k100danny Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Briefly what happened is my ex and I split up, talked for a few weeks. I sort of found out she was seeing someone else a week after telling me she was thinking about me everyday ect so i sent her my final message and blocked her. I asked for one item back only and that was my watch, I was very polite and wished her all the best and I didn't speak to her again. So now 6 weeks after that i get a text from a new number, she now has a foreign mobile as she moved to another country for the summer but as soon as i saw the opening line I didn't want to read it when i knew it was from her. I had asked for my watch back to break all ties and told her i wanted to move on ect and i wouldnt be in touch but we might see each other in the future. Anyway have just read this mesage now, curiosity got the better of me and this is what it said. Hi Danny its ***** I still have your watch here safe and I just wanted you to know i am going to send it back this week. I hope you are well X Now I don't know what to make of this, I thought surely it would be easier to just send it back and not text me about it? she has changed her phone and number so obviously saved mmy number. why has she waited this long after i told her how important it was for me to get it back and let go? I know she could have just been busy and it wasnt a priority but surely she had no need to contact me, she could have just sent it to me and that would be it. I got the message about 5 days ago and have only just read it. I don't know if to reply or just wait and see if the watch comes back? should I just reply saying thanks for keeping it safe, if you can get it back to me as soon as you can that would be great. Thank you? I have missed her or that feeling of being in love a lot lately, I have had a few girls interested but I just can't seem to feel excited about any of them at all. I don't want to reply and for it to turn into a conversation but i don't want to seem childish either by not replying even though i don't owe it to her to reply.
Dblock10 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 hey man i see your still cooped up with this issue! I have missed her or that feeling of being in love a lot lately, I have had a few girls interested but I just can't seem to feel excited about any of them at all. I don't want to reply and for it to turn into a conversation but i don't want to seem childish either by not replying even though i don't owe it to her to reply what is there to make of it? she simply stated she would send it back since you have been concerned about the return of this watch, reason it took her a while to reply is because you haven't been on her mind she has probably been very busy. Maybe the numbers were saved on the phone not sim. yeah she could have just sent it back but she is being friendly. . . since you told her you wouldn't reply to her, its totally up to you if you reply or not.. depends if you want to talk to her friendly or not.. replying to her just to say that is hardly worth it, i'm sure she will send it back in due course as quickly and safely as possible.. seems like this watch is the last connection to her that you have, when you get it back is that you 'completely' done in your mind?
Author k100danny Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I just think the way it all came to this wasn't great and i do hold some resentment about this. I think after all the things i did for her ect and especially with how nice i was to her during and after the break up and finding out she was with someone new then she would have respected me enough to send it back asap. she could have done that i suppose but i think she would have got a new phone as her was totally knackered but maybe not. The watch and me returning her things to her friends is the only tie we have, after that we have no reason to ever speak to each other again as we will probably never see each other again in our lifetimes. I just don't know if she wouldnt have thought just sending it back without getting in touch would be easier or if she just maybe saw something that reminded her of me and though maybe i'll just let him know i havent forgot. But i still don't really appreciate the fact she text me at all. I don't hate her and I do wish her all the best for the future and a long and happy life but i find moving on hard, this relationship took a lot out of me and although there were lots of times i was unhappy there were times i felt very loved also and i guess i just feel find of used and maybe led to believe it was more than it was when she must have known otherwise. again I don't hold this against her, i believe people are mainly good and dont do things on purpose. I have thought about her quite a bit lately, and things like she always blames others for her unhappiness, constantly has disagreements in relationships and arguements and just thinking to myself that ne day she will realise, I'm not saying she will regret it but she will see how much of a nice person she had and how much i loved her and she could have had anything she wanted. Now i know this isn't what love is all about and if you arent compatible then thats that and i do believe we werent a great match but i did love her and i had a very strong attachement. anyway I did reply, I said this exact thing Thank you that would be great if you could. I haven't had time to take your stuff back to ****'s yet but i will asap. Take care of yourself And now what i deraded would happen has happened, within about 2 minutes she had replied. I haven't read that and I don't want to get into a conversation about her life, her new relationships ect although I hope she is well i do not want to know what is going on with her. My message had no indication that i wanted to chat and I don't think it warranted a reply. I think that now i know she is going to send it back then i shall change my phone number. My contract has just ended anyway. I blocked her on facebook and if she doesnt have my number then these things cant bother me. I will put her number in a drawer and when i am fully over this relationship I will contact her wishing her well and checking in but only when i really couldnt care who she is with or what she is doing. although this isnt on my mind as much anymore. sorry I know im ranting but i thought i was getting better and this was a bit of a set back
