AwptiK Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 I made a thread about this already, I wish I could edit it and shorten it in hopes for replies, but I can't edit it, so i'll rewrite a hopefully shorter story. I do really need any advice I can get :/ There isn't a definite thought for a second chance, but this is a hopeful type of thread.. I'm 21, she's 19. We only dated for the summer. She started her freshman year of college this past week. Over the past week with school looming, there has been a lack of certainty in our relationship. Two days ago, she broke up with me. Her reasoning was simply that she needs to focus on herself right now and do her own thing. Everyone loved and supported us as a couple, but, her father has constantly told her, "You shouldn't get all wrapped up in one guy right now, you're young and I don't want you to get hurt again." I suppose she finally listened.. The question isn't even whether or not she likes me / wants to be with me... I've heard her brag on and on about how great I was to/with her, how amazing it felt to get "spoiled" with flowers, actual dates on occasion, etc. The thing that meant the most to me, was her saying she was more comfortable with me than anyone, how she always felt like she had to impress others or have a bit of a front up. Now, to everything going through my head. My best friend went through a similar situation, but with a more established relationship.. 2.5 years vs a few months. Last year, his now-fiance left him when she started freshman year. She partied, did everything a freshman experiences for the first time, but she came back when she realized what she lost. The night she broke up with me, she called a close mutual friend in the middle of the night while I was at his house. She had no idea I was there, but they talked and I heard her through the speakerphone. She cried the entire time, and kept trying to justify out loud that she needs to focus on herself. Mutual friend, we'll call him M, kept saying that focusing on school and dating can be done... And M kept on by saying that i'm smart and i'd help her out. (To which she agreed...she agreed with every point he made that her and I should keep dating.) In summary though, she expressed doubts with her decision, but she also kept saying, "What if I go back and it doesn't work out?" I think that's a little immature of a thought to have this early, but whatever. The main point she made though, which struck a nerve, was "I wish I could just put us on hold for like a year, get through my first year of school, and then pick back up." M's only response to that was, "That's selfish. I'm not going to let him wait for you, no one should wait for anyone." She decided to get off the phone and sleep on things. And again yesterday, M and I were texting and I mentioned her. He asked what was so special about her and I sent a pretty lengthy text back. He immediately said, "You need to copy/paste that to her, or I will." And I said I wasn't going to talk to her, but he actually went and sent it to her. ... She called him crying again, but she didn't say much because she was with a group of people at the time. We haven't directly spoken since the breakup call, and I don't intend on changing that unless I get a call. M is also going to ignore her at this point too. M's known her for about 3 years and he thinks she'll realize what she's lost after a bit of time, and I hope that happens. I deleted pictures of us off my facebook, any wall posts or mentions of being together, like her usual, "At xxxxx with xxxxx". Turns out it hurts a lot when someone does it in return, as I noticed her page was void of any mention/status/picture of me now too. I'll end here, because i've typed more than I wanted to already..I can only hope with how much she expressed caring and how I was everything she ever wanted and needed, that she'll come around before i've moved on. Regardless, for the first time since we ever started talking, she's seeing what it's like to be without me. Thanks everyone
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