbroken... I told her she was everything to me. I also told her I know the other guy was back in her thought, she of course, said not at all. So there it is, it is now over. I learned a couple of days later she is now in a "relationship" on facebook (she unfriended me). WOW!!!! That was a quick turnaround! Can someone please try to explain what happened? I think I know what went on... But I am not 100% sure... I ended the begging for her to come back with a text message : I understand and respect your decision to end our relationship. I wish you the best. Take Care. PS: I am now on day 11 that I have been doing No Contact. PS: I MISS HER.
blotter Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 (edited) I think she is doing what most 25 year olds do, get into and out of lots of relationships. You were probably the 'old guy' she dated that creeped out her friends. Enjoy it for what it was, you got to bang a 25 year old for ten months, i think that's where it ends. She has now moved onto her next conquest, it's over for you. Trying to figure out why is pointless as you will never find the answer. Edited August 28, 2012 by blotter 1
naomii Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 (edited) The way i see it, she got tired of waiting and found someone who would commit to her. I'm going through exactly what she went through, except she had the balls to end it. I've been seeing my guy for 2 1/2 years. The past 7 months, we became really close, yet he kept telling me he wasnt ready for a relationship (because of his ex. he got cheated on by 2 different ones), but would still act like we were in one. That causes a lot of insecurities in a woman. My guy doesnt seem to understand that either. I'm sorry but you lost your chance with her. I understand being hurt and not wanting to trust a woman, but you were hurting her as well when she wanted to be with you. Also, it does kind of make me feel better that guys really do say theyre not ready for a relationship and actually mean it. I always have been told its just an excuse to keep seeing her without having to commit, but I suppose there truely are guys that just are not ready. Edited August 28, 2012 by naomii
Author Sunslides Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 @Blotter : Yes, I was lucky. BUT, I do not look my age at all. I really look thirty. I tend to agree that she did come in and out of relationships. But she really did seem to love me a lot. Emails with I LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING in them... I'm baffled. Ho... and her friends loved me... some a little too much! @naomii : Yes she must of been tired, but the last conversation I had with her I told her that I was now with her. No more commitment issue. I was now her boyfriend! Then BANG!!! I do feel I am lucky since I do receive quite a few date proposals... But when I go on them, I just don't feel the same spark ... yet! I mean, the quick turnaround was way too fast! And deep down, I am pretty sure she thinks of me sometimes, she always was. I still have a couple of things at my house of hers... Anyone else had quick turnarounds like that happened to you, or that you did? PS: Day #12 of No Contact.
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