LCman29 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 So I met this girl through a friend. She asked my friend if I was single and once I heard that I pursued her. We planned a date and when that day came it ended up being in her words....the best first date she has ever been on...I completely agreed with her. We just clicked right away. We were able to be our complete selves and just have fun. We did kiss and end up making out a few times. She even said many times how cute we seem together. Near the end of the date she looked at her schedule to figure out when we could do a second date. She said she was going to be busy because of some friends that were coming into town and thats what she was doing later that night. So we planned on the following weekend. So we had our goodnight kiss and said goodbye. When I got home I sent her a text letting her know I had gotten home ok. (we had a few drinks but I was ok to drive) We talked a little bit there but then she said she is out with her friends and had to let me go. Totally no problem with me there. (By the Way she isnt much of a texter or doesnt use social media that much either) So I wasnt going to text her till the end of the weekend to see how it was. But later the next day I was out with some friends near where she lived and my friend that introduced us said I should text her to see if she wanted to come out. So I did. Well no response. Then the following day i was near her place at my buddies house and text to see if she was home to say hi and have a smoke. No response again. So tell me is she ignoring me? Am I being annoying by texting those two texts? Or could she honestly be busy with her friends in town? I just feel confused because it was by far the best first date that either of us had been on and we felt completly natural together. Not to mention she was the one that went for the first kiss. Any help would be great. thanks! PS She did say that she is a little scared of commitment, even though she gave me tons of hints that we would be great together....Well more than hints basically said it straight forward.
CptSaveAho Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 So I met this girl through a friend. She asked my friend if I was single and once I heard that I pursued her. We planned a date and when that day came it ended up being in her words....the best first date she has ever been on...I completely agreed with her. We just clicked right away. We were able to be our complete selves and just have fun. We did kiss and end up making out a few times. She even said many times how cute we seem together. Near the end of the date she looked at her schedule to figure out when we could do a second date. She said she was going to be busy because of some friends that were coming into town and thats what she was doing later that night. So we planned on the following weekend. So we had our goodnight kiss and said goodbye. When I got home I sent her a text letting her know I had gotten home ok. (we had a few drinks but I was ok to drive) We talked a little bit there but then she said she is out with her friends and had to let me go. Totally no problem with me there. (By the Way she isnt much of a texter or doesnt use social media that much either) So I wasnt going to text her till the end of the weekend to see how it was. But later the next day I was out with some friends near where she lived and my friend that introduced us said I should text her to see if she wanted to come out. So I did. Well no response. Then the following day i was near her place at my buddies house and text to see if she was home to say hi and have a smoke. No response again. So tell me is she ignoring me? Am I being annoying by texting those two texts? Or could she honestly be busy with her friends in town? I just feel confused because it was by far the best first date that either of us had been on and we felt completly natural together. Not to mention she was the one that went for the first kiss. Any help would be great. thanks! PS She did say that she is a little scared of commitment, even though she gave me tons of hints that we would be great together....Well more than hints basically said it straight forward. Couple things I see with this situation. . 1) You are too easy, there's no challenge, no mystery. Shes making out with you on the first date. That's stop talking and take me home behavior. You are trying to date someone that doesnt want to date, be in a committed relationship. If someone wants to make out with me on the first date, she automatically entered F Buddy Status. The same principle that applies to you applies to her, too easy, no challenge. 2) Don't plan a second date while on the first one. Let her sit on the date for a while. This behavior plus texting her when "YOU" get home reeks of insecurity. If you want a second date wait 3-5 days and then text or call her and only do it ONCE with a date preplanned. Once the deed is done and everything is set, DISAPPEAR again until date day. Dont talk about how you have been and dont listen to her story in your absence. Great way to get friendzoned 3) Now have fun with this. Don't agree with women on a first date. If they feed you lines like "the best first date she has ever been on" or " She even said many times how cute we seem together" throw it back at them and say something like "you need to date more" or "what mirror are you looking at because I dont see it yet" You set yourself apart from the 10 other guys shes comparing you to. A lot of women dont even know they do this so dont hold it against them, just laugh and play dumb
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