joystickd Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Well I turn 30 today. I have been a little frustrated lately because in my area I don't find any woman that I want to have more with than just have sex. Hell if you get out here and open your mouth its easy to find one to hump but its seems harder and harder to find one for me to be in a relationship with. I have only one dealbreaker and that is I don't want a woman that has kids. I live in a small town rural area and it seems like they all have a kid. I meet one get to know her and then she comes out saying I have a kid. I think well I will just f**k her a few times. I just don't want the potential drama of those types of situations. I prefer to be with someone and we get married and we have kids. I'm not looking for an already made family. I figured I may take a break to figure out why these baby mommas are attracted to me.
carhill Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Sometimes a break is healthy. You offer a 'baby momma' security and genuine interest in a complete relationship. That can be attractive. IMO, much of this has to do with geography and demographics. I've lived in a similar area my entire life and, post early-mid 20's, most people were married with children. Most of the women I've known and dated had their kids between 17 and 25. Nature of the beast that is rural and small-town, IME, having traveled a fair amount. What I ran into is a double-edged sword....women from more populous areas can/do find 'country boys' to be attractive, but few of them (my exW included) want to give up their more complex and exciting lifestyles for the slower paced/less complex life in the country. It's a nice place to visit but they don't want to live there. Hence, a choice must be made. I tried that in my M, buying a house in town and commuting, but the M was too far gone at that point for the choice to make a difference. Now, when I entertain potentials, based on this, I rule out big city ladies unless they clearly express the desire for a slower paced life. In my age demographic, such single examples are few and far between so I generally don't date or attempt to date anymore, rather take a more permanent 'break' and enjoy the other bounty which life offers. Try it (a break) and see what happens. Maybe you'll want to relocate. That's an option too. 1
Author joystickd Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Sometimes a break is healthy. You offer a 'baby momma' security and genuine interest in a complete relationship. That can be attractive. IMO, much of this has to do with geography and demographics. I've lived in a similar area my entire life and, post early-mid 20's, most people were married with children. Most of the women I've known and dated had their kids between 17 and 25. Nature of the beast that is rural and small-town, IME, having traveled a fair amount. What I ran into is a double-edged sword....women from more populous areas can/do find 'country boys' to be attractive, but few of them (my exW included) want to give up their more complex and exciting lifestyles for the slower paced/less complex life in the country. It's a nice place to visit but they don't want to live there. Hence, a choice must be made. I tried that in my M, buying a house in town and commuting, but the M was too far gone at that point for the choice to make a difference. Now, when I entertain potentials, based on this, I rule out big city ladies unless they clearly express the desire for a slower paced life. In my age demographic, such single examples are few and far between so I generally don't date or attempt to date anymore, rather take a more permanent 'break' and enjoy the other bounty which life offers. Try it (a break) and see what happens. Maybe you'll want to relocate. That's an option too. I wish I could relocate but I help with my family.
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