roan131 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Hey guys, My girlfriend just went to college. I'm having a lot of trouble with this... She's a freshman in college so I know she's going to be experiencing new things, but I'm worried. She hasn't been messaging me as much lately, and when she does she's not as engaged in the conversation. I know she likes me a lot..but I'm just afraid she's losing her feelings for me. How can I tell when/if she is? How can I keep her feelings for me? I'm afraid of smothering her because I know that's going to make her annoyed at me and make her lose her feelings... I was wondering if I should open up to her about my worries/problems? Would that seem like a bad idea? I want to talk to her about how much I care for her, my fears about her losing her feelings for me because of the distance, and a couple other things that I'm forgetting to mention right now...
mortensorchid Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Well, if that is the case that you are feeling that she is drifting away, then you should tell her this. She is away at college. For those of you who have never had this experience, it is a very liberating one. You are on your own for the first time, you are meeting a lot of new people, and you are making a major lifestyle adjustment - you can and will do whatever you want without ANYONE (in particular, parents) telling you you can't. That includes old friend relationships. So I would ask your gf to call or contact you somehow at least once a week and then you will have your contact. If you really REALLY feel that she is slipping away, then tell her this. And if she does slip away, remember that you are both very young and you have a lot of learning and living to do on both of your parts. You will not be the same person you both are at this moment in a few years' time. Don't believe me? It happens. I went through that with my hs sweetheart. He was away at college for 2 years before I too went (as we were 2 years apart in hs). Once I also went away, we realized that this was not meant to be and we split the following summer. I did regret that we did not make a go of it, but I would not have learned all the things I have and experienced all the good and bad had we stayed together. Think on this one for a bit.
Author roan131 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Ok so I thought that I should be honest as well; what made me post on this forum was because one of my friends told me that if I was honest with her about this then she would think that I was too dependent on her and that would end up driving us apart. Is this true?
Author roan131 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Oh, and thanks for the reply I think I'm going to talk to her before I decide anything
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