Freckas Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Correct section for post? This weekend without fail, my husbands single friend invited him and I out. He invites me because he knows I will not be cool with my husband going to the stripclub. You may wonder why the stripclub? why is this the only location he invites you to? I dont know the answer to that, in simple words I guess he's trash. Ive been judged so much for my choice of words but I cant worry about that anymore. My husband just texts back to the text invite that "not this weekend" and thats great I REALLY do appreciate it. But tonight we were at homedepot buying a load of mosquito gear, and that stupid text comes in. my single friend who cheats on every man she's been with, is with my husbands single friend. Why cant these two doh-doh birds come up with something to do by themselves?? Well shes already slept with him... I distanced myself from her a year ago and she is the type of fair weather friend that really is there to party but if you have to pack your house up to move she is busy busy busy. (which a friend shouldnt have to feel obligated to help you move, but thats an example) well if you've read the whole backstory you know I cant stand the strip clubs, Im tired of them the reason being I was a cool wife, but I was so cool that my husband got spoiled and when I decided to be "selfish" one night and sit in the car-- naively thinking he would not go in the stripclub, (next to the bar we were at) he did, I didn't say he couldn't I said " I dont want you to go, and if your going to go, you need to make it quick" Writing this makes me so mad at myself but onward: After 3 hours or so in the car, I go in and my husband is on his 2nd lapdance. Really? so why doesnt he have the balls to tell his friend to go eff off, that he cant go out to the strip club anymore, should I be satisfied with him lying and promising his dumb single friend "not this weekend maybe next weekend" on top of this question I must confess that on the way home from home depot tonight I just lost it and confessed to him the reason I cant stand the strip club anymore or people that frrequent them is that I NOW see why it messes up marriages- I explained to him: That when I sat in the car waiting on him, that night and he decided to extend his time in the strip club after me telling him not to take long (because before that I had always been a yes girl to the strip club thing and staying out all night together but only once a month) the fact that instead of opting out he lengthens his time in there with a VIP, and leaves me out in the car to sit, showed me that obviously I was LEAST important, and I explained to him: I know your innocent you didnt mean crap by doing it but this is how it feels for your husband to tell you to get rid of your peiercings, and your 1 tattoo, and your blue contacts, and by the way your better as a redhead than jet black hair... he goes and get a lap dance from a girl covered in tats, drawn on sharpie eyebrows, piercings, and jet black hair. who lines her lips from the outside in. WTF???? he just ignores me and then says "your ****ing crazy" Why was I crazy? I fully explained this is not some punishment this is me explaining why it hurts everytime he doesn't speak up and say the truth to his single friend. I dont know why his friend doesnt call him up before 950pm on a fri or saturday night . I don't know!!! Im sorry for my verbose writing and horrible punctuation, please give your thoughts ladies and gentlemen.
JD1977 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 The reason he doesn't tell his friend no is because he wants to go! And you have set a precedence that this is all ok!! Any man that would leave any girl, nevermind his WIFE, out in the car while at a strip club is an a******!!! Regardless if you told him "to make it quick." But you have allowed it all these times! If you are not ok with it. Then you need to tell him. You need to have more respect for yourself, and then demand that from him! I doubt he would be ok with sitting in the car while you got your freak on with a male stripper!
Gunny376 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 First for those men reading this and still don't have a clue? In and as a general rule ~ anytime a man puts anything or anyone before his Woman (Strip Clubs, partying, his friends, woodworking, work, his career, his family, his ex's, hunting, fishing, golf, watching sports, etc ~ _____________________ (fill in tha' blank) he's in jepordy of losing her!" Strip Clubs are a joke ~ the people that work in them are a joke ~ and most of all the people that go to them? Are a joke. Its just "Clownsville, USA!" Its a hugh waste of time, effort, energy and most of all? MONEY! And money is too damn hard to come by for most of us ~ to hard to hang on to ~ and everyone starting with the Federal Government has their hands out wanting their cut. In fact the government takes their cut right off of the top! Just like Vinnie and his boys!! And its not just my personal opinion ~ but a fact that most women that work in a strip joint aren't Demin Moore ~ a single Mom trying to struggle to pay the rent, keep a roof over her and her baby's head, work their way through college. A lot of them are outright gay or bisexual who already have a BF and/or GF on the side ~ laughing their azz all the way to the bank with your hard earned money. To the orginal poster if you were my daughter? I would tell you to ditch this loser already ~ and let him go to his strip clubs alone. Go out and find yourself a REAL man! A real man that see's women for more than just a sexual object there for their own personal sexual gradification, a pair of tits, a VLSS ~ Vagnial Life Support System/Sperm Depository. A real man that balances his life out. Who is ambitious, who is willing to go out and get a job, bring home the bacon, provide for his wife and children. But who is willing to look his boss in the eye and tell them that he works to live ~ not live to work.
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