GirlontheLam Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I am sorry, but I am going to disagree with this. I have never, ever seen a man going from friendzone to boyfriend. Once a woman has put you into that catagory in her head...you ain't getting out. One of my closest friends did this. He was in the friendzone for around 10 years. Initially he liked her, but she was "too young" then (she was 16, he was 22). They stayed friends. Dated for 2 years. Now married for 4 with their 1st kid. He was basically the polar opposite of her type in every way. Perfect pairing, they match up well personality wise and always did.
GirlontheLam Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I agree, but I also think a lot of women will find that a man becomes more attractive the more she gets to know him, whereas men usually don't change change their opinions of the attractiveness of a woman. This happens to me all the time. It can take anywhere from minutes to years and my opinion can change completely. My current crush went from OK to hot in the course of an hour conversation. 1
Content Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 One of my closest friends did this. He was in the friendzone for around 10 years. Initially he liked her, but she was "too young" then (she was 16, he was 22). They stayed friends. Dated for 2 years. Now married for 4 with their 1st kid. He was basically the polar opposite of her type in every way. Perfect pairing, they match up well personality wise and always did. That's different..i think the point is if a women finds a man unattractive physically no amount of time will change that 1
LC1976 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 (edited) Psshh. It happens. It just doesn't happen the way people think it happens. How so? And I have never seen it. And that with 25 yrs of exp. dating and serious relationships. If a woman does not find you attractive; no force on earth will change her mind. Edited August 27, 2012 by LC1976
ThaWholigan Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 How so? And I have never seen it. And that with 25 yrs of exp. dating and serious relationships. If a woman does not find you attractive; no force on earth will change her mind. Because no woman is the same, and a man can also change the way he appears to her - gradual process, but can be done. Regardless, I know a few girls who ended up dating their friends - the problem is how you deal with the friendzone, and how you understand being attractive in general. If there's a lot of banter, sexual tension can be created between the two. Attraction works in odd ways for each individual person. Depends on the woman. I think that most of the women that guys end up being friendzoned by, are typically sought after to some degree, or likely experience attraction in a way that dictates that if she doesn't see you as attractive within a short time, she never will. Of course, even that isn't always set in stone, but still...
GirlontheLam Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 That's different..i think the point is if a women finds a man unattractive physically no amount of time will change that Actually she didn't think he was attractive initially at all. I met her around 2 or 3 years after she met him, she did not describe him as good looking. She called him smart. He was basically shorter, bigger and darker than her "type" of guy. Totally changed her tune later. He didn't change at all. Now in her eyes, he is super handsome. Her type was Shemar Moore or Nigel Barker. Basically light skinned pretty boys. He is more like Cedric the Entertainer. There you go. A complete 180 based 100% on personality. (He is pretty much the smartest person I know, has a hilarious sarcastic sense of humor, and is really down to earth. Completely balanced her personality)
Negative Nancy Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Waiting for somebody to say they prefer a guy 5'7 or under. waiting for somedude to say he prefers an A cup or less
Negative Nancy Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 There are types we prefer, but we will date outside that if we think she is cute and cool. So in other words, men settle but secretly still desire their "preferred type" and would probably cheat if they had a chance to get with their type. Yes, not like we didn't already know that.
Anela Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Waiting for somebody to say they prefer a guy 5'7 or under. Waiting for someone to say they prefer a 35+ year old woman... We could do this all day. 1
Feelsgoodman Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I like women who are petite without looking anorexic. Big boobs are not necessary; they just have to be big enough to make her look feminine/non-flat. I like a nicely shaped butt, but not a big one. Wide hips and thick thighs are huge turn offs. So is short hair on 95% of women (there are exceptions). IMO, there is nothing more unattractive than a fat woman. Obesity is the antithesis of femininity.
Negative Nancy Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Waiting for someone to say they prefer a 35+ year old woman... very true response
Feelsgoodman Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I have not . A girl tried to force me to have sex with her once, but I had NO interest in her sexually, (even though she was a very attractive girl) her personality did nothing for me (Let's do this, let's do that) and thus, I felt nothing. That's when I knew that I couldn't just sleep with a woman I didn't care for deeply (no homo ) Not sure why you had to add "no homo" at the end? In any event, your belief in being "demisexual" notwithstanding, I suggest you try to have sex with a woman even if you don't deeply care for her. You may find your entire outlook changing as a consequence.
O'farrell Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 waiting for somedude to say he prefers an A cup or less Do you know how depressing it is to hear that being 5'7 is the equivalent of A cups?
