reallyupset Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 (edited) So I come to you guys/girls, heart in hand trying to figure out what the hell happened. My girlfriend of 3 years, left me last monday. Not just a normal breakup. She was visting friends up north (We recently moved here from her home town 6 months ago). While she was away she was texting me as normal. Sending me pictures of her friends newborn baby, saying she loved me. The day she was supposed to fly home, her parents and a police officer showed up at my door. They had a protection order and wanted to get her stuff. They told me she was moving back home with her parents in California. The protection order said, I made threats to kill her, and was verbally abusive. None of it was true. When I asked her dad why this was happening he told me she feels unsafe here. It was TOTAL BS! I never once laid a hand on her. She never felt unsafe with me. Since then, my cable/internet has been shut off, our joint account frozen, she turned off my cell phone and her father called the landlord requesting she be removed from the lease as she has the protection order and feels unsafe. In fact a few days before this all happened she kept texting me to deposit money in our checking account. She was going to completely drain the account!! I was an idiot, and never put the utlities in BOTH of our names. She closed her facebook account, created another one. I of course have not made any attempt to contact either her or her family. I'm extremely confused because in my mind everything was normal. In most relationships one loves more than the other. Well she loved me more. She showered me with gifts. Would constantly say I loved her, and if I didn't respond get annoyed. In fact when we first met I just wanted to be friends. She was living with her parents. She pushed herself into my life. This whole thing was out of character. This had to have been planned weeks in advance. Everyone was in on it but me. The only things that were not 100 percent: -She wanted to get married and have kids. I told her that was not something I was ready for yet. -Since we had not been living here that long, she never got to develop many friendships, and missed her family who lives 6 hours away. -She was very insecure, and often accused me of cheating on her. -I was sometimes mean to her about her weight. Telling her to workout with me more, and her being healthy was important to me. I AM COMPLETELY DUMBFOUNDED. Never once did she mention she was unhappy with out relationship, other than what I stated above. This is not the type of person who would just pick up and leave without saying anything. She constantly had to tell me what was on her mind. We were friends before anything else. I feel so betrayed. Not only am I not allowed to contact her, she wouldn't even be able to contact me since disconnecting my cell phone. What the hell happened? All I can think of, is maybe she convinced herself I was cheating on her. It appears she's trying to ruin my life. Why go to these extremes? Edited August 27, 2012 by reallyupset
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