me.beatum Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Sorry if this is long, i just needed somewhere to let everything out. So i have been with dan for about 2 years now, and weve been through so so much together, its been hard, his cheated, he fell in love with another girl, i was diagnosied with epilepsy, and were living together, were young and we all make mistakes. About a year ago we meet ryan, who is now dans best friend, i instantly just liked ryan he was funny, great looking, kind and clever Anyway at first me and ryan became friends and we chatted about anything and everything, i could be soo open to him, he was 19 and he was a decent bloke who was still a virgin. But then about aug last year i fell pregnant and my bf made me get an abortion after 9 months of us trying, he just told me to get rid of it. I did and for about 6-7months i didnt ever go out, i just stayed at home, but i started to put on weight and so i asked ryan if he'd be my gym buddy :-) this was june time, and so we was going everyday together, we became good friends again, i went to his 20th birthday, i was the only female there, anyway he got smashed and was throwing up, the girl he'd lost his virginity to had just broke up with him and while i was looking after him while being sick he said he wished laura had been like me, cause he wouldnt of let her go. Anyway in mid july, dan said me and ryan have chemistry and that he wants me to stop going to the gym after a couple of weeks i did. But i found myself texting ryan everyday and every night, just being so open, having a laugh. About 2 weeks ago the 3 of us went to a snooker club and joined up, we went everynight the first week, and me and ryan were being very flirty accidently, i found myself awake till 5.30 one morning texting him having an argument about who is better looking between us. Then last friday it was our mates 21st and i wore a nice black dress, he kept staring at me and said that i looked really good that night, and i felt myself starting to like him more, and we was talking about the girl he fancys, it made me feel jealous, which was strange. Anyway me and my bf went away this week, to see my family, i found myself texting him till 1-2°clock every night, i told him that i liked him, he said he dosent want to hurt dan but yet he keeps texting me and flirting with me and as soon as i said i like him he started sending me 3 kisses. His not the sort of guy to let someone cheat, we was chatting last night nd he said ifi wasnt with dan would i get with him, his just become very flirty and i find myself flirting back. Why am i liking him?!?!?!?
slovek Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 The abortion is wrong, If you didnt want the baby, its ashame. Giving it away for adoption is better than destroying (murdering) it. The whole thing is a mess, and your basically cheating. Flirting with another man is cheating, im sure he isnt better himself. I just think you need to decide what you want. Doing this behind his back is wrong. Not everything is a mistake, and cheating isnt. Plus since you know what cheating is, its not a mistake.
SpiralOut Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Your boyfriend is very controlling, telling you to have an abortion, telling you to stop going to the gym. This other guy is being nice to you. It's no wonder you are falling for him; your boyfriend isn't exactly giving you any good reasons to stay with him. This new guy is giving you every reason to want to be with him. However, that doesn't make it okay to flirt with another guy like that. You are with someone. You are cheating with him emotionally. It's only a matter of time before it becomes something physical. You need to choose between staying with your boyfriend and cutting off your friend, or breaking up with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend isn't stupid - he knows he is starting to lose you and he suspects that you are (or will) cheat on him with this other guy.
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