InAFog Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Well he managed to do it again, totally mind f**ked me. Sent me a picture yesterday of him getting ready for this local festival that we participated in every summer together. Didn't respond. It hurt but I got over it. Or thought I did. Now I can't stop thinking about how much fun we always had there. How he's going to go and meet all these new people and its just one more thing he'll be used to doing without me. It makes me so mad and hurt that he is having this great summer and still doing all the things we used to do - with other people. Sigh.
carhill Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Yep, it's a process and often sucks along the way. I personally like NC with tests along the way and that worked well for me during/after divorce. I recently had a good test, meeting the boyfriend my exW has been living with for a couple of years, and had no emotional reaction, though I did feel some annoyance at my exW's typical methods of attempting to manipulate me, but that was separate from her BF and completely a mirror on my own propensity and fault to give people the benefit of the doubt. IMO, it's a good idea, when you confront such feelings, to look in the mirror and say 'what's my responsibility here?' To me, that's part of the process of healing. My sympathies and IMO it will get better. Good luck.
Am313 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I'm sorry That really sucks. If it was me though, whether I was the dumper or the dumpee, if I sent that it wouldn't be to mind **** her, it would be because I miss her and the experience reminded me of her. However, that's just me.
Author InAFog Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 I was just thinking too that he might still have me on a group text and was sending it to his family. If i were'nt in NC i'd tell him to take me off. Next it gets broken I'll let him know...
BewitchedandBothered Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Why don't you go out and do fun things, too? No reason you can't go to the festival and meet new people. Don't let this keep you prisoner. There's lots of fun times to be had. If he can go out, so can you. He sent you that picture to rub it in; rub salt in your wound. Pathetic; he only wants you to think he's having a blast so it would get under your skin. Scrape off the dirt and pretend it doesn't hurt. He's not worth it.
Author InAFog Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 No, he isn't worth it. But I know I'm not in a spot where I can just run itno him right now. His life gets to go merrily along as he still has the house, the animals, the friends, the good job. All of which I lost during this whole mess. Nope, just can't handle it right now.
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