SnowWhite Posted July 17, 2004 Posted July 17, 2004 I rarely see women dating men that are shorter than them. I had this conversation with some friends and all but one agreed that they would probably not date a man who was shorter than them. I'm 5'7 and all of my boyfriends have ranged from about 6'2 to my ex who was 6'7. <sigh> he was so perfectly tall. Would any of you consider dating a man who was drastically shorter? Would you approach a man who was shorter?
sweetadeline Posted July 17, 2004 Posted July 17, 2004 I'd absolutely be willing to date a guy shorter than me--though I have to admit that I would notice the height difference. Let's face it, women are socialized to find taller men more desirable than shorter ones (think "tall, dark, and handsome"). But when you think of all the *really* important qualities you're looking for--kindness, intelligence, sense of humor, willingness to commit--the significance of height pales by comparison. A friend of mine just married the love of her life, by the way. She's in her mid-50s (so there's hope!). The only thing that caused her to hesitate about him was the height difference--she's about four inches taller than he is. But once she decided she didn't care, she moved ahead with the relationship--and she's never been happier.
HokeyReligions Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 I have dated men who were shorter than me. One guy was about five inches shorter. We didn't break up because of height. My husband is only two inches taller than me and when we go out and I'm wearing heels or platforms I am the same height or taller than he is.
moimeme Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 when you think of all the *really* important qualities you're looking for--kindness, intelligence, sense of humor, willingness to commit--the significance of height pales by comparison. Couldn't agree more. Beautiful hearts come in all sorts of packages.
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 I wouldn't date a shorter man. I know that all that matters is what is on the inside but I wouldn't be sexually attracted to a man shorter than me. It's this weird complex that I formed in middle school because I matured early and was taller than all the boys. I'm only 5'6 but I always felt so tall and manly..a short man reminds me of that. "(
reasontosigh Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 I would probably consider it, though I don't know what the odds are of running into one. I'm only 5' 3 1/2".
Mr Spock Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Alright, I wouldn't date a man shorter than I was. I'm 5'9 at least, and I don't feel as attractive standing next to tiny men. I've tried it before. It's not them. It's how I feel with them.
VivianLee Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 I'm 5'9 so there were times that I went out with a guy that may be an inch shorter, that was as short as it got. I've noticed alot of short guys (not all but alot) have the short man's mentality.... My husband is 6'7 so I can wear the highest heels (and I LOVE heels!!) that I want!
UCFKevin Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 I'm 5'9" and I've gone out with a girl who's 6'2". Had no problem with it. I'm a pretty secure dude.
Mr Spock Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Is that someone biting your hat? I like it when I can wear 4 inch heels and still be shorter than my date. What can I say.
UCFKevin Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Again, Dyer, I'll see you in hell. Yes. That's my friend Dave biting my hat. We're drunk. There's nothing else behind it other than looking goofy.
Mr Spock Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 HA!!! I hope the fact that I thought it was a fairly attractive (female!!) pair of lips won't make him insecure..... I think you kind of have some vince vaughn qualities.....
UCFKevin Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 VINCE VAUGHN?!?!? That's the most far out comparison I've ever gotten.
Mr Spock Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 You think so? Not the set of the eyes, so much. For the record, it was intended to be a positive comparison. Heck, I'd do vince. In a heartbeat. I thought old school and dodgeball were HILARIOUS.
moimeme Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 http://64.211.46.141/rp/5729-Vaughn88168035.jpg Oh, you SO don't look like him!
dyermaker Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Oh. Actually, in that picture, I kinda see it. But only because you mentioned it.
Mr Spock Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 AHA!! Not crazy....he sure doesn't look like ben affleck.
Pained Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker You look kinda like Scott Peterson. Actually, I sort of think he looks like Ewan McGregor in that picture. And that's a compliment. I would date a man shorter than me (although at 5'3" it doesn't come up very often) if he had all the other qualities I'm looking for in a man. My current boyfriend is 5'10", which is only "average", but just fine for me.
havNfun Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Very interesting. I have noticed on dating sites and stuff that almost every last girl mentions or indicates that she wants a tall guy. I never understood exactly why that is. You all may have provided the exact reason. wow, maybe that is it - that women feel less "manly" and more womanly and petite and better about themselves when they are smaller than the man. I bet that is it
Kizzyfur Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 Originally posted by havNfun wow, maybe that is it - that women feel less "manly" and more womanly and petite and better about themselves when they are smaller than the man. I bet that is it That's exactly why I won't date a man shorter than myself. Sorry guys!!
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 wow, maybe that is it - that women feel less "manly" and more womanly and petite and better about themselves when they are smaller than the man. Exactly. If I feel like I can beat up my own boyfriend there's definitely going to be an attraction problem for me. And even though he may be stronger than me, shorter=wimpy in my crazy world
moimeme Posted July 18, 2004 Posted July 18, 2004 that women feel less "manly" and more womanly and petite and better about themselves when they are smaller than the man. Maybe but feeling that you're in the company of an amazing human being beats the hell out of feeling 'womanly and petite' - to me, anyway.
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