tom28 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Hi all, Have a question for you: Is she interested in me or have I got it all wrong? The story goes as follows: We met a few weeks back before she went onto a work assignment abroad. Took her out for dinner the night before. Was kind of a farewell dinner but kept things ambiguous. Did not want to go over the top and ask her out on a dinner-date the second day I had met her. Anyways, we had a really great time. She was flirtatious I'd say, perhaps also a bit nervous, at least didn't expect it to be taken out. Dropped her off at her place, did not want to go for a kiss, felt it to be too much too soon. Same night she texted me how much she enjoyed the evening and asked me to stay in touch, as both of us were about to travel. Since then, we've been texting each other pretty much every day or at least every other day. Plenty of smilies in all our texts. Calls me dear, so do I. As of late she told me how much she likes talking to me, and that I would be "sooo cute". We usually chat for at least an hour or so, just before we go to bed. She really wants to send me something for my b'day as well. Should there be much doubt that we are on the same page? I mean start to seriously like her. I can't wait to see her in person again. Will have to wait though as she is still travelling the next 2 months, can't really ask her out. So I was thinking of inviting her, to spend a few days at mine. Would you think this is too much too soon? Don't get me wrong, getting her into bed would not be the objective, simply to spend time with her and see how things would go. Many thanks! Tom
RedRobin Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Hi all, Have a question for you: Is she interested in me or have I got it all wrong? The story goes as follows: We met a few weeks back before she went onto a work assignment abroad. Took her out for dinner the night before. Was kind of a farewell dinner but kept things ambiguous. Did not want to go over the top and ask her out on a dinner-date the second day I had met her. Anyways, we had a really great time. She was flirtatious I'd say, perhaps also a bit nervous, at least didn't expect it to be taken out. Dropped her off at her place, did not want to go for a kiss, felt it to be too much too soon. Same night she texted me how much she enjoyed the evening and asked me to stay in touch, as both of us were about to travel. Since then, we've been texting each other pretty much every day or at least every other day. Plenty of smilies in all our texts. Calls me dear, so do I. As of late she told me how much she likes talking to me, and that I would be "sooo cute". We usually chat for at least an hour or so, just before we go to bed. She really wants to send me something for my b'day as well. Should there be much doubt that we are on the same page? I mean start to seriously like her. I can't wait to see her in person again. Will have to wait though as she is still travelling the next 2 months, can't really ask her out. So I was thinking of inviting her, to spend a few days at mine. Would you think this is too much too soon? Don't get me wrong, getting her into bed would not be the objective, simply to spend time with her and see how things would go. Many thanks! Tom She definately sounds interested. You are inviting her to where exactly?
Author tom28 Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 Was thinking to where I live. Say a long weekend for starters, no expectations per se if you know what I mean.
RedRobin Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Was thinking to where I live. Say a long weekend for starters, no expectations per se if you know what I mean. Your personal home or your town? If you invite her to your personal home, you are sending a message that you hope to have sex. At the very least, you are applying pressure (albeit subtle). Not all women respond to that positively. You would be advised to find other ways to gauge her romantic interest than inviting her to stay at your place. Me in particular, I would do an abrupt U-turn and be put off by that suggestion. Especially from a near stranger. If you are going to make a suggestion like that, you should offer to put her up in a nearby hotel of her choosing. Take the effort of finding some nice places. Is there some reason you couldn't visit her where she is traveling?
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