mortensorchid Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 I am feeling a bit lonely tonight. I am counteracting this by going out quite a bit and doing some wholesome things rather than drinking until the wee hours. But my last serious bf has a new gf now (he called to tell me this the other week because he didn't want me to find out on the Facebook newsfeed). He said to me once while we were together "I don't know what you see in me." At the time, he didn't have a job, was/is deep in debt, and lives with his mom. I said it didn't matter to me, because I would've felt the same about him if he were a CEO of a corporation, a farmer or a prince. I cared for him. But, he didn't want to take it to the next level. After six months he broke it off. He said every woman he's ever been with has broken it off with him because of his bad bahaviors (ex. getting drunk), and he wasn't going to let that happen with me. He was not the first either. I am surprised at how many guys feel so insecure and cannot hold their own with me. ANd now he has a new gf which is doomed to failure if he is following his old patterns. I have a high level of tolerance, more than most people. But that made me frustrated. We have been told all our lives to be tolerant of others in some way, shape or form, but it seems that it's not a two way street. Maybe because of this it's not the best thing anymore, am I too much of a pushover or is it possibly to be over tolerant? I just feel lonely tonight, a tinge of jealousy as well over this new gf (not that I would ever admit it to him or someone else), and not seeing good prospects now.
amaysngrace Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Are you too tolerant? Would you accept something about a guy that you wouldn't accept for yourself? Lacking a backbone can be a turnoff for me.
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