Made a awful decision 2 days ago i really regret it now need to vent

[Matt145]

Just been down today and need to vent before i go to bed otherwise i wont sleep. When me and my ex was together she kissed a guy behind my back, she didnt tell me nothing about him or who he was or his name so i didnt know who he was. But about 2 weeks after we split up she was speaking to this guy while we was talking and ment to be getting back together ( i didnt know at the time), even when i asked her who he was 2 weeks after we split up she said she didnt know. I also found out she kissed this guy again and she always talks to him. I found all this out friday, so i went ape **** at first and my mate strongly advised me not to say anything to her. But i woke up saturday morning and i called her and pretty much called her a ****ing liar and i told her she has no respect for me, because she lied to me about who he was she said she didnt know him when she was talking to him! So she went ape **** back at me, calling me jelous ect telling me to mind my own buisness she pretty much owned me she is a stubborn bitch and she could argue all night so i just let her win. She then said she was thinking about getting back together but she said she changed her mind after i called her calling her a liar and went mad on her, which to this minute i think was a mind game because shes always playing them but i dont know:confused: because on thursday she told me she was confused and didnt know what she wanted, but she also said that she didnt want to get back together.

 

She then calmed down and apologised to me ( she said some nasty things which hurt ), and we went back into NC. But then the next day i had to contact her! My ****ing cousin commented on a photo of her with a guy on facebook saying is " i guess this is your new boyfriend " she texted me asking me why my cousin was being funny with her and i sorted it all out and i made my cousin message her to tell her she wasnt being funny she was just wondering. So then my ex texted me saying " why did you tell your cousin i said she was being funny with me!! " I messaged her back and she didnt reply i guess she didnt have too. So now im a day into NC, i feel kinda weak at the minute. I just wish i never said anything all ive thought about all day is getting back with my ex and thinking about last winter and how good it was with her now that winter is coming upon us:(. I know shes a liar and a cheat and i dont need her atall! And the wrong decision would be to get back with her, but im just so lonely without her after this weekend. She just confuses me so much shes hot and cold she doesnt know what she wants! Id rarther get told to **** off and that she never wants to speak to me again, atleast then i know ive got no chance. But im blanking her now completly unless shes begging me for a relationship telling me how great i am and how sorry she is. What do you guys think?

Edited August 27, 2012 by Matt145

[danderson3]

Bro you deserve way better than that in a relationship!

 

You shouldn't stay with anyone if they cheated on you, they have no respect for you and I doubt they ever will. What's that saying 'once a cheater always a cheater', i'm sure mistakes happen but the trust is gone.

 

It hurts but she will probably try and string you along as a back up guy, because she obviously knows she has you in the palm of her hand. If things don't work out with this other guy (which they most likely won't), she'll come straight back for the confidence boost she can get from you. DONT BE THAT GUY.

 

I know its extremely hard!! but man adopt a no contact policy with her, no texts, no e-mails, no calls, no facebook stalking (delete her is you have the strength). This will do you a world of good even though it's a little tough at first, plus it shows her your a man and moving on. A person like her would hate that and it really is the best revenge.

[Matt145]

Bro you deserve way better than that in a relationship!

 

You shouldn't stay with anyone if they cheated on you, they have no respect for you and I doubt they ever will. What's that saying 'once a cheater always a cheater', i'm sure mistakes happen but the trust is gone.

 

It hurts but she will probably try and string you along as a back up guy, because she obviously knows she has you in the palm of her hand. If things don't work out with this other guy (which they most likely won't), she'll come straight back for the confidence boost she can get from you. DONT BE THAT GUY.

 

I know its extremely hard!! but man adopt a no contact policy with her, no texts, no e-mails, no calls, no facebook stalking (delete her is you have the strength). This will do you a world of good even though it's a little tough at first, plus it shows her your a man and moving on. A person like her would hate that and it really is the best revenge.

 

Hey danderson thanks for the reply. I dont have her on facebook anymore and i never call or text her its always her who does it to me. Im blanking her completly from now on when i blank her she goes ape **** haha so it will be funny when i do it next time.

[soccerrprp]

Yeah, you do deserve better, but it also sounds like you would have headed for a volatile future together.

[Matt145]

Yeah, you do deserve better, but it also sounds like you would have headed for a volatile future together.

 

Yeah your right mate