Benneo Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Hi, it's pretty much a confusing relationship and ima sum it up short. My gf n I just broke up like 3 weeks ago, so a few days after, I did wat most guys would have did which is to plead for a chance of getting back but it failed, she was cold towards me n said that her feelings ain't there anymore.. We've been keeping in touch thru msgs on some days and the week after that, I decided to call her asking her out for dinner n she agreed.. So at that dinner, we talked casually, she laughed quite abit n I wasn't sure if she's just treating me as a normal friend or wat, so after that for the next few days, she's been texting me asking bout some random stuffs n we texted.. Few days after, she asked me out for another dinner meeting, n I asked if we shud go for a movie as well n she agreed.. During that meeting, all is fine, n when I sent her home I even gave her a hug, although its a short hug, she dint reject, I was really happy that time n even when I reache home, she texted n asked if I reached home yet, maybe cause its late alr but at least it showed she cared isn't it? I was thinking she might still have feelings for me but a few days after when I called her all of a sudden at night, we chatted for like 10 mins asking her how's the weekend and stuffs, dunno y but it just ended up pretty dry just not like in the past when we talked.. So yest, I msged her for the whole day but it just seems like its just msging for the sake of msging kind, she will reply my msges but would take quite a while.. This fri we'll be meeting for another movie meeting, n right now I'm really confused as to how I m in her heart.. I dunno if I shud continue msging her everyday, cause that's wat I used to do when I first started dating her but somehow I dunno if by doing that, would it make me seem irritating or wat.. Need some advice on this.. Btw I regretted not going NC but I guess it's too late as I just realised this method only recently Thanks for reading my wall of post and advices given!
Regrets58 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Hi Benneo, Please don't get sucked into a "breadcrumbs"situation,it will mess with your head badly. Had the same thing myself for almost 5 months!She was the dumper. Days/nights out,cooking meals for me,hugs and kisses,still seeing her family,even a w/e away camping sharing a double air bed-platonic only sadly lol She knew I still loved her,I will probably never know her true reasons for keeping this going. It is by no means too late to go NC,and I cannot stress enough how important this is! As many other people here have said,if she wants you back nothing will stop her.
Author Benneo Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Hi regret, thx for the advice, ur right, it's really messing up with my head and my life too, I'll not contact her till this fri when I actually will be meeting her since I've promised it, and well, I'm thinking what if she asked me out for another meeting next week, should I accept?
Regrets58 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Hi Benneo, Sorry this is so hard I know from experience. It is so tempting to see them again but you must resist somehow. Just because you promised to meet her on Friday,doesn't have to happen.If you do see her,explain clearly that you need to break contact. After almost 5 months of false hope,my ex ended up with someone else! Don't let this happen to you.
Author Benneo Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 I get what you mean, I'll still try and see how it goes on Friday, if not I'll heed ur advice.. Thanks a lot man!
J.bunny Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Im in a similar situation minus the meeting up. He broke up with me and still texts me. I completely understand why you are wanting to give this everything you can. I know in my situation I feel if im still in his life, he won't forget about me and possibly want to get back together. But at the same time by still being in his life I'm not giving him the chance to miss me. At the end of the day, do what you feel is right for you but maybe don't expect too much and prepare yourself for the worst-that way it may not be as hard for you.
Samilia Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Hi, it's pretty much a confusing relationship and ima sum it up short. My gf n I just broke up like 3 weeks ago, so a few days after, I did wat most guys would have did which is to plead for a chance of getting back but it failed, she was cold towards me n said that her feelings ain't there anymore.. We've been keeping in touch thru msgs on some days and the week after that, I decided to call her asking her out for dinner n she agreed.. So at that dinner, we talked casually, she laughed quite abit n I wasn't sure if she's just treating me as a normal friend or wat, so after that for the next few days, she's been texting me asking bout some random stuffs n we texted.. Few days after, she asked me out for another dinner meeting, n I asked if we shud go for a movie as well n she agreed.. During that meeting, all is fine, n when I sent her home I even gave her a hug, although its a short hug, she dint reject, I was really happy that time n even when I reache home, she texted n asked if I reached home yet, maybe cause its late alr but at least it showed she cared isn't it? I was thinking she might still have feelings for me but a few days after when I called her all of a sudden at night, we chatted for like 10 mins asking her how's the weekend and stuffs, dunno y but it just ended up pretty dry just not like in the past when we talked.. So yest, I msged her for the whole day but it just seems like its just msging for the sake of msging kind, she will reply my msges but would take quite a while.. This fri we'll be meeting for another movie meeting, n right now I'm really confused as to how I m in her heart.. I dunno if I shud continue msging her everyday, cause that's wat I used to do when I first started dating her but somehow I dunno if by doing that, would it make me seem irritating or wat.. Need some advice on this.. Btw I regretted not going NC but I guess it's too late as I just realised this method only recently Thanks for reading my wall of post and advices given! That happened to me. My ex and I broke up, had a couple weeks apart, then starting hanging out. After those couple weeks I realized that the reasons why we had broken up were still here, nothing had changed. I would back off, create some distance between you and her, easy up on the messages.
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