blue_jay_bird Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Okay, Everyone needs to celebrate how long they have been NC. Plus it will give others motivation to keep going. I have been NC for three months, from a sever year relationship. I thought as more time would pass it would get easier, but i feel worse. But i am surprised i haven't reached out. State your NC, and how your doing.
InAFog Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Today marks 1 week for me. aside from a picture he sent me a few days ago, but i didn't respond. It's hard, but I know it's for the best. we've gone longer without contact, and everytime we do chat, it's back down in the dumps with me. i still am checking my phone, hoping to hear something from him. something nice or apologetic, not something telling me how great he is. But I know I should be glad there's nothing there. We've said that we will be friendLY with each other, not friends. so down the road i think we will talk again, but it's too much right now. need to get life situated again first.
mistermr Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 6 Days NC, 2 months BU, 5 year relationship. It's really hard, I have ups and downs but I keep going because I know resetting the process will just kill me every time. I just remember a 5 min phone call won't change anything and she will carry on with her day whilst I'll be wallowing in sadness. JUST NOT WORTH IT. We are strong people!
SeventhFloor Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 1.5 year relationship. 1 month, 20 days NC (that's 50 days...) Wow. Still think about her. She, undoubtedly, doesn't spend one second thinking about me. :/
weallfalldown Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 3 months since i saw her........text 2 weeks ago.......i'm over it......:)
Mike_d Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 16 years. 66 days NC. Struggling hard but failure is not an option, if this still continues at the 8 month mark then I'll consider it a problem, until then let the clock tick. miss her like crazy, not a moment goes by that she isn't in my head, panic attacks come and go
weallfalldown Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 16 years. 66 days NC. Struggling hard but failure is not an option, if this still continues at the 8 month mark then I'll consider it a problem, until then let the clock tick. miss her like crazy, not a moment goes by that she isn't in my head, panic attacks come and go jeez 16 yrs man...........your doing well.....go easy on yourself.....
Mike_d Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 seems all I'm doing these days is trying to keep my head up. some days better than others. tough week last week hitting the 2 month mark, really threw me. but appreciate the good thoughts
weallfalldown Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 seems all I'm doing these days is trying to keep my head up. some days better than others. tough week last week hitting the 2 month mark, really threw me. but appreciate the good thoughts keep going brother......
Chris908 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Well I've done a month NC because I told her how I felt about her before she left to college. So I just decided to give her space. We had a mutual break up. I really miss talking to her...
aanderson088 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 1 year and 6 month relationship. NC for 5 days. BU was two weeks ago. I told her I would change. She said I need to show her that I'm not just saying that. I've been going to counseling for a few months now. I'm ecstatic about my appointment tomorrow, it's been 3 weeks since I've gone and that's when the relationship fell apart. Dealing with lots of guilt, all the troubles were my fault. Starting to go to the gym and church regularly. Prayer helps a lot. I just accepted God a week or two ago and I can't tell you the difference His presence has made. I told a lot of girls that I won't be talking to them anymore due to the conflict it would present during a reconciliation. Mostly, I just wanted to get rid of all of the excess baggage in my life. I've been working a lot on strengthening the relationships I have with the people that love me. I had forgotten what it was like to really WANT to make someone happy. It's really great. I want to keep growing and bettering myself. These break ups are really great opportunities to start anew and gain a better sense of self. They suck and they're painful as all hell, but we need to embrace the chance we've been given and allow ourselves the time to heal. As I say this, I can't not think of her. I didn't cry yesterday, and this will ignite my third breakdown, today. Don't judge yourself by stepping back like this. This is a loss. Like they died. Treat it as such, grieve, and move on. If they want you back, they'll come to you. I fear that mine won't. She truly did show me a light that I was ignoring for years. I long to show her my appreciation for the gifts she gave me, but she wanted the time. Hopefully, she'll see. But if she doesn't, then I'll grow and heal and I'll be fine either way.
Regrets58 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 16 month relationship,dumped in January.4 months or so of friendship/breadcrumbs.1 month of NC,followed by month of LC.Back to NC,on day 23 now. Feel like I will continue NC indefinitely now.She is with someone else which keeps me away.Don't want any knowledge of her new life.She explained why she dumped me and bear her no grudges. Know we weren't suited but still sad and miss her.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 2 months of NC here! life's been a roller coaster ever since. got dumped 5 weeks before what would have been our 2 yr anniversary. started NC a week after the BU. Honestly, i didnt know what NC was when i started it. i was just thinking about giving him "space" and "time" but when he stopped talking to me i got the msg and left it at that. then i came to LS ...uhm maybe we're doing NC on each other? either way, he's WAY to prideful to make any contact whatsoever and im to scared to break the ice.
Fallenandbroken Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I stopped counting exactly but 5 year relationship about 3 months NC. I think 5 months was the longest with the same girl. Still think about her but not as painful. Keep up the good work everyone.
United kingdom Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 11 year on and off in a relationship.no contact for 4 months, she came to see me, dropped me again and it's now been 2 and a half months.. I'll be seeing her a week on Saturday at my best friend and her brothers engagement party..... Let's see what happens!! It will most definately be reverse physicology on my part! I'm goin to make this bitch sick to the stomach when she sees me
aanderson088 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 either way, he's WAY to prideful to make any contact whatsoever and im to scared to break the ice. My ex is too. I'm afraid that's what will keep us apart. Even if she does want to talk to me, I don't think she will. I'm just left wondering when the right time would be...
SadPanda22 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 8 year relationship (my first and only romantic relationship) and I have been NC since the day he broke up with me...which was about 4 and half months ago. I am doing okay...I still have my bad days though. Still having a lot of mixed emotions too. Some days I really miss him and wish that we were on good terms (whatever that even really means), and other days I feel that he doesn't deserve to hear from me ever again (he has contacted me several times, but I have not responded). I am proud of myself for the progress that I have made....but damn is it hard.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 My ex is too. I'm afraid that's what will keep us apart. Even if she does want to talk to me, I don't think she will. I'm just left wondering when the right time would be... yup same here every day wondering if i should break the ice BUT...im still very much emotional. im still very much in love with him so first i have to get healed very well before i open my mouth or try to make contact and sadly that may take months or years...
kindest Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 6 month relationship, 6 months since BU. Went NC for the 1st month, then went LC. Then went back to NC, day 19 today. I honestly don't know where I'm at but I do have a destination... to total healing.
Damia Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 25 year relationship about 1 yr NC He initiated NC and at first I was so hurt but now I see it as a blessing because it has helped me be tough on the marriage settlement ,where as before NC I would possibly have felt bad an let him walk all over me an settle for less. So really he has shot himself in the foot haha And I have moved on an up
Mike_d Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 25 year relationship about 1 yr NC you've got me beat, but sounds like you are in a much better place so congrats. looking forward to being there someday too, it will happen
kimeebee Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Almost 16 year relationship...strict NC 3 and half months since he left me. Coping, as in breathing, just going through the motions day by day. In a lot of pain still, just resigned though I guess...
jayy23 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 5year relationship Been bu for five months on day 56 of NC still miss her but getting their.
Regrets58 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Back to a day NC now lol.She contacted me yesterday and asked for her tent back.Forgot I had it,it is in a cupboard I don't use much! Kept it brief but polite(She texted) and to be honest hasn't affected me too much.It's a big tent though and not easy to carry.She doesn't drive and have a horrible feeling new BF may bring her to collect it. Now that is a bridge too far at moment.If she suggests that,I will have to think of something!
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