Inflikted Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Long story short: I've recently fallen for a girl I work with. At first, I tried to just let it go, because I felt like certain complications prevented me from dating. Then I decided to start working through said complications ASAP; I haven't quite done that yet, but my goal was to gather up some courage and ask her out when I worked with her this past Saturday. The day didn't go so well, though, and I ended up chickening out. I *almost* asked her, but... I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Now I find myself in an unfavorable position. Having looked at our work schedules, I don't see her again at work at all for the next two weeks... Which will probably be closer to 3-4 weeks, I'd bet. Well, unless I pop into work on my day off and hope she's not busy, or I hang around 30-60 minutes after my shift ends and try to "run into" her as she's coming in. So, I'm not sure where that leaves me. I hate that I didn't just pull the trigger, on Saturday... Even if she said no, it'd have been done and over with. Now I'm going to spend the next 2+ weeks dwelling on the situation, wondering if I'll have another chance to ask her out, wondering if I blew it... I just don't know what the answer is. I really like her a lot, and there have been a number of times when I thought she might like me a lot, too (but you can never be sure, yanno?). I don't want to "give up" on her, but I don't know what to do now. It could've been over right then and there, but instead, now I'm stuck in "limbo".
ChatroomHero Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 The fact that you are going to dwell on it for 2 weeks and a "potential" date has this much impact on you tells me you need to get in a better state of mind before you ask her out. I'd be afraid she'll smell the desperation on you and even if you did get the courage to ask her out it'd probably be really awkward at best. Settle down and put her out of your mind until you see her next and you won't be all "worked up" when you do try to ask her out. You have a great opportunity to step away and focus on something else for a couple of weeks. that way when you get your chance you can ask her out naturally and it won't be that awkward, pre-planned, "spontaneous" proposal you've probably been planning for months.
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