OleBlue Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Hi, I'm just getting into talking to a woman with kids and I'm wondering how soon is too soon to meet her kids? She wanted me to meet them 2 days into us talking.. I don't mind, but I have read that it's good to wait awhile in most cases so that you know if things don't work out the kid(s) aren't having someone come in/out of their life. I didn't meet her kids, but should I tell her I would rather wait awhile to meet them? I'm thinking, yes, but then I wonder if she'll worry about me thinking of "flaking" if I used the excuse that I don't want to in case things don't work out so it doesn't effect her kids..
wow04 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I didn't introduce my boyfriend to my kids until I knew he was going to be around. I waited until I knew it could go somewhere. In my opinion 2 days into talking is way to soon. Not sure why she would introduce you so soon.
Greznog Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Any time is too soon, unless you want to be a surrogate parent. Two days = I need someone to make cash dollar payments to support my children so I'll use their adorable faces to extract money from you.
fucpcg Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 My ex brought her kids on date 2. Bad idea. My ex turned out to be not so stable emotionally, and as quick as she was to bring them in, she was as quick to exit with them when she decided she didn't want the relationship any longer. Unfortunately it was after a year of dating, and after I was extremely attached to her 3 children. She refused to have any relationship with me after the break, and when I asked about seeing her children, she told me I never took an interest in them so they were none of my business. Never took an interest in them?? Those 3 children were glued to my side the year that we dated. A woman who would bring their children into the life of a man they just met, that's the sign of a woman who probably has some personal issues, I have learned. The whole thing ended terrible and was quite the heart break for me.
CarrieT Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 My BF wanted to wait a full six months before I met his kids. However, Christmas came around and I was catering his office Christmas party so he agreed they could come there and I was introduced to them three months into our dating. I didn't become more prominent in their lives for several more months - spending an occasional weekend day with them until six months. They have known me for eight months now and I'm still not "sleeping over" with my BF while they are there, although that is coming soon, to prepare me to move in with them early next year.
rocketman122 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I have much experience in this because I date/d a lot of divorced mothers. I had woman who let me sleep over on the 2nd date and I met the children. I also met another ones daughter after the 2nd date. another one after 2 months. the first 2 were way too soon. I didnt want to because its not good for the kids. but that was then..now I demand we wait. Im currently dating someone for about a year..on and off. she has yet to introduce me to her kids. while im disappointed, im also afraid to meet them. but they know who I am, have seen pics of me. the mother talks about me, but havent yet. I met her brothers but not them. if your relationship is stable, a good time is around 3-5 months. usually at this time you can see a different side to the person when they feel comfortable with you and that gives you time to access the relationship and if you want to continue.
Radu Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Hi, I'm just getting into talking to a woman with kids and I'm wondering how soon is too soon to meet her kids? She wanted me to meet them 2 days into us talking.. I don't mind, but I have read that it's good to wait awhile in most cases so that you know if things don't work out the kid(s) aren't having someone come in/out of their life. I didn't meet her kids, but should I tell her I would rather wait awhile to meet them? I'm thinking, yes, but then I wonder if she'll worry about me thinking of "flaking" if I used the excuse that I don't want to in case things don't work out so it doesn't effect her kids.. Take this as a test. Any single mother [good mother] will want to wait to make sure you stick around, to not hurt the kids when/if you depart. 6months is the general trend.
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