Tree_Salmon Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 So it's been 3 weeks since I denied my ex sex (because she's still dating her rebound) and I went NC again. I've gone up to 3months NC in the past with her. I have a feeling this one will be permanent. In the meantime I've been spending time with tons of great people and have a handful of potentially great women but I refuse to be in any relationship for a long time. The only problem is, in the last week I've been dreaming allot about her. This messes with my head sometimes. Mostly in the morning. My life is very busy so I can easily stay focused on moving forward but when I dream its very vivid and brings me back a bit. Can anyone relate?
youngnlove89 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 So it's been 3 weeks since I denied my ex sex (because she's still dating her rebound) and I went NC again. I've gone up to 3months NC in the past with her. I have a feeling this one will be permanent. In the meantime I've been spending time with tons of great people and have a handful of potentially great women but I refuse to be in any relationship for a long time. The only problem is, in the last week I've been dreaming allot about her. This messes with my head sometimes. Mostly in the morning. My life is very busy so I can easily stay focused on moving forward but when I dream its very vivid and brings me back a bit. Can anyone relate? Yes, I just woke up and I had a dream about him last night. A good one, like I wish I could have stayed in my dream longer, the only time I can have him. I remember waking up from it as if it were a nightmare and shouting "No!" I don't know why I did that. Maybe because my subconscious knew I'm not supposed to be thinking of him. But I know how it is to dream about someone and then have it be so real, so vivid that when you wake up it feels like you just broke up all over again. The pain comes back right away.
Author Tree_Salmon Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 Yes, I just woke up and I had a dream about him last night. A good one, like I wish I could have stayed in my dream longer, the only time I can have him. I remember waking up from it as if it were a nightmare and shouting "No!" I don't know why I did that. Maybe because my subconscious knew I'm not supposed to be thinking of him. But I know how it is to dream about someone and then have it be so real, so vivid that when you wake up it feels like you just broke up all over again. The pain comes back right away. For me it just pisses me off because I don't want to revisit that anymore. It is still pretty early but I rather move this along already. Sometimes they're really good and I hate being mind f**ked by myself.
BeautyRush Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Yes. I dreamed of my ex almost everytime I closed my eyes. Even for a short nap, he was always in my dreams! That was during 2-3 weeks of my NC but when he started contacting me during the 3rd week, all those dreams were gone. Maybe because I knew then he was having a hard time coping, too! I was the dumpee by the way and it was a very nasty break up. So yah, I was so glad its over
Author Tree_Salmon Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 I'm sure it'll stop eventually but for now its annoying. I feel like it sets you back a few days every time you have one. Even though i was the dumper and know my life needs to be this way right now. I had no choice.
youngnlove89 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 We dream about them because we haven't let them go subconsciously. We are still holding onto them. We still love them. We still miss them. We want them in our lives and they can't be there, so we put them in our dreams. The moment we let go, we move on, we don't dream of them anymore.
Author Tree_Salmon Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 We dream about them because we haven't let them go subconsciously. We are still holding onto them. We still love them. We still miss them. We want them in our lives and they can't be there, so we put them in our dreams. The moment we let go, we move on, we don't dream of them anymore. Yeah, I've been there before. This is the first time I've ever felt this strongly for a person. I really thought she'd be it. It's sad but i'm lucky to know many great people and it helps to spend time with them.
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