Necromancer Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It has been a while since i meet a girl who had really good personality (outgoing, funny). Cute girls everywhere but good personality is rare. Why do gals have zero personalities nowdays?.. 1
Titanwolf Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Because modern dating is detrimental to the soul and negates any chance you have at becoming a well-rounded human being. That's my perspective anyway. Luckily, I avoided all that **** 1
Feelsgoodman Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It has been a while since i meet a girl who had really good personality (outgoing, funny). Cute girls everywhere but good personality is rare. Why do gals have zero personalities nowdays?.. Combine the stupefying effects of modern pop culture with the fact that a good personality is not necessary in the modern dating scene and you get a bunch of lame, boring drones. Personality is a social construct. You need a proper environment to cultivate its development. 1
USMCHokie Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 If a girl receives a lot of male attention early in her life with her physical attractiveness, it leaves little incentive for her to develop deeper personality traits. In fact, it would stand to reason that she'd be encouraged to become even more deeply engrossed in her appearance, as the external validation would lead her to believe thatphysical traits are the key to attraction. 2
espec10001 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Maybe it has to do with the fact that girls don't really find "Necromancers" that attractive to begin with...
KungFuJoe Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 If a girl receives a lot of male attention early in her life with her physical attractiveness, it leaves little incentive for her to develop deeper personality traits. In fact, it would stand to reason that she'd be encouraged to become even more deeply engrossed in her appearance, as the external validation would lead her to believe thatphysical traits are the key to attraction. You're a cool guy...but you could not be more wrong. This is just another case of the op projecting and overly generalizing. There are plenty of good looking women with great personalities. And there are plenty of not so good looking women with horrible personalities. Those so called good looking women with shallow personalities were shallow before they started getting attention.
StillReigning Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 If a girl receives a lot of male attention early in her life with her physical attractiveness, it leaves little incentive for her to develop deeper personality traits. In fact, it would stand to reason that she'd be encouraged to become even more deeply engrossed in her appearance, as the external validation would lead her to believe thatphysical traits are the key to attraction. Nonsense. I know good looking women who are teachers and doctors for god's sake Go to any good university and you'll find plenty of intelligent and attractive women
USMCHokie Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 This is just another case of the op projecting and overly generalizing. There are plenty of good looking women with great personalities. And there are plenty of not so good looking women with horrible personalities. Just as there are plenty of good looking women with horrible personalities and plenty of not-so-good looking women with great personalities. Your statement is as much a generalization as OP's generalization...each with its own merits and reasoning. My explanation merely speculates as to how the good looking ones lacking in personality might have come to be that way. Those so called good looking women with shallow personalities were shallow before they started getting attention. Eh, I'm not exactly convinced that people are born with their character traits...they are developed through their experiences, especially at a young age. If a girl in middle and high school, or even college, receives lots of male attention due to her looks, she is more apt to value physical appearance simply because it works. Have you ever noticed the over-sexualization of young female teenagers of this generation? How would you explain that, other than the increased value in physical appearance over personality...?
StillReigning Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Just as there are plenty of good looking women with horrible personalities and plenty of not-so-good looking women with great personalities. Your statement is as much a generalization as OP's generalization...each with its own merits and reasoning. My explanation merely speculates as to how the good looking ones lacking in personality might have come to be that way. I don't think that he was saying all hotties have great personality or that all ugly women have bad personality, he was just saying that appearance doesn't determine how good your personality is BTW, what is a good personality anyways? Are you looking for somebody who is very smart and academic oriented or just a pleasant individual with good social skills?
USMCHokie Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 ...he was just saying that appearance doesn't determine how good your personality is I'm not saying that appearance is determinative of personality either, but there is often a correlation. One may not cause the other, but the effect can still be associated with the attribute. For example, being Asian doesn't make you good at math, but Asians are often good at math. Same idea. BTW, what is a good personality anyways? Are you looking for somebody who is very smart and academic oriented or just a pleasant individual with good social skills? It depends on what you value in a person's personality. Some place higher value on academic achievement, while others place higher value in social skills.
KungFuJoe Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Just as there are plenty of good looking women with horrible personalities and plenty of not-so-good looking women with great personalities. Your statement is as much a generalization as OP's generalization...each with its own merits and reasoning. My explanation merely speculates as to how the good looking ones lacking in personality might have come to be that way. Eh, I'm not exactly convinced that people are born with their character traits...they are developed through their experiences, especially at a young age. If a girl in middle and high school, or even college, receives lots of male attention due to her looks, she is more apt to value physical appearance simply because it works. Have you ever noticed the over-sexualization of young female teenagers of this generation? How would you explain that, other than the increased value in physical appearance over personality...? Honestly, I don't think this generation is any less or more sexual than the past. I mean I think about all the stuff I was around when I was a kid. Kids in my grade school where having sex. An older girl (with "hair on her pussy" according to a classmate) tried to get me to do "things" to her when I was 10 or 11. When I was in jr high a friend of a girl who liked me literally said, "she likes your cock". I mean, wtf!?!? I didn't even know how to respond. I remember just laughing and walking away. I'm 38, btw, so we're talking early to mid 80s. I also have two daughters (5 and 7) so this is a subject that I've done a lot of thinking around in preparation for what I have to look forward to. Btw, I've already told both my daughters that they aren't allowed to date until they are married. Regarding personality, I believe you are mostly born a certain way. Certain aspects can be changed with environment, but for the most part, you are who you are. I think I'm an example of that as I definitely didn't turn out the way I "should" have. I will never say that I know how every person on the planet behaves, but from what I've seen my entire life, I place no correlation between how a woman looks and her personality.
