SweetVixen07 Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 These questions may seem insignificant but I'm just curious how other girls handle themselves on the 1st date... What are the best places for the first date? Should whomever asked for the date, have to pay? If you( a girl) and your date (a guy) are at the movies, should the guy be allowed to put his arm around you? Or is that completely off limits? If you and your date are watching a horror flick...should you hide your face on his shoulder or is that just too girly? (Even if you not all that scared... it's just a tactic to make the guy feel good esp. if you like him) Is it okay to hold hands or locking arms? If the date went really well...do you kiss the guy on the cheek followed by a hug or just have a full blown make out session? If the date is horrible...what is the best way to let your date know?
Mr Spock Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 All of that sounds OK. If I liked the guy, I would let him pay for my movie if he had asked me out. If I wasn't sure, I'd pay for myself. Just go with the flow. If he asks you out again and you are repulsed by him, simply say "No thank you"
dyermaker Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Originally posted by SweetVixen07 Should whomever asked for the date, have to pay? The girl shouldn't have to pay. Some will disagree with me, but that's just how I feel. If a boy pays for your movie ticket, offer to buy your own food/snack/drink maybe, if you're feeling especially liberated or something. If you( a girl) and your date (a guy) are at the movies, should the guy be allowed to put his arm around you? Yes. Or is that completely off limits? See, that's the thing, you establish limits based on what you're comfortable with. Don't forbid it for the sake of adhering to rules or formulas though. If you and your date are watching a horror flick...should you hide your face on his shoulder or is that just too girly? (Even if you not all that scared... it's just a tactic to make the guy feel good esp. if you like him) I doubt you'd be able to pull it off without him seeing through it, but if you wanna give it a shot, it's not like he'd be put off. Is it okay to hold hands or locking arms? Yeah. If the date went really well...do you kiss the guy on the cheek followed by a hug or just have a full blown make out session? Yeah, again, it's whatever you're comfortable with. If the date is horrible...what is the best way to let your date know? Don't make plans in the future.
faux Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Originally posted by SweetVixen07 These questions may seem insignificant but I'm just curious how other girls handle themselves on the 1st date... What are the best places for the first date? In my experiences, somewhere that the two of you can talk. Movies I do not think are that great. I like to go on walks, talk over coffee (or whatever the others person may drink, if she dislikes coffee), or spend a day in the park. On the first date, I really want to begin to get to know someone, and conversation is how I do that. Should whomever asked for the date, have to pay? Dates do not have to involve spending any money. Some of my more memorable dates involved not one dime being spent. I do not think that if I ask someone out on a date, that I should automatically be required to spend any money on the date. What is wrong with both people paying their own way? Especially since it is the first date, to me it does not make sense to pay for everything right away. People have to work their way up to something like that with me. I think discussing payment beforehand is the best way to go, as everyone views this differently. Instead of guessing, plan it ahead of time. If you( a girl) and your date (a guy) are at the movies, should the guy be allowed to put his arm around you? Or is that completely off limits? I am a guy, but I think this response is still valid: If you are comfortable with him putting his arm around you, then that is fine. If you are not comfortable, then no it is not fine. I do not think a movie would be a good first date, however. Whenever you are alone with someone, you have your own limits. It is up to you alone to determine how comfortable you feel with your date doing something. If you and your date are watching a horror flick...should you hide your face on his shoulder or is that just too girly? (Even if you not all that scared... it's just a tactic to make the guy feel good esp. if you like him) If you like someone, why play such useless games to "make him feel good"? If I was at a horror flick with a girl and she did that, I'd simply think she was scared, and would never even suspect she did that because she liked me. If you like him, put your arm around him or reach to hold his hand. If you're honestly scared, well, do whatever comes naturally in that situation. Is it okay to hold hands or locking arms? If it is okay with you, then it is okay. Again, you have to set your own limits based on how comfortable you feel with the person, the place, and the rest of the situation. There are no universal rules to dating that I have ever seen work. If the date went really well...do you kiss the guy on the cheek followed by a hug or just have a full blown make out session? Again, this is entirely up to YOU alone. Nobody else should tell you what you should do in such situations. If you want to give a small kiss on the cheek, then do so. If you feel comfortable enough to make out, then do so. If the date is horrible...what is the best way to let your date know? Tell your date bluntly. Sparing people's feelings usually does not get the point across, especially if you are a woman speaking to a man. We tend not to get the idea unless you are brutally honest with us. It would probably be wise, in such a situation, to specifically inform your date that you have no intention of going on any more dates with him.
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