sunlover Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 What kind of guy cheats two weeks before he visits his LDR fiance??
cerridwen Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Wow! That's horrible! Do you know the other person? Did he admit it to you? Were there signs? You don't have to talk about it but should you choose to, those are the questions I had. Worst. Nightmare. I'm so sorry this happened to you. 1
Author sunlover Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 No I dont know her. He told me after we were intimate.
justwhoiam Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 No I dont know her. He told me after we were intimate. Intimate on the phone? He probably was very horny. Did you ask him how he liked it? If he would do it again? And most of all, were you having an open relationship?
Author sunlover Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 We were physically intimate. Then he mentions a fiance and hes going to visit hern. Of course he was horny, but we were friends too. Just scummy. Who would want to marry this man?
LovinCousins Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I say you inform the fiance about her future husband:(. I can't even look at another girl even months apart from my fiance. This poor woman might never know the man she's going to marry if you don't tell her.
Author sunlover Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Well for one, i dont know her. Also, i dont think i can do that. Id rather gim have the guilt & decide what to do with it. Who knows, she might be silly enough to still want to marry .
justwhoiam Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Oh, I got it all wrong. I guess you were the cheated gf. Well, he might have an agreement with her gf. Who knows. I've read such things on here.
Author sunlover Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Ive never heard of a fiance situation where its ok to be physical with soneone else
justwhoiam Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Surf around here. Apparently, in several LDRs, one of the two suggests scratching one's itch...
Author sunlover Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 haha, what?? whats your situation btw?
bluegreen Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 He is a dog no question about it he got horny and "used you" cheated on her But how did you got yourself in this situation without making sure he was free and single for sure ? Am sorry to say this since am sure you feel like c... already but no one ever does anything bad without paying price for it let this be a lesson to you for next time "ask" verify and then proceed with caution. Seems extreme I know but world has become very ugly place and people are more bad by day if you don't protect yourself who will what if you have gotten pregnant have you thought of that he is engaged who do you think he would have chosen ? Sex is fun we all get that but consequences are anything but what if he had some sexual disease have you got him tested did you got yourself later ?
Author sunlover Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 im smart and used protection! haha... absolutely. it's not about who he will choose... i don't want him. just blows my mind that someone out there would do this to someone he """""""""loves"""""""""
bluegreen Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Doll if it did not "bother" you it would not end up here its OK to admit you are hurt it happens to best of us no one here is judging you and we all carry our own share of s.... believe me. Good am glad you did : ))) do what you have to do to get that behind you and then forget it and let "her" worry about who what when and why next time will cause him to cheat ...
Live'nLearn Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I'm sorry that happened to you. I had a BF who did the something similar to me. You should cut your ties with him asap. It's hard, I know, but he's just going to continue to cause you pain. Write it off as a learning experience and find someone more worthy.
justwhoiam Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I'm sorry that happened to you. I had a BF who did the something similar to me. You should cut your ties with him asap. It's hard' date=' I know, but he's just going to continue to cause you pain. Write it off as a learning experience and find someone more worthy.[/quote'] I guess you got it wrong too. She couldn't care less about the guy. She was just puzzled about being f---ed by a guy who has a gf.
justwhoiam Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 haha, what?? whats your situation btw? Yeah. Read threads in this forum. It's not my case. I'd never suggest that. I'm too jealous. And I'm afraid the solution wouldn't work for him anyway, in my case. im smart and used protection! If I were you, I'd never be so blatantly sure about such things. No BC is 100% sure. Odds are always there. Keep that in mind for good measure.
Author sunlover Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 I cant believe there are folks out there in an engagement but say, hey its ok to be physical with people, or the same person until we find a way to be together. Ugh bo way. Either break it off or stay faithful. Justwhoiam, wheres your man?
justwhoiam Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I cant believe there are folks out there in an engagement but say, hey its ok to be physical with people, or the same person until we find a way to be together. Ugh bo way. Either break it off or stay faithful. That's nothing... Guess when they are married... Justwhoiam, wheres your man? East Coast.
Author sunlover Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Yea I guess engagement and marriage are different for some. Not for ne! East coast...and youre where? Do you get to see him often? LDRs seem so tough
HeavenOrHell Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It's ok if both people have decided together they'll have an open r/ship, have other partners, but sneaking around deceiving is something else, ugh. I cant believe there are folks out there in an engagement but say, hey its ok to be physical with people, or the same person until we find a way to be together. Ugh bo way. Either break it off or stay faithful. Justwhoiam, wheres your man? 2
justwhoiam Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 and youre where? Europe. Do you get to see him often? No. But soon.
Author sunlover Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Well thats good! Do you get to travel or does he? What did you mean that it wouldnt work for him in your situation?
justwhoiam Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Well thats good! Do you get to travel or does he? He travelled to Europe. Now I'll travel to the US. What did you mean that it wouldnt work for him in your situation? I don't think he could have sex with random women he's not in love with.
bluegreen Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 I was once told by reformed player that man has to have "some" interest in woman to have sex with her she may be smart or pretty or have great sense of humor but she has to has something even man are not that much of a pigs to go for nothing f... then get up and leave.
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