princesss Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Hello everyone! I'm fairly new to this website and I've been needing some people to talk to about my fairly recent break up. I know still very young so please don't leave any mean comments. I'm 17 years old and fell in love with my (now ex) boyfriend 2 years ago. We've been together for just that long and lately everything has been bad. He was never the type to communicate with girls, but now he does. Mind you, he doesn't flirt with them it's simply hi how are you and helping out girls with math when they need it. Nothing to make me over react but I over react anyways. So we broke up a month ago but still talk and hangout everyday trying to fix things but yesterday was our breaking point. We act like a couple minus the holding hands so I asked why we couldn't be together and it lead to a fight because I threatened to leave. In this case he felt as if I was forcing him into a relationship because it was either be with my or I go but those weren't my intentions. After exchanging harsh words he tried dragging me out of his house but I stayed and after he calmed down we talked things out. Basically he said he never wants to get back together, but later that night he told me he loves me and cares for me and no matter what happens hell always be there. he said he will still hangout with me at school occasionally and wait for me before school every morning. Now I realize he needs his space especially after yesterday's blow up (Im leaving a lot of the details out when I went psycho) but I really want to be with him. He said maybe we'll work out in a few years but right now we can't because of my insecurities. My fear is that he'll fall for another girl and date her. What should I do? I'm not going to pursue a relationship right now but I don't want to let him go either. I don't want to ask him how he feels because it's still fresh. How do I get over my insecurities? He's never given me a reason to be insecure because he's been nothing but faithful, but I can't help it.. Should I leave him alone? Please help.
Clarice Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Oh bless you! You are so young. Yes leave him alone. Get yourself out there and date some other guys. Don't think of it as letting go of him, think of it more as getting some more experience before you get back together. When I think back to when I was 17, I thought I was so in love with this guy but he cheated on me and dumped me. I was so upset but at that age it's all about having fun! That's what I did and a couple of month later he wanted me back so I got back with him but after a while I dumped him! I know it feels like it means so much at the moment but I promise you, you will be ok! You both need to see other people to know what you both want from a relationship. It is very rare to meet at a young age and then go on to marriage etc. Show him what he is missing by being a happy girl who he want's to be with!
Author princesss Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Oh bless you! You are so young. Yes leave him alone. Get yourself out there and date some other guys. Don't think of it as letting go of him, think of it more as getting some more experience before you get back together. When I think back to when I was 17, I thought I was so in love with this guy but he cheated on me and dumped me. I was so upset but at that age it's all about having fun! That's what I did and a couple of month later he wanted me back so I got back with him but after a while I dumped him! I know it feels like it means so much at the moment but I promise you, you will be ok! You both need to see other people to know what you both want from a relationship. It is very rare to meet at a young age and then go on to marriage etc. Show him what he is missing by being a happy girl who he want's to be with! That's what I fear. Seeing him with someone else. Please help me overcome my insecurities! How do I do so?
Clarice Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Take comfort in the fact that even if he does get with someone else it won't last! Not this day and age. Be confident in yourself, she will not be you and it is you that he is used to. You have to completely change your attitude NOW so he looks at you and thinks "wow! why did I break up with her?" Not "OMG I am so glad I broke up with her" You get with someone else, do you think he won't hate that too? I KNOW full well my ex won't find anyone like me the only difference is he is 32! It's harder to meet people as you get older but you must have loads of lads around you with school/college etc. Get a new haircut, new clothes become a classy lady and I promise he will notice. Do not rub it in his face tho, there are ways to subtly do it so he thinks you are moving on
Author princesss Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Take comfort in the fact that even if he does get with someone else it won't last! Not this day and age. Be confident in yourself, she will not be you and it is you that he is used to. You have to completely change your attitude NOW so he looks at you and thinks "wow! why did I break up with her?" Not "OMG I am so glad I broke up with her" You get with someone else, do you think he won't hate that too? I KNOW full well my ex won't find anyone like me the only difference is he is 32! It's harder to meet people as you get older but you must have loads of lads around you with school/college etc. Get a new haircut, new clothes become a classy lady and I promise he will notice. Do not rub it in his face tho, there are ways to subtly do it so he thinks you are moving on Thank you so much. He can't miss me if I'm here right? So I'm going to slowly give him some space until I'm gone and he realizes what he missed. I am his first love and no matter what age, you never forget that. I hope to become a better person and asks for me back. I've done all the waiting and it's his turn to fight for me. If in the end he doesn't, that's not in my control right? I just want to him to miss me like I missed him.
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