Coffee20 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 I just can't get it. I can understand they want to make themselves to look better than they are but sometimes when they know me and there is no point in lying I just can't get it. For example my ex lied a lot, a lot about himself at the beginning, but because he talked a lot, he forgot very quickly and told me one story different ways I knew it was a lie. I sometimes knew when he lied but I let him, because he lied about himself and I seriously thought he was that insecure. Then he lied about what he did and today I remembered a few of his stories about policy, economy and our country and from curiosity I searched it on the web. He lied about it and told me things that had never happened with very serious face. He lied about so many things and most of them I realized after BU that I don't know what to think about it anymore. Guess I was a really "good joke" for him :/. And I know a lot of people who just sit and talk to me politely (not my friends but usually strangers, I guess they want my attention) but what they say don't make any sense.....I always say like oh really? or interesting...but I don't get them.
Exit Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 *shrug* Humans are strange and flawed. Insecure. Driven by ego. Kind of like you described, I've been in situations where I'm with someone who I consider a good friend and I wouldn't hold it against them if they told me the most embarrassing thing in the world about themselves, but instead I can tell that they're lying to me about this little detail or that, just trying to feel better about themselves I guess. Apparently some people made it through childhood without a parent or teacher being able to successfully teach them the difference between honesty and lying.
Author Coffee20 Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 *shrug* Humans are strange and flawed. Insecure. Driven by ego. Kind of like you described, I've been in situations where I'm with someone who I consider a good friend and I wouldn't hold it against them if they told me the most embarrassing thing in the world about themselves, but instead I can tell that they're lying to me about this little detail or that, just trying to feel better about themselves I guess. Apparently some people made it through childhood without a parent or teacher being able to successfully teach them the difference between honesty and lying. well I sometimes can't understand why he lied to me about food that he ate, about stupid small things he did, about what things he had at home, very useless lies...like he couldn't even recognize what is the truth
Jingle14 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 (edited) My ex wouldn't know the truth if it bit him on the arse. He was a compulsive liar and I now don't know whether there was any truth in his words when he looked me in the eye on a daily basis and said he loved and adored me. He even told me he'd had a vasectomy - he hadn't, he was infertile (I found this out from my ex husband's new partner who was friends with 'his' ex wife, completely humiliating). And yet I still begged him to stay with me even after that. And yet he had me believe our break up was all down to me. Its taken over a year to get it into my head that he is lying scum but I also know I'll never let anyone ever get close again, he destroyed my faith in human nature, this person who I adored more than anyone in my life. I was truthful and honest but am the one who is broken while he is a lying scumbag who is happy now with someone else - I hope she's on the receiving end of his lies and controlling behaviour now, that he is writing horrible notes about her behind her back like he did with me (and which I found by accident the first time but went looking for after that, and found them). And yes, I am bitter and I hope he's having a horrible life after the mess he made of mine and the aftermath he left me to deal with (and still am, 15 months on). Edited August 26, 2012 by Jingle14
Author Coffee20 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 My ex wouldn't know the truth if it bit him on the arse. He was a compulsive liar and I now don't know whether there was any truth in his words when he looked me in the eye on a daily basis and said he loved and adored me. He even told me he'd had a vasectomy - he hadn't, he was infertile (I found this out from my ex husband's new partner who was friends with 'his' ex wife, completely humiliating). And yet I still begged him to stay with me even after that. And yet he had me believe our break up was all down to me. Its taken over a year to get it into my head that he is lying scum but I also know I'll never let anyone ever get close again, he destroyed my faith in human nature, this person who I adored more than anyone in my life. I was truthful and honest but am the one who is broken while he is a lying scumbag who is happy now with someone else - I hope she's on the receiving end of his lies and controlling behaviour now, that he is writing horrible notes about her behind her back like he did with me (and which I found by accident the first time but went looking for after that, and found them). And yes, I am bitter and I hope he's having a horrible life after the mess he made of mine and the aftermath he left me to deal with (and still am, 15 months on). Hello, thanks for your answer and I am sorry to hear that. God how much I understand you, my ex was the same, I was so honest to him and he lied and lied and blah. Of course he is now happy too. I ask myself every day who can I trust now.
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