Paige1377 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 So my ex husband and I have been split up for 14 months. Our history shows how things have changed and things are better for both of us. We have a two year old together and he kicked us out for another woman. I am in a committed relationship and I felt I was over my ex but lately I have thought about him more. I know he's dating the other woman , has been for a year and he said our split was the best thing for both of us even though I was against it. I am happy, but why do I miss him? I am trying to be decent bc of our daughter but it's hard bc I still love him...I had loved him for six years... So...anyone felt like this? We have custody and child support set but I miss him...especially since I see him once a month...it reminds me of the betrayal and how long I loved him and gave him out daughter. I don't want him back bc I could never trust him and he's made it extremely clear he's happy with this other woman. My friends have told me she's a rebound but it's been a year...I don't think rebounds last that long. I am moving on as much as I can...however I just things would be easier for our daughter sometimes if it was not like this. Any parents out there that have split feel like this? I have changed a lot in a year...lost weight....gained confidence and can stand on my own two feet. The rejection is what bothers me...like I was not good enough...which I am...thoughts???
Jamesblame Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 It's only 50% your fault. Forgive yourself for what you did and forgive him. It'll make you feel a bit better. There's nothing wrong with loving an ex. I think we all have one person that we used to be with, and now who we just have residual love. I love my ex, and want her to be nothing but happy. I am still a bit angry at her though. I don't think it would work out, and I am pursuing another relationship. Losing your spouse means losing a great many things about your life. Your friends, his family, some friends, the home you shared, your futures and shared memories. There are a lot of things to grieve for. But you'll slowly get over each one. The past will always be in the past regardless of whether or not you were still together with him. His friends and family are still there...and if you really wanted to you could attempt to communicate with them. Let yourself love him, but know that it's best to move on. That's what I did, and am much happier than when I tried to deny that didn't feel bad about what happened between my ex and I.
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