Silver Cloud Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Hello, I am new to this forum so I hope this is the right section for this dilemma. Two guys like me - they have been best friends for years, and are like brothers. I have history with one of the guys (let's call him Ted). A few years ago we kissed a few times. But then he pulled away and began ignoring me, which broke my heart. I remained good friends with his best friend (Roy), who I have hung out here and there for a couple of years with no hint of romance in the air. We both enjoy playing music and it's always been about that. A couple of weeks ago, I saw Ted out and he apologised to me, Explaining he went through a stage of depression, and he pulled away because I am a 'pure, genuine, nice girl' and he didn't want to bring me into his troubles. He still has troubles. We ended up kissing that night. That night, Roy had also invited me around to their house (they live together) to record some music. So the next day I went round and spent the week going there to record music - in Roy's room(a bad idea perhaps). Ted and I text a couple of times that week but nothing more, and he kept out of the way when Roy and I were recording music. Occasionally Ted would text Roy asking where the scissors were or something random whilst I was there. And sometimes he would knock to ask Roy where something was, but never came in. At the end of that week, Roy suddenly tells me he really likes me. Luckily I was going on holiday after that week, so I had 2 weeks to think how I was going to tell him I kissed Ted. When I returned home, Roy saw me out. We ended up talking and he said out of the blue "I know you kissed Ted by the way. He told me. And he asked me if I minded. I said no, because I don't have ownership over you as nothing has happened between us". He said he's fine with it because Ted and I have had history. But he contradicted himself by saying he felt a stab in his chest when Ted told him. He then tried to kiss me and hold my hand, but I rejected it. He asked me if I still liked Ted, and also whether I liked him. I told him I found the situation strange. I'm confused about how to go by this. Ted text me after I got back off holiday but he then didn't reply after a few days. Does Ted still like me? More importantly, why did he asked Roy if he minded? Is Ted planning on pursuing me... Or is he stating his ownership on me as a girl he won't have, and a girl Roy can't have. Is Roy not sharing the full story - is he fighting for his place, or has Ted given him permission to put himself forwards? I'd appreciate it if anyone could try to get an idea of what's going on between them, as I don't understand this from a guys point of view and I have never experienced this before. My plan was to perhaps not have romance with either of them and be a bit more distant for a while, because I don't want them to fall out, and I don't want to be 'that girl' who they end up pushing out. I still like Ted deep down, but his constant pulling away is hurtful. I enjoy Roy's company a lot, and we have a connection. But I find the fact that they are so close, too close for comfort. Roy has invited me round to finish the recordings but I'm nervous about how it will look. I don't want to appear as though I am ruffling my feathers in their faces so to speak.Should I pull back myself and give it time to settle down? Am I putting myself in a silly position going round there? I really want to record the music, and I enjoy his friendship. But at the same time I find the situation strange. Sorry for the long post, it may be trivial too. But I hope it makes a bit of sense. Looking forward to speaking to you all around here.
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