PoppyLove89 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Hey guys! So I thought I'd come on here, tell you what happened and then end with the obligatory 'why'...here goes! So I finished work last night and was asked to go for a few drinks by some of my colleagues. Off we went to the hotel in which I used to work (before this new job) and settled down in the sports bar there. My heart sank when I saw my ex-best friend in the 2nd pub on my way past (there are 3 bars in the hotel) I cut contact with him when I discovered that he was stirring crap between me and my ex right after our break up. Aaaanyway, another barman that I know walked past & waved as he was on his way back to the bar in which said ex-best friend was in. I can only imagine that he let slip I was in there as my ex-best friend hadn't seen me as yet. Because before you know it in waltzes the ex-best friend AND the ex-boyfriend!!! They made sure they were stood right in front of the mirrors and I noticed my ex-boyfriend looking at me every so often. The guys I was with (4 boys from work) needed to go out to smoke so I went with them. When we got back in, my ex and the friend had left. BUT they were back before I knew it, this time standing even closer by us. My ex kept on looking over at me and gesturing wildly as he spoke - hopping about telling his stories. The guys I was with, said that, from a boy's perspective, my ex was probably keeping an eye on me seeing as I was with all boys to see if I was hooking up with any of them? But I don't have a clue. I don't understand why he felt the need to come and stand right in front of us? There are 2 other bars they could have gone into. And believe me, had he been in there first and we walked in after, I would have done a U-turn and walked straight back out the bar. But seeing as WE were there first, we stayed. This was the ex that became very, very nasty after the break-up which completely crushed me and he knew it. He then started seeing some 18 year-old a mere month or so after our split; my gut instinct was telling me that he would rush to replace me as soon as we broke up and he did. We haven't been in contact since November and had our last altercation in January when things kicked off about this new girl and me still talking to his sisters. I then moved to Germany for 5 months - which I'm guessing his sisters told him about or this ex-best friend. It only took a week after my return to bump into him again and despite the fact that he was with this new girl, he never took his eyes off me as I walked past (we made full-on eye contact but he clocked me before I noticed him and I didn't realise who I was making eye contact with until I'd walked past). Anyway: WHY DO EXES STICK AROUND WITHIN VIEWING DISTANCE WHEN THEY WANT 'NOTHING' TO DO WITH US AND ARE SEEING OTHER PEOPLE??? (ps. and yes, I was hamming up the laughing and chatting act with the boys I was with to make it look like I couldn't give a flying hoot that he was there...but it was killing me inside.)
motive2002 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 It's just a power thing. People aren't necessarily prepared for the fact that when you dump someone that it's potentially a permanent removal of that person from your life. Like they'd be waiting in the wings in case you come 'round. Just tugging on the leash to see if the dog's still there, so to speak. Some take these "breadcrumbs" and a whole push-pull thing perpetuates. You can have your own power and call the shots. He dumped you and you don't want to be second best. So he can just piss off. 1
Author PoppyLove89 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Yeah, you're right! I reckon he was doing it to see if he could still get a rise out of me....which he didn't! I stayed away and tbh, looking at him, I realised 'I don't even know who you are anymore, you've changed so much and the teenage boy you've reverted to mentally doesn't really have the same appeal!' - mwah ha ha
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