Gaprofitt Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 My wife contacted me tonight via email after not emailing me for over a month and basically pretending like I didn't exist. This is after a 9 year marriage of her filing for divorce, 12 year relationship and keeping my son away from me after filing for divorce. I now see him every other weekend. Yes I don't sleep much and cry constantly. She emailed me a picture of my son and basically said how is doing and stated she's hoping this works well, that is emailing me so I can stay informed on what he is up to. She did get a letter recently about how I felt about her actions and me wanting to save our relationship. I'm not going to lie I got a huge smile on my face seeing her email, I don't want to read more into it than it is but I wonder if she felt guilty or why she emailed me after so long. I just responded back and said thanks, to be honest i'm scared of her she has hurt me so much. I want her and my son in my life more than anything but I don't want false hope. Greg
BewitchedandBothered Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 My wife contacted me tonight via email after not emailing me for over a month and basically pretending like I didn't exist. This is after a 9 year marriage of her filing for divorce, 12 year relationship and keeping my son away from me after filing for divorce. I now see him every other weekend. Yes I don't sleep much and cry constantly. She emailed me a picture of my son and basically said how is doing and stated she's hoping this works well, that is emailing me so I can stay informed on what he is up to. She did get a letter recently about how I felt about her actions and me wanting to save our relationship. I'm not going to lie I got a huge smile on my face seeing her email, I don't want to read more into it than it is but I wonder if she felt guilty or why she emailed me after so long. I just responded back and said thanks, to be honest i'm scared of her she has hurt me so much. I want her and my son in my life more than anything but I don't want false hope. Greg She probably needed time to cool down. Why would she keep your son from you?
Exit Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Right now it's important for your sanity to just take everything at face value. If she didn't say "I read your letter and ...." and only indicated that she hopes that emailing with provide a suitable way to update you about your son, then take it at that and nothing more. I hope this will lead to good things for you I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but right now you need to make sure you don't get too excited about it.
Author Gaprofitt Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Right now it's important for your sanity to just take everything at face value. If she didn't say "I read your letter and ...." and only indicated that she hopes that emailing with provide a suitable way to update you about your son, then take it at that and nothing more. I hope this will lead to good things for you I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but right now you need to make sure you don't get too excited about it. I was very excited last night but I've calmed down. I'm taking it for what it is, if more comes from it great, if not that's great too. Greg
Author Gaprofitt Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 (edited) She probably needed time to cool down. Why would she keep your son from you? That is a mystery to me. I mean I know I made a lot of mistakes in our marriage that I have been in counseling for that as well as reading a ton of books but there is no reason to cancel my visitation or threaten to do so. I am a great father and we need each other. I think her rage and anger just took over for the relationship failing, it doesn't have to continue to fail, that's what i'm trying to convey to her, we need to get counseling for our family. Greg Edited August 28, 2012 by Gaprofitt
Guitarjeff Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Greg, you are not on the right path because you are obviously still showing weakness to her and still being needy and basically begging in a way, and nothing will push her away further than the feeling that you are weak. To her that is pathetic and nothing could be more unattractive. You are not on the right path until you begin living for yourself, and actually set goals FOR YOU and your OWN personal life and actually begin ENJOYING and living for yourself, then you will be able to share that confident life with your son and a potential partner. I knew you were not on the right road as soon as i started reading this post, because it shows you to still be hanging on, letting your world be jerked up and down depending on if she contacts you or not, which told me in the first couple sentences that you are not on a healthy and corrective path. Start living for YOUR OWN LIFE, you have a worthy life, it is worth being interested in and excited about, WITHOUT YOUR WIFE, understand? Clearly you are still in the basic misery of this equation: Wife in my life = life worth living Wife not in my life = I have no life. Stop that, get interested IN YOUR OWN LIFE, find things to do that interest YOU, pamper yourself, love yourself, enjoy your time with yourself, you are worth the pampering, did you know that?
Author Gaprofitt Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Greg, you are not on the right path because you are obviously still showing weakness to her and still being needy and basically begging in a way, and nothing will push her away further than the feeling that you are weak. To her that is pathetic and nothing could be more unattractive. You are not on the right path until you begin living for yourself, and actually set goals FOR YOU and your OWN personal life and actually begin ENJOYING and living for yourself, then you will be able to share that confident life with your son and a potential partner. I knew you were not on the right road as soon as i started reading this post, because it shows you to still be hanging on, letting your world be jerked up and down depending on if she contacts you or not, which told me in the first couple sentences that you are not on a healthy and corrective path. Start living for YOUR OWN LIFE, you have a worthy life, it is worth being interested in and excited about, WITHOUT YOUR WIFE, understand? Clearly you are still in the basic misery of this equation: Wife in my life = life worth living Wife not in my life = I have no life. Stop that, get interested IN YOUR OWN LIFE, find things to do that interest YOU, pamper yourself, love yourself, enjoy your time with yourself, you are worth the pampering, did you know that? THanks Jeff, I'm not going to lie I still hold out hope but I am doing better, i'm going to a party this weekend and i've been going to the gym and spending a lot of time getting closer to my family. I do have to eliminate that equation. I'm just too hopeful of a person and that's presents issues, I always feel like if I work hard enough at something I can fix things, that's what's frustrating because normally I do. Greg
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