MercuryMorrison1 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 So I'll keep this short and simple. I'm new to online dating. I'm just looking to meet some new people and maybe go on a few dates and just see what happens. Thing is...I don't know how compose a good letter to someone I am intrested in. I've sent out a few letters to people, usually I just read threw their profile and if I can relate to them somehow I'll add that in the letter and perhaps tell them if they intrigued me. But basically that's all I've got. Anyone have any pointers for this kinda thing? Thanks.
Lobouspo Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Are you male? OLD is a pure numbers game. Key in on about 10 profiles that interest you, and keep your message short, mention something specific in their profile, and follow up with a couple questions. IME this is less cumbersome and frustrating than long drawn out letter type messages. Remember its a numbers game so be prepared for only a 10 to 20% response rate. Also you must be thick skinned, women you exchange a few messages with may totally flake and disappear. Do not take this personally, if they are at all decent looking, they are getting bombarded with messages. Keep your expectations low and have fun with it..
Ami1uwant Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Wish I knew what Site you are using and your sex and age..... How online works.... Generally stick to looking at those people who are within 5 yrs of your age. After communicating with them you need to look to date them as soon as you could. Dont turn an online relationship into penpals. This is a competition so never assume you are the only one they are communicating with...if your are slow you wont get a date. For the initial communication---dont write an essey...but dont give them generic oneliners. instead read their profile and then follow up with a few questions about what you read in their profile...if you share an interest with them...tell them that. There is a high percentage of people referred to as poofers who communicate with you then disappear. dont take it personally. What you say in your profile also does matter. You need to write things that the opposite sex can relate to that they feel they share some of the same charactersitis.....and pictures do matter.
KatZee Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 I'd also add that it doesn't really matter much about what you write for some people, they'll take a look at your pictures and decide within three seconds whether or not they'll even respond back to you. Call it shallow, but you'll get a ton of non-responses as well.
yongyong Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 you don't write a damn letter on online dating. have you seen a flyer with a long letter? it's always a good picture with a catchy slogan and just some little info.
Author MercuryMorrison1 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Wish I knew what Site you are using and your sex and age..... I'm actually using two sites right now. Earlier this year I made an Okcupid account an abandond it after a couple of months. Then I made another account on Plenty of Fish. I check both of them once a day roughly. And I'm a 24 year old Male.
Author MercuryMorrison1 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 you don't write a damn letter on online dating. have you seen a flyer with a long letter? it's always a good picture with a catchy slogan and just some little info. I don't know what else to call it when I write to someone, weather its three sentence's, three paragraphs, or three pages, I just call it a letter in a general sence. I have the stupid little catch phrase and a clear photo of myself on each account. I don't think just having those is enough. I need to at least make some kind of effort to contact other people.
seagen Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 No need for a whole letter. That would scare me. It screams stalker or trying too hard. Unfair? Yes, but it is what it is. A few lines would suffice. The most important thing in OLD is how attractive you are, not necessary what you write. Again, it is what it is.
Author MercuryMorrison1 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 No need for a whole letter. That would scare me. It screams stalker or trying too hard. Unfair? Yes, but it is what it is. A few lines would suffice. The most important thing in OLD is how attractive you are, not necessary what you write. Again, it is what it is. Well, i've been told I'm an attractive guy (and not just by my mother lol). I've had a few girls hit me up so far in OLD...One of them just told me she has a boyfriend, but has herself listed as ''avalible'' on her profile, so I don't know excatly what that's all about. Generally when I write to people on one of these OLD sites, I keep it short...Maybe a single short paragraph comparing a couple of intrests or something like that. But nothing crazy by any means.
mortensorchid Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 I have two major tips for you in the OLD world, as a woman giving advice to a man for this: 1) Letters - Don't send a standard letter of intro to the person you wish to contact. It sounds generic and most women will recognize this. Take the time out to read the profile and comment on some things that the woman says in it. 2) Meet ASAP - THere have been times that I have been in contact with others through websites and they are just looking for penpals. Some correspondence has gone on for weeks, sometimes months, and the man never asks to meet the woman. If the woman asks to meet the man, maybe he'll say yes, but it usually doesn't go anywhere. After about four emails, ask / offer a phone number so you can have a chat. Otherwise he's not very serious about it.
the ill-made knight Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 If you're attractive I think the only thing you must do is not be dull. Just don't do it. Sometimes even if guys are attractive I won't respond if I simply have nothing at all whatsoever to say to what they said.
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