Author paperboy48 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 I think curiosity and voyeurism are understandable. It doesn't really make it right, but in those circumstances it would be hard to resist. Exactly....
Author paperboy48 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 I don't think it has anything to do with "not having guts." That's the issue with having kids, and now being a single parent and trying to date. You don't just introduce your kids to every Joe Schmo that walks through your door. That's dysfunctional to the children, children need stability. I'm sure your ex-wife is smart and has a lock on the door or has taught her children to knock before you enter. My friend is single with a child and she has dated and had multiple men at her home while her child is there. It happens. But the guy ONLY gets introduced to the child if the relationship has proven itself to be going somewhere, and that will be lasting and stable for the child. Maybe your ex-wife doesn't know where this relationship is going quite yet, she wants to know the guy is going to stick around and be a stable figure for the kids. I get that and understand the need to expose him to the kids to see how he interacts with them which will help her make a decision on long-term potential.. This is the second time they have spent any time with him. The first was a few weeks ago when they were camping for a week. He went up and spent one night (overnight) with them while they were there. If you want to get some exposure betwen the two parties .... how about have him over for a BBQ for an evening or go miniture golfing, not have him spend the night the first couple times they are introduced to him.
Trimmer Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 In my opinion, the cart is a bit before the horse here....hmm introduce the guy as mommy's boyfriend and then if the kids walk in they understand seeing a man in mommy's bed. Or, let's not tell the kids mommy has a boyfriend (because she does not have the guts) and take the risk of them walking in on her wife a man in her bed.. Speaking of putting the cart before the horse - you assume they must not have locked a door, you assume that they came back down in 15 min because he's "not that great", and you assume he spent the night. How about this: they were getting a little hot and heavy, she knows it wouldn't be good to have the kids walk into the living room on them, so they agree that this one will be a quickie (to further minimize exposure risk) and she takes him up to her room and locks the door. He can't stay the night (so he won't be there in the morning.) Aren't you putting the cart before the horse to assume otherwise? This is the second time they have spent any time with him. The first was a few weeks ago when they were camping for a week. He went up and spent one night (overnight) with them while they were there. Please tell me that your kids are volunteering this information and you are listening like a good father, and that you are not prying information out of them like little spies: "Tell me what Mom is doing with that guy...."
Author paperboy48 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Speaking of putting the cart before the horse - you assume they must not have locked a door, you assume that they came back down in 15 min because he's "not that great", and you assume he spent the night. How about this: they were getting a little hot and heavy, she knows it wouldn't be good to have the kids walk into the living room on them, so they agree that this one will be a quickie (to further minimize exposure risk) and she takes him up to her room and locks the door. He can't stay the night (so he won't be there in the morning.) Aren't you putting the cart before the horse to assume otherwise? Please tell me that your kids are volunteering this information and you are listening like a good father, and that you are not prying information out of them like little spies: "Tell me what Mom is doing with that guy...." Ahh...but he did spend the night...he was there in the morning when they woke up. And yes I did inquire a bit? I asked when was the last time they saw him? (harmless..)
Sav Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Ohboy, I've been following this thread for awhile now. And I gotta say if I were in your ex's shoes, I would have broken up with you too. I mean cmon the way you're acting now is totally not cool man. It reflects on your character and I dont mean that as a compliment. God knows how were you in the relationship. From what I've gathered, you seem to be a little egoistic and always think that you're right. Refusal to listen to others who have a different opinion from you. Maybe you should try working on your flaws first before pointing out what flaws do others have? I mean this as no offense but I really think you need to work on yourself first before you're ready for a relationship 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I think curiosity and voyeurism are understandable. It doesn't really make it right, but in those circumstances it would be hard to resist. The image of the red robot lurking in the shrubbery outside the living room picture window is … lovely. How stealthy can you possibly be? Seriously, I understand it, too. But to use it as a platform to judge the ex - no. 1
Author paperboy48 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 God knows how were you in the relationship. From what I've gathered, you seem to be a little egoistic and always think that you're right. Refusal to listen to others who have a different opinion from you. Maybe you should try working on your flaws first before pointing out what flaws do others have? Being a little egotitistic is not a bad thing...it helps people exceed in life in many ways. As far as always thinking I am always right, I apologize if I portray that, I am actually very open to listening to others opinions and admiting my faults.
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