Pyro Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It depends on what you value in a person's personality. Some place higher value on academic achievement, while others place higher value in social skills. Humor is definitely #1
USMCHokie Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Humor is definitely #1 Followed closely by career.
Pyro Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Followed closely by career. You sir understand logic well. 1
USMCHokie Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Honestly, I don't think this generation is any less or more sexual than the past. I mean I think about all the stuff I was around when I was a kid. Kids in my grade school where having sex. An older girl (with "hair on her pussy" according to a classmate) tried to get me to do "things" to her when I was 10 or 11. When I was in jr high a friend of a girl who liked me literally said, "she likes your cock". I mean, wtf!?!? I didn't even know how to respond. I remember just laughing and walking away. I'm 38, btw, so we're talking early to mid 80s. I also have two daughters (5 and 7) so this is a subject that I've done a lot of thinking around in preparation for what I have to look forward to. Btw, I've already told both my daughters that they aren't allowed to date until they are married. By over-sexualization, I meant the way they present themselves, e.g., dress (or lack thereof), makeup, etc. in addition to the sexual behaviors and acts you're talking about above. Nowadays, a 13 or 14 year old can easily look like she's 18+... Regarding personality, I believe you are mostly born a certain way. Certain aspects can be changed with environment, but for the most part, you are who you are. I think I'm an example of that as I definitely didn't turn out the way I "should" have. Yea, this is just one of those things we'll just have to agree to disagree on...
KungFuJoe Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 By over-sexualization, I meant the way they present themselves, e.g., dress (or lack thereof), makeup, etc. in addition to the sexual behaviors and acts you're talking about above. Nowadays, a 13 or 14 year old can easily look like she's 18+ I dunno...I honestly don't think it's changed all that much. I sometimes think that, as you get older and you mature, you tend to forget how things were when you were a kid.
Pompom Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Why bother showing or developing your inner values when the male seeker clicks the "Next" button on a dating site the moment an image of your "below standard" body is displayed? Honestly, girls nowadays ARE, by MALES, given the impression that personality isn't worth much if your ass is an inch too wide or your tits 2 inches too low or your nose not that of an anime character, and God forbid you fart. Women don't fart. Women don't poop. Women don't have gastro-intestinal rumbling noises. Women are pretty and the only noise they make is "Oooh yeeeeees". So excuse some of us for trying to fit into that stereotype so we can be accepted and losing touch with priorities. If men weren't taught to seek out cover girls, girls wouldn't feel taught to prioritize looks over personality. Personally I'm always wary of people who invest lots and lots of effort and fake stuff in their appearance when there's nothing truly wrong with it (severe scarring, deformities). Because let's face it, make-up is basically lying, and spending hours in the bathroom to enjoy a short outing, conveys messed up priorities (faking up your looks versus having fun). Doing these things are part of someone's personality, which is exactly why I won't ever date a guy from Jersey Shore or a fashion Emo. I tend toward the people who look and feel good and comfortable without much fake-up. They also tend to be the ones to make me feel at ease because a) they're not hiding much and b) they feel okay with that. *generalizing for brevity's sake
google_girl Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Do not agree.Many girls i know have good personality.But i am living in asian country.May be its different there.
Greznog Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It has been a while since i meet a girl who had really good personality (outgoing, funny). Cute girls everywhere but good personality is rare. Why do gals have zero personalities nowdays?.. Because attractive girls can afford to let their personalities stagnate the second their breasts start to develop. That used to happen somewhere mid-late teens. These days it starts at 9-10.
Pompom Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Because attractive girls can afford to let their personalities stagnate the second their breasts start to develop. And why do you think that is?
Emilia Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It has been a while since i meet a girl who had really good personality (outgoing, funny). Cute girls everywhere but good personality is rare. Why do gals have zero personalities nowdays?.. If I remember correctly you are 18 years old. How many people have fully developed personality/character in their teens? Not many I laugh when posters refer to 'modern dating' or 'nowdays' without any experience of what happened in the 'old days' By the way, as you will find out later in life, not many people have an interesting personality. A lot of women like talking about shopping and babies while a lot of men like talking about cars and football while not doing much with their lives. This is why a lot of them get married so that they don't have to do anything. You will always have a hard time finding outgoing types that do stuff out of the norm. 1
manup Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It's just modern post feminist culture. You can categorize most people and this seems to be more true for women in general. Just go to a dating site and you basically see the same profile over and over again. I can't tell you how many times I've read I'm unique and brutally honest or I'm reading a lot about feminist literature, my friends say I'm quirky now look at my hipster glasses I also curse like a ****ing sailor etc... 1
Radu Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It's just modern post feminist culture. You can categorize most people and this seems to be more true for women in general. Just go to a dating site and you basically see the same profile over and over again. I can't tell you how many times I've read I'm unique and brutally honest or I'm reading a lot about feminist literature, my friends say I'm quirky now look at my hipster glasses I also curse like a ****ing sailor etc... Or they flash their t*ts at you via pictures put online or sent via MMS because that 'empowers' them and makes them 'feminine'.
Dafa Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 i like my personality:love: Most people like their personalities. Not many people have interesting personalities though... I would even argue that people who find flaws in their personalities and hence not like them that much are much more interesting than the ones who are completely in love with themselves.
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