Negative Nancy Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Whats even more depressing is that women who wine about a cups can get implants to solve their self esteem self hating woes. and men can have height-surgery neither one is fun or painfree or even worth it, so its sick that you even brought it up as an option
AlexCross Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 and men can have height-surgery neither one is fun or painfree or even worth it, so its sick that you even brought it up as an option Now you know how i feel reading your posts. 2
silicone Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 and men can have height-surgery neither one is fun or painfree or even worth it, so its sick that you even brought it up as an option You do realise that the results from breast implants out do the results from height surgery, don't you?
O'farrell Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 height surgery is much different than implants lol Totally different. And its much more expensive too. Many men go abroad because its too expensive in the US.
Negative Nancy Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 (edited) Now you know how i feel reading your posts. put me on ignore then, i could care less You do realise that the results from breast implants out do the results from height surgery, don't you? no, i dont realize that at all. to some women those few inches from a height surgery probably make as much difference as going from b to c or d to some men does. again, i dont agree with either, but the hypocrisy needs to be pointed out but i dont need to focus on the breast augmentation subject to make my point if it gets you guys panties in such a twist - anela brought up another example that you guys seem to conveniently ignore: men don't prefer women over a certain age either, and THAT is as much out of women's control as men's height is. Edited August 27, 2012 by Negative Nancy 2
silicone Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 put me on ignore then, i could care less no, i dont realize that at all. to some women those few inches from a height surgery probably make as much difference as going from b to c or d to some men does. again, i dont agree with either, but the hypocrisy needs to be pointed out but i dont need to focus on the breast augmentation subject to make my point if it gets you guys panties in such a twist - anela brought up another example that you guys seem to conveniently ignore: men don't prefer women over a certain age either, and THAT is as much out of women's control as men's height is. I've not met many women in that age category who I see as datable, to be honest. Most people look for those in their age group, for dating.
AlexCross Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I've not met many women in that age category who I see as datable, to be honest. Most people look for those in their age group, for dating. You should listen to Nancy, she gives the most sound, unbiased, sound advice on here. Truly reading her posts gives me insight into interpersonal relationships. So well spoken she is.
Negative Nancy Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I've not met many women in that age category who I see as datable, to be honest. Most people look for those in their age group, for dating. so you're telling me a 50 year old man is going to choose a 50 year old woman who looks her age if he had the chance to get with a, say, 30 year old? all things being equal except for their age (and the way it shows in the older woman), I strongly doubt the man would go for the 50 year old. so how exactly do you explain and justify that, and more importantly, how does it give you any right then to be mad at women who pick a man of a certain height when they have the choice? again, this doesn't apply to me as I don't base my attraction on such criteria - but I will point out theoretical inconsistencies and hypocrisy. men always complain about women being shallow for going after a certain height or bank account size, but they convenientely seem to forget that they are just as shallow and discriminating when it comes to women's looks, bodies and age. 3
batyote Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 men always complain about women being shallow for going after a certain height or bank account size, but they convenientely seem to forget that they are just as shallow and discriminating when it comes to women's looks, bodies and age. You know why this is. 90% of all men are blatantly sexist and misogynistic. Nancy, you are a wise woman. 1
silicone Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 so you're telling me a 50 year old man is going to choose a 50 year old woman who looks her age if he had the chance to get with a, say, 30 year old? all things being equal except for their age (and the way it shows in the older woman), I strongly doubt the man would go for the 50 year old. so how exactly do you explain and justify that, and more importantly, how does it give you any right then to be mad at women who pick a man of a certain height when they have the choice? again, this doesn't apply to me as I don't base my attraction on such criteria - but I will point out theoretical inconsistencies and hypocrisy. men always complain about women being shallow for going after a certain height or bank account size, but they convenientely seem to forget that they are just as shallow and discriminating when it comes to women's looks, bodies and age. I've not known a single man over the age 50 who has gotten with a woman in their 30s. In fact, I don't think they even care. I will go out and ask, because I happen to live in an area with lots of older people. I still am yet to find a man who's said no to a woman because of her age, place height in here, and well, we both know that height is a significant determining factor, more so than age.
silicone Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 You should listen to Nancy, she gives the most sound, unbiased, sound advice on here. Truly reading her posts gives me insight into interpersonal relationships. So well spoken she is. With all due respect, I am speaking from my experience and what I am seeing. Both of which are contradictory to what is being said. How many men specify age as preferences or requirements? If I get an older lady hitting on me, and I have, more power to me.
AlexCross Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 With all due respect, I am speaking from my experience and what I am seeing. Both of which are contradictory to what is being said. Sarcasm my friend. Sarcasm. If you think for one minute I take her seriously. Out of risk of being infracted. I plead the fifth.
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