Thatguy80 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Ok so I need some input. I posted about this a while back and have some new info. I'm just not used to this and subconsciously I find myself wanting to run away from this girl even though I believe she's genuine and a good thing. So I've been dating this girl about a month. She was pretty sheltered when she was a kid and it kind of carried over into adulthood. Every date we've been on she seems to really have a good time. The latest date she made with me and paid for it as well. My problem lies when we get physical (as in just holding hands, kissing, etc). She let me know that I'm actually the first guy she's ever kissed, and she never really dated much in the past. I was pretty amazed by this as she's attractive and in her mid 20's. She'll always kiss me, but she'll seem to kind of resist at first... every time. Like I'll get the cheek or she'll try to just hug me. But when she does kiss me, it's drawn out. I'm the type of guy that if a girl hesitates to kiss me, I'll chalk it up to low interest and move on. I've really been fighting this urge as she really has some good qualities and I want to see where it goes. I've dated quite a few girls, and I've had girls that were into me and some not. I've never had one be hesitant like this one when she was into me. No matter what she says, actions always speak louder than words.. I kinda feel like she's trying to force something inside of herself - or that's what I fear. I just don't wanna put either of us in that position, especially if I choose to let my guard down and pursue something with her. Any girls out there like this or guys that have dealt with this before? Thanks!
kassy Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Every time? Are there big make out sessions at all? How many times have you guys kissed? Just a handful or many many times. She is probably just very nervous and self conscious. Probably worried about kissing leading to more things that she is nervous about. I think she sounds legitimate and probably really likes you... Otherwise she probably would have done everything earlier with some other guy. If you want to make it work I think you need to have a whole world of patience and also talk a lot about if she is comfortable and how she wants to move things forward, and what you can do to make it an enjoyable experience for her without making her feel pressured. She is probably worried about feeling pressured but at the same time with her lack of experience she probably also wants you to take the lead. So you'll need to communicate a lot to get the right balance. If you can keep things fun and light hearted you'll probably do better. But I think you are going to really have to talk and get her to trust you and for her to know you really like her and it's not just about sex - but that you also do find her very attractive physically. Seems like a lot of effort to me and it's great that you want to make it... You must really like her. I hope it goes well for you
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