zanesfan Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 (edited) This guy I met on POF took me out on a date. For the second "date" he had a cookout with friends and invited me and my friend over. Beforehand, he told me I know how my friends are. Do not flirt with them and give them your number. I assured him that I would never do that. A few weeks/dates go by and we finally hop in the sack (like yesterday). I get to the party and all is well. Two days later, he tells me one of his friends like me (which I have no desire for this gentleman). That took me off guard, so I asked him what did he tell the guy. He said that we were cool. Two weeks later (today) his friend hits me up on Facebook. I immediately tell my guy and he said, "Oh yeah, he just called me. He really wants you. I told him we were hanging out." Im confused. I feel like either (a) we are not serious enough for him to make dibs on me (b) he doesnt really care or © he is insecure. I asked him did he get the point across to his friend, otherwise he wouldnt befriend/message me on fb. What gives? Edited August 26, 2012 by zanesfan
Kofybean Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Is this a serious question? Google "it aint no fun" and "snoop dogg" Listen to that song. Come back if you still dont get whats happening. 1
SmileFace Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Is this a serious question? Google "it aint no fun" and "snoop dogg" Listen to that song. Come back if you still dont get whats happening. I just fell on the floor laughing.
Author zanesfan Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I didnt have to google the song to assume what you are saying (he is trying to pass me off to his friend). Thats not the vibe that I get from this ordeal. If that makes sense.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I didnt have to google the song to assume what you are saying (he is trying to pass me off to his friend). Thats not the vibe that I get from this ordeal. If that makes sense. Sure doesn't sound like it. Unless this guys so cool with his buddies hitting on the girl he dates that he doesn't even do anything about it. He already forewarned you, that goes to say something about this situation...It's not the first. To me at this point it sounds like this guy pulls in the girl and the other guy comes out of the shadow and starts talking to the girl and then he gets some too. It sounds weird but this sounds like some weird wingman situation except the two guys don't mind sharing. Honestly though I'd be surprised If they were pulling that off with any great success...but why wouldn't he be more upset/disappointed with this behavior? Doesn't seem like he respects or cares for you...says you're just "hanging out", which means you and him are boning but It's not like you're exclusive, his remark to you after you approached him was way too nonchalant. The guy sounds like a tool to be honest. Plus he announces to you that his friend likes you...I mean c'mon what do you think the point of that was? don't act so clueless. Better start speaking up and asking some questions...everything seems so conveniently "seeing where it goes" here. 2
somedude81 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Is this a serious question? Google "it aint no fun" and "snoop dogg" Listen to that song. Come back if you still dont get whats happening. I forgot Nate Dogg was in this song ---- Yeah, sounds like this guy and his friend have a thing where they share girls. Probably best to forget that either of them existed.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 OP, this new guy of yours doesn't respect you, he doesn't want dibs on you and he and his friends are rather gross. Next time wait long enough to sleep with a guy to get to know him and what he is about. 1
Author zanesfan Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Before we even slept, held hands, kissed, etc. his friends was trying to talk to me. He is the nicest looking one, best career, and the shyest They are all wild and much older. This one in particular is 15 years older than me and has the biggest stomach Ive ever seen on a man. I told him I wasnt even physically attracted to his friend. I honestly think this guy lacks confidence. Even at his cookout his friends were outspoken and he was barely talking. I agree, it was jacked up how he handled it. Im not attached to this guy whatsoever but it would be nice to know he stood up for me some.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Red flags galore! There is a reason why this guy hangs around these friends. Don't fall into the trap of believing this guy is somehow better then the company he keeps. You can really tell a lot about a person from the people they are friends with Zanes. So are you going to keep sleeping with him?
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Wait so hold on, you're dating a guy and the guy's friend wants to date you too. And your guy is trying to push his friend onto you? Either a) this guy is up to something dubious or b) he has zero confidence and figures if his friend wants to date you, he's probably a better guy for you. I know if one of my friends was interested in a girl I was seeing I'd step aside and let him go for it. But that's just me. Maybe this guy is the same way?
truth_seeker Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 He took you for a spin, got his fill, and now he would like to let his buddy take you for a ride. The lesson: don't be a test drive. 1
gaius Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 If he really wanted his friend to have you he could just stop calling. He's low on the totem pole in the social circle he's in, not respected and afraid of confronting his so called friend. So he's telling you in the hopes you'll do the shutting down.
Author zanesfan Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 If he really wanted his friend to have you he could just stop calling. He's low on the totem pole in the social circle he's in, not respected and afraid of confronting his so called friend. So he's telling you in the hopes you'll do the shutting down. ^^^ This. I think this is truly it. It could be how everyone else is describing it but my gut says different. He told me to just tell the other guy I wasnt interested. I get the feeling that he is very insecure. I mean very. From the first conversation we had until now.. 2 months later. I probably wont keep seeing him as I am now turned off. 1
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