SJC2008 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 She messaged me and I responded we met up the next day. Had some drinks and played some pool and went to eat. At dinner she told me se didn't want me to go out with anyone else on the site or something along those lines. We shared a nice kiss afterward and she texted me first the next day. We we went out a couple of days later and she PAID for dinner and suggested we do something after so I said sure so we went and played pool. She complimented me and said she likes my personality too. Anyway, I thought the date went well we kissed a few times and had a mini makeout session after. She texted me first again and I said thanks etc. I asked her out a couple days later which would of been our 3rd date in 6 days BUT I was going out of town the next day and school starts for both of us afterward so I figures saueeze in on more since we may not see eachother for a while. Anyway she said she was doing something with a friend and couldn't so I said I'd be in touch. I texted her 3 days later (2 day gap) and she replied and I texted her pic of a place we went to a couple of days after that and she replied but didn't reply to my text after that until the next day. Anyway I called her today and she didn't call or text back? I kept contact light with the "gaps" in between and don't think it was too much/little IMO. This is the last name girl and like I said she said she met some jerks online so not that guessing does good I think she is bugging out because she can see I'm a good man and doesn't want to get hurt or needs the drama a jerk provides? Feedback appreciated! *Thought
Author SJC2008 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Pardon the horrible grammar I'm on my phone and don't feel like editing.
CptSaveAho Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 She loves the jerks. By the way being a jerk is a compliment. If anything, it sounds like she was using you as a backburner guy in between her jerks.
Author SJC2008 Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 She loves the jerks. By the way being a jerk is a compliment. If anything, it sounds like she was using you as a backburner guy in between her jerks. I had been on about a week when we met and she claims she signed up the day she messaged me.
Author SJC2008 Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 It was only 2 dates so I'm not crushed I was a little more than neutral about her. I'm attracted to her enough and we had a good time both times. I'm more baffeled than bummed out if you will. There were plenty of things going in our favor. Both busy and need to date someone who understands that. Both have had kind of rough lives (we didn't spill our guts or anything). On our first date she said she hopes I don't go out with anyone else and initiated first after dates. Then she ghosts?? I feel like I was lead on. The only thing I'm thinking is mabye I was too physical with her. On our second date I kissed her at the table after she paid and kissed her a couple times at the bar and had a mini makeout with her in the car after. BUT she still contacted me first saying she got home safe and had a good time??
CptSaveAho Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 On our first date she said she hopes I don't go out with anyone else and initiated first after dates. Then she ghosts?? I feel like I was lead on. Dun dun dun....... You were like i said in my previous post, backburner. You didnt do anything wrong but fall for her bull crap
Author SJC2008 Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Dun dun dun....... You were like i said in my previous post, backburner. You didnt do anything wrong but fall for her bull crap If she was out of my league I might think I was her backburner but whot knows?? And remember she paid for dinner on our second date and I was suprised. I don't think a woman would pay for a second date and then ghost mabye I got GIG'd
The Way I Am Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 The assumption about her meeting a jerk is not constructive or helpful thinking. Maybe she's been really busy. Or maybe she did meet another guy she likes more. That doesn't mean the guy is a jerk and that the reason she lost interest is that you're not "jerk" enough. I dropped contact with the last guy i was dating before my boyfriend when I met him. If that guy assumed I met someone who was a bigger jerk and that's why I stopped contacting him, then he's completely wrong. That guy was the one who was kind of a jerk. My boyfriend is a sweetheart. Not every two people are right for each other and getting mad, bitter, and assuming the worst about the other person when it doesn't go your way only hurts you. Wait a day or so then ask her on another date. If she says no, move on and be happy you got a free meal.
Author SJC2008 Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Somehow this turned in to a jerk thread?? I called her and left a VM on Sat so she's not going to call back. I'm a one call and that's it now.
truth_seeker Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 It sucks. It happens. You start to get a great feel for someone then they disappear. I would guess she had a change of heart or met someone else. That's life.
Author SJC2008 Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Yeah that's life! But the bottom line is that I'm the one always losing out regardless of who's fault it is. I don't understand how civilization isn't extinct and how people make it past this crap.
2sunny Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 She may be the kind of galthat HAS to ALWAYS have a guy to do something with. And when you went away for a few days - she picked it up with someone that was around - and may now be interested in him for the time being. Either way - a gal that doesn't call back is busy doing other things - so much so that she's not making YOU HER PRIORITY. I wouldn't give her another thought.
The Way I Am Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Somehow this turned in to a jerk thread?? It was on your first post... This is the last name girl and like I said she said she met some jerks online so not that guessing does good I think she is bugging out because she can see I'm a good man and doesn't want to get hurt or needs the drama a jerk provides? I called her and left a VM on Sat so she's not going to call back. I'm a one call and that's it now. You didn't mention you left a VM for her to call you back. I thought you just called and expected her to call back from seeing a missed call. If she isn't calling back, then there's nothing you can do. I don't see anything you did wrong.
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