Later82012 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 (edited) Is it okay to date a stalker? Has anyone on here gotten married to their stalker and how is life with them? Are you happy or do you regret it? Have you stalked anyone and what happened? Edited August 26, 2012 by Later82012
Pasttense Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Tell us exactly what you mean by stalker. If you mean what most of us think you mean, then stay away from him. If you mean a guy who is persistent, then that is different.
Big Blue Box Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Is it okay to date a stalker? Has anyone on here gotten married to their stalker and how is life with them? Are you happy or do you regret it? Have you stalked anyone and what happened? Coming from someone that has a clingy personality that has stalked his dates I say avoid them totally. Accepting them into a relationship will only cause problems as the potential stalker will act clingy at first then will start stalking the woman. It just ain't worth the risk. Besides, there are plenty of fish in the sea that are much more worthy of your attention.
FitChick Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 You sound like you are desperate for validation -- from anyone. Be careful what you wish for...
amaysngrace Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 I've been stalked and it's unsettling to me. Yes it could be flattering if you crave external validation I suppose but mostly I think it's just creepy.
Author Later82012 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 You sound like you are desperate for validation -- from anyone. Be careful what you wish for... Thank you, I will think about it, but I don't think this is correct in my case. The only reason I am thinking about her seriously is because of her sending a close family member to talk to me.
The Way I Am Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Thank you, I will think about it, but I don't think this is correct in my case. The only reason I am thinking about her seriously is because of her sending a close family member to talk to me. Why does sending a family member to talk you into giving her a chance make it any better? That alone is a little creepy. I suppose in comparison to following you and having her family follow you, sending one to talk to you seems sane and normal. If this is what she and her family do before the relationship starts, there's a very good chance this is what they'll do during the relationship -- only worse, because they'll feel their behavior is justified by your involvement with her. Is this woman really hot? I can't imagine you would be giving this a second thought if she weren't.
Author Later82012 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I would give that a second thought if I was you stalking is very serious and could lead to a violate crime and stalking say's a lot about a persons personality ! What do you think is going to happen if one day you choose not to be with that person? There is too many fish in the sea to be with one that is dangerous and stalking is a dangerous sign. Best of luck Yeah, I too think she has serious issues since this is not normal adult behavior. What I do not understand is her friends and family members helping her. They should know she has issues and needs help.
Author Later82012 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Why does sending a family member to talk you into giving her a chance make it any better? That alone is a little creepy. I suppose in comparison to following you and having her family follow you, sending one to talk to you seems sane and normal. If this is what she and her family do before the relationship starts, there's a very good chance this is what they'll do during the relationship -- only worse, because they'll feel their behavior is justified by your involvement with her. Is this woman really hot? I can't imagine you would be giving this a second thought if she weren't. Yeah, sending one to talk to me seemed normal amidst all that was happening. She is really really hot, model hot.
Author Later82012 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I've been stalked and it's unsettling to me. Yes it could be flattering if you crave external validation I suppose but mostly I think it's just creepy. I am generally low key and I didn't think it was flattering, I thought it was abnormal for an adult to do that and I think no normal person would think it is nice to feel like being watched all the time. I understand it is scary and creepy for a woman to be stalked.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Is it okay to date a stalker? Has anyone on here gotten married to their stalker and how is life with them? Are you happy or do you regret it? Have you stalked anyone and what happened? LOL - in 2012 "stalking" entails any of the following: * knowing her class schedule * knowing her date of birth * knowing and viewing the pages of her "Facebook friends" * knowing where she lives * Googling her or any of her blood relatives * e-mailing her * sitting across the lunch room from her and glancing in her direction So your question cannot be addressed appropriately given the gap between what "stalking" meant back when it really meant something, and what it means now when people throw the label around in unwarranted fashion.
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Nothing wrong with dating someone like that. There are more important things to worry about.
todreaminblue Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Is it okay to date a stalker? Has anyone on here gotten married to their stalker and how is life with them? Are you happy or do you regret it? Have you stalked anyone and what happened? I class stalker as someone out to get me because i have had that.Not fun. A guy who follows is different a guy who wants to knwo as much as possible about a girl is not a stalker..except in a joking way where the woman goes stalking me are you....if it were a real stalker....that woman wouldnt say that.....or i wouldnt.... i would sic my rottie on to the guy.....actually i would protect my rottie, from the guy and attempt to kick his ass......so which did you mean? I would be ok with someone following me or wanting to find out more about me...i would understand that....had it happen before....deb
Radu Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 If you file for a restraining order, she will like you even more. If you say yes to her advances, she will stop liking you.
Trimmer Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 She has been stalking me for months - her and her friends and family following me day or night wherever I go, spying on me, making me aware that I am being watched..... "Stalking" is almost always a solitary pursuit - a disorder of an individual. As you describe it, this sounds more like a conspiracy. Are you sure your perceptions are accurate? (I also wonder because of your willingness to imagine marrying a stalker on the basis that she "sent" a family member to pressure you...)
Tiera D Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 a hot girl that i know married her ugly stalker who is rather poor,and she moved twice to avoid him and everytime he stalks her,i dont know what happened in the process but shes happily married to him now with children.. Sometimes i wondered he put a spell on her or something,their marriage seems the most weird to me TD
todreaminblue Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 lol ok this thread is getting really strange......a girl who tries to findn out about some guy and family members friends involvement along with police involvment ok was this on law and order? I thought i had seen them all but this sounds cool let me in on the series ...slinkin off to the theme from pink panther....ner ner ner......ner ner.conspiracy of it all...exit stage right.....gone
irc333 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 It depends on what is considered a "stalker". The term has been used quite loosely by women these days, an perhaps replaced the word "crush". I've heard use it in a playful/casual manner. "Yeah, I have this stalker, he looked me up on Facebook, and I think he likes me." Stalkers aren't as terrifying as they used to be I suppose. lol Is it okay to date a stalker? Has anyone on here gotten married to their stalker and how is life with them? Are you happy or do you regret it? Have you stalked anyone and what happened?
Author Later82012 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 "Stalking" is almost always a solitary pursuit - a disorder of an individual. As you describe it, this sounds more like a conspiracy. Are you sure your perceptions are accurate? (I also wonder because of your willingness to imagine marrying a stalker on the basis that she "sent" a family member to pressure you...) Honestly, I do not know what to call her and I am totally confused with her behavior. For the sake of everybody that has gotten involved I hope she doesn't have any issues and is only gathering information.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 The term has been used quite loosely by women these days, an perhaps replaced the word "crush". I've heard use it in a playful/casual manner. "Yeah, I have this stalker, he looked me up on Facebook, and I think he likes me." Stalkers aren't as terrifying as they used to be I suppose. lol That's sorta what I said. LOL
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