I texted my ex!

[lawlessloveless]

I texted my ex to see how he was doing and I started crying and shaking. I know why we broke up - it wasn't working ad it never does when we get back together. It has to be this way, but every once in a while, I miss him.

I had a dream I ran after him to say something, but I missed him.

 

How do I get through this? It's only been a month.

[Hornachero]

Hi lawlessloveless,

 

I know exactly what you are going through! We all get weak sometime and do things that we regret! But it's also Ok! We all learn from our mistakes and move forward! It's also normal to miss him (hey it's been only a month) and it's normal to want to contact him!

 

I find that going out with friends helps a lot! And also meeting new people and exercising at the gym! I have lost 5 kilos since the BU and I've never looked better Whatever you decide to do, just don't isolate yourself - and stay strong

[lawlessloveless]

Thanks, I guess I just have to give it time. It's funny cause so much has changed in a month and I guess it feels longer! Especially since we were a few months shy of our 1 year anniversary.

[Freckas]

Some of us know where you are coming from all to well.

 

Is it possible to ask yourself, this:

 

Will I ever be okay with this not working out and that he will never understand me that way I wanted him to, that sometimes it doesnt matter who broke it, but that it is unrepairable.

 

I advise you dont listen to any station that plays the genre of music you listend whilst you were both together.

 

delete his number.

 

or block it.

 

 

do you want to get over him ?

or do you want methods to make missing him easier?

 

remember you can make any choice you want, but there are consequences.

 

everytime you get weak if you call it is hard on you again.

[I'm nuts]

Thanks, I guess I just have to give it time. It's funny cause so much has changed in a month and I guess it feels longer! Especially since we were a few months shy of our 1 year anniversary.

 

 

less than 1 year? jeez, you'll get over it.

[youngnlove89]

less than 1 year? jeez' date=' you'll get over it.[/quote']

 

ignore this ignorant bitter troll. don't let him diminish the way you feel and make you think that it is anything less than love.

 

this is probably coming from a person who is at an angry stage of their life and feels that posting negative, hurtful things on here will make them feel more empowered and better about themselves.

[lawlessloveless]

ignore this ignorant bitter troll. don't let him diminish the way you feel and make you think that it is anything less than love.

 

this is probably coming from a person who is at an angry stage of their life and feels that posting negative, hurtful things on here will make them feel more empowered and better about themselves.

 

Thank you. After reading your comment, I felt better about what that jerk said. You're absolutely right.

[I'm nuts]

ignore this ignorant bitter troll. don't let him diminish the way you feel and make you think that it is anything less than love.

 

this is probably coming from a person who is at an angry stage of their life and feels that posting negative, hurtful things on here will make them feel more empowered and better about themselves.

 

When you've grown up and stop being immature you'll see I'm right!

 

Your just a fly that flicks from one to another, grow up.

[I'm nuts]

Thank you. After reading your comment, I felt better about what that jerk said. You're absolutely right.

 

 

We hear what we want to hear. It's more comfy that way.

[youngnlove89]

Thank you. After reading your comment, I felt better about what that jerk said. You're absolutely right.

 

It always seems like the shorter relationships hurt the most because they had so much potential.

 

Love is love. It doesn't matter how long you were together, quality of quantity. Always.

[Hornachero]

I agree with younglove89! Sometimes, breakups over short relationships are really painful because we are too busy enjoying the day and don't have time to identify the bad things in the other person that could help us move on after a BU. In that sense, it is much harder to let go of short relationships because it's more difficult to "break" the over-positive image that we have of the other.

 

And one year is a significant amount of time! Don't let anyone make it small or light to you (to quote Steinbeck).

 

I have attached below a letter that he wrote in response to his son who was telling him that he fell in love with a girl at school! It's beautiful and I hope it'll give you the strength and the inspiration you need.

 

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New York

November 10, 1958

 

Dear Thom:

 

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

 

First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

 

Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

 

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love.

 

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.

 

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

 

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

 

If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

 

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

 

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

 

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

 

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

 

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.

 

Love,

 

Fa.

 

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[gullibleme]

Jeesh that made me tear up ...I loved it though!