brand564 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Hey everyone first time poster. I met my wife while I was stationed in Oklahoma and we were really great friends. We married in 2008 and had our first kid in 2009. We moved about 5 times and ended up in Indiana near my family. Our relationship had always been up and down but whos isnt these days. Couple weeks ago I got a call from her lawyer stating she wanted dissoultion of marriage and I was just completly crushed. Im trying not to show it and I just keep thinking about her and having dreams about things and cant get her outta my head. I cant say that maybe she feels this way but its very hard for me to let go. Plus having two kids that need me to be 100% for them when I see them as well. I honestly just wish this was all a bad dream and I could wake up. At the moment I am just trying to fill a void with trying to meet women and things like that but thats not helping either. I live in Lafayette, In if anyone else near me is going through same thing let me know, I could use the help/advice right about now .
JD1977 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 That sucks how she handled it. I can't imagine not having the guts to address my spouse myself. Unfortunately, it sounds like her mind is made up. Could there be OM? My only advice would be to try to fill the void by spending time with your kids or friends rather than with other woman. It may feel better now, but I doubt it will help you long term.
carhill Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I could use the help/advice right about now . Sure, file ahead of her so you can make motions to the court for what you want and she's forced to respond. With that hammer in place, then request mediation. Regardless, don't concern yourself about anything but surviving this with as little monetary and emotional loss as possible. Job #1. Everything else is secondary. Fuggetabout meeting other women. Do you really think that's fair to/ healthy for them? Since you didn't mention children, it should go fast, especially if she's done. Fast track it, get healthy and then date other ladies. Good luck and welcome to LS
Author brand564 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 I honestly dont even want to think about if there was OM. If I knew I would go off the deep end. As far as filling void with someone else, I think its more of just a moving on process , yes its only been a short time. My kids atm I only see them 4 times every two weeks and 2 of those days are for 3 hours so Im just real lonely atm. That sucks how she handled it. I can't imagine not having the guts to address my spouse myself. Unfortunately, it sounds like her mind is made up. Could there be OM? My only advice would be to try to fill the void by spending time with your kids or friends rather than with other woman. It may feel better now, but I doubt it will help you long term.
Author brand564 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 She had filed ahead and I got the mediation to go through thanks to the judge. Sure, file ahead of her so you can make motions to the court for what you want and she's forced to respond. With that hammer in place, then request mediation. Regardless, don't concern yourself about anything but surviving this with as little monetary and emotional loss as possible. Job #1. Everything else is secondary. Fuggetabout meeting other women. Do you really think that's fair to/ healthy for them? Since you didn't mention children, it should go fast, especially if she's done. Fast track it, get healthy and then date other ladies. Good luck and welcome to LS
UWWYellowbaby Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 If only it could be a bad dream to wake up from. If you figure out how to do it, let me in. I don't want to be in the scenario I'm in right now either. I hope that maybe if you talk to her, she could air her grievances and maybe you guys could have a good talk and see if it can go from there. Good luck.
Author brand564 Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 doubtful she completely hates me and I dont know what to think we been together for around 5 years total and I dont know if I believe that she doesnt have any feelings left for me.
UpwardForward Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 doubtful she completely hates me and I dont know what to think we been together for around 5 years total and I dont know if I believe that she doesnt have any feelings left for me. You must have an idea of why you think she hates you. Why do you think she filed?
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