kourix Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 so i've been going to and fro with this guy and i made my decision to leave us in the past. so i started lying, saying i found someone else and stopped contacting him. prior to this, we would meet every week and hang out, like a couple. he was starting to introduce me to friends too but he always maintained that i was simply: - someone he was using because he's the loneliest guy on earth, and i was the best he found (also the reason for why he kept contacting me the few times after NC) - the only person who made him feel sane when he felt the world driving him crazy (his "life buoy") the whole time, he maintained he had no feelings at all towards me. i admittedly had feelings, and he knew it. i had no choice, i couldn't live like this anymore, never knowing when he might meet someone better than me and 'dump' me. so i stopped contacting him and a few days later he texted and said "oh so you've forgotten about me ever since you found someone! okay haha but i still want my stuff back...", i told him i was going to send some of his stuff i borrowed back to him. he got upset, and said he did't understand why i was being that way when we're such "close friends". i told him we're not and i care about him but he never appreciates me anyway and he replied "ok be happy bye". we've been NC since. also, i told him it had nothing to do with the new person but he probably hates me now for abandoning him, especially since he told me everyone always leaves him. anyway, i made up my mind to send his stuff back. i don't think he really thinks i'd send it, but i think that's the right thing to do. he never even gave me his address but i have it from our flight itinerary in the past, so i'm just gonna do it. initially, i planned on writing a letter to him in the box, but after sleeping on it for a few days, i've decided against it. NC isn't for getting him back. it's to move on, and even though i've got lots to say, i don't see the point... he's never fought for me to stay. so i was just thinking of writing a note that goes: "hello! here's your tee-shirt and brolly back, i hope they got to you safely just in time too, since the rainy season is upon us. thank you for letting me borrow them, especially the umbrella, the button thing is awesome! the i realised, no wonder - it's pierre cardin! anyway, thanks again for everything and take care of yourself. xoxo **** --------- is this too cheesy? esp the "thanks again for everything" part, i don't know if i should be thanking him twice, but i just wanted to "thank" him for all the good times we've had in a way... we've just always been lame with each other, and i know we're cutting each other out of lives but... i don't want to sound so cold. he did make me happy. also it sounds bimbotic but i really liked his umbrella, it's automatic and very handy haha
lil hoodlum Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Forget the note. Just send the stuff back. Sending the not will just leave a door open for him to contact you. Good luck!
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