Want to date my private teacher (complicated)

[maor235]

Hi,

 

I am 25 years old.

 

Recently I started to take private lessons on dancing with some girl (she is 22 years old but she is professional on her field).

 

 

I took only 2 lessons and started to have feelings for her.

She is realy beautiful, she doesn't have a boyfriend.

She is very nice to me.

 

The problem that every private teacher you take can be nice to you.

I must say that there are lots of touching because this is dancing and some time what I think is a clue from her is just a regular teaching.

Our relationship in the lessons are very good, there is good chemistry.

 

I want to date with her but I don't know how to do it on the right way:

 

1) I thought to stop the lessons completely and ask her if she want to go out some time but then she will think I came to learn with her only because I wanted to date her so I am afraid she will get offensive.

 

2) I thought maybe after the lesson to ask her if she want to go some time but then there are two options:

a) She say yes and it will be great.

b) She say no, and then every lesson will be occured.

 

 

This is complicated situation, I wanted to ask for your suggestions what is the right way to ask her out.

 

Thanks

[TaraMaiden]

 

1) I thought to stop the lessons completely and ask her if she want to go out some time but then she will think I came to learn with her only because I wanted to date her so I am afraid she will get offensive....

 

I think this is your best option:

 

Tell her you love your lessons, but you're going to stop, because you'd like to ask her out, and you don't want her to think that these lessons are a false pretence.

You really like her, but the reason you wanted lessons - is because you wanted lessons!

You don't want her to think you're coming on to her, and if she says no, than that's fine.

 

Would she agree to carry on teaching, or is there a way round this?

 

Be honest.

Be frank, open and pleasant.

[maor235]

Thanks for your quick respond.

 

 

I remember that I read some articles that wrote that this is not good to be straightforward with a girl.

If I will tell her like that, will it be too straightforward ?

I am not sure if I need to stop the lessons and then call her after a week and ask her to go out or in the same lessons that I tell her that I will stop to ask her out.

[TaraMaiden]

Oh really?

'Some articles'...?

 

In my experience, women don't like bull****.

Tell her you are in a quandary....

[Tiera D]

when practice is over or resting,sit next to her,and talk about anything and make her smile it could be a joke or guessing game,then when shes smiling go tell her you want ask her out maybe lunch?putting on a shy boy expression.no matter whats her response just keep your composure

 

The above tip works 4 me every single time

 

TD

[maor235]

Thanks!

 

I will try that.

I just afraid that if she will refuse, it will be occured on the next practice