BooBoo1982 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 I just think the way it all came to this wasn't great and i do hold some resentment about this. I think after all the things i did for her ect and especially with how nice i was to her during and after the break up and finding out she was with someone new then she would have respected me enough to send it back asap. she could have done that i suppose but i think she would have got a new phone as her was totally knackered but maybe not. The watch and me returning her things to her friends is the only tie we have, after that we have no reason to ever speak to each other again as we will probably never see each other again in our lifetimes. I just don't know if she wouldnt have thought just sending it back without getting in touch would be easier or if she just maybe saw something that reminded her of me and though maybe i'll just let him know i havent forgot. But i still don't really appreciate the fact she text me at all. I don't hate her and I do wish her all the best for the future and a long and happy life but i find moving on hard, this relationship took a lot out of me and although there were lots of times i was unhappy there were times i felt very loved also and i guess i just feel find of used and maybe led to believe it was more than it was when she must have known otherwise. again I don't hold this against her, i believe people are mainly good and dont do things on purpose. I have thought about her quite a bit lately, and things like she always blames others for her unhappiness, constantly has disagreements in relationships and arguements and just thinking to myself that ne day she will realise, I'm not saying she will regret it but she will see how much of a nice person she had and how much i loved her and she could have had anything she wanted. Now i know this isn't what love is all about and if you arent compatible then thats that and i do believe we werent a great match but i did love her and i had a very strong attachement. anyway I did reply, I said this exact thing Thank you that would be great if you could. I haven't had time to take your stuff back to ****'s yet but i will asap. Take care of yourself And now what i deraded would happen has happened, within about 2 minutes she had replied. I haven't read that and I don't want to get into a conversation about her life, her new relationships ect although I hope she is well i do not want to know what is going on with her. My message had no indication that i wanted to chat and I don't think it warranted a reply. I think that now i know she is going to send it back then i shall change my phone number. My contract has just ended anyway. I blocked her on facebook and if she doesnt have my number then these things cant bother me. I will put her number in a drawer and when i am fully over this relationship I will contact her wishing her well and checking in but only when i really couldnt care who she is with or what she is doing. although this isnt on my mind as much anymore. sorry I know im ranting but i thought i was getting better and this was a bit of a set back I wouldn't be able to resist I would have to read the reply, you have a lot more willpower than me.
Dblock10 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 what was her reply? read it, doesnt mean you need to reply.. i get where your coming from. well maybe when your over her you could talk to her again but by that point when your moved on, you probably wont feel like speaking anyway
Author k100danny Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I decided to read the reply, I think it was a lot easier to read the first message than i thought so i though **** it i'll read it. this was her reply I know my things are in safe hands with you. I was hoping to come back and sort my things out but i don't know if i can now. I hope youre well X Now I don't think my text warranted a reply but maybe she is just at the point where she feels it's ok to be friendly. To me this seems like she wants a conversation, saying i was hoping to come back but dont think I can now? I wouldn't know why she can't or what her plans were so i think she was hoping I would ask why she can't come back or something. I thought well I am not caving in giving it the X on the end of my message (some may think this is childish but i don't feel at that place yet) so i replied with this. Well I will take your stuff to ***'s as soon as i can so if you want it or come back it will be there for you. I am fine thank you. hope your travels are good and you're well. Take care of yourself *** that was it, I think from this she will get the picture that I don't want to have a conversation but I also don't sound bitter. I don't know if she will reply now and I don't really care, she seems to know that her things are safe and trusts me and i trust she will return my watch for me at some point.
Dblock10 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 yeah its a reply which you could reply to, when she says i was hoping to come back and sort my things out etc, sounds like she is hoping you will say oh no sure thats fine. or something along the lines of letting her anyway. you could say yeah you can come sort your things out, why wouldn't you be able to? that would confuse her lol. but yeah your reply was fine, she might not reply to that, then again she might. if she does, she is quite persistent... sodo you feel better now?
Author k100danny Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I feel no different I don't think. I think she is either going to stay in italy or is going to travel somewhere else that is why she will have been saying that, so i ask her why she can't come back or something. I don't think she meant come back as in come back here to my house, I think she just meant come back to england. either way I am not asking questions regarding her life. I have no interest in where she is going and for what reason I just hope she has a good life and want that for myself too. The thing she didnt mention was, in the first text i didnt read for around 5 days she said she was sending my watch back this week, I replied today at the end of the week and she didnt mention if she had actually sent it or not. well I don't think I will hear from her again now, I don't know if she will send a note along with the watch or not but if she does i will only read it when i couldnt actually care what it says. I will have a new phone number in a few days so then she will have no way of contacting me unless she writes so that will be it. I will put all of her stuff in a box next week and drop it at her friends house and then that is finished.
Dblock10 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 ah yeah that would make more sense! its hard when an ex has that travel bug, mine is the same. no fear, i too will travel once my education is sorted. thats how i feel to, i know where she is and roughly what she is doing i.e working, going out, fitness. but why gain or gather details? what will it achieve? not a lot. i think you will get the watch all in good time. i doubt it will have a note, if it does, read it, get it out the way. no point lingering over it. sorry this is hard for you man. i think your being strong though, i cant bring myself to delete her from my life, although i think its heading that way just need to gain that strength. its the totally letting go i think i have issues with i dont like doing it. done it once before and it hurt so much.
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