dannykeyz831 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Ok so I've been broken up with my ex gf since early july, last saw eachother a month, ago, and have been in nc for 2 weeks. On my last email to her, I said my final goodbye and wished her the best of luck in life. Previously, she had broke nc before this because of a situation that we were having with our landlord and not having received a deposit money that she had put down for us when we were leaving together. Well she had finally received it..not the amount she was expecting but received it none the less. It was that same day that we said our final goodbye. Fast foward a week and a half, she emails me saying how it was total bs that she had not received a higher amount on the deposit money. She sounded pretty uspet. I don't get why she emailed me when she knows that it hurts me just like the first time she broke nc. She dumped me and then started seeing someone else right after and I just hate how every time she has a problem she has to come to me. I've just been angry lately cuz of how selfish she is and I've also started thinking about last year when she cheated on me and how heartbroken I was. I was doing good for the first 3 weeks but these last few days have been nothing but angry thoughts about her. How do I get rid of these thoughts?
Tree_Salmon Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Anger comes and goes. She comes back to you because you're probably comforting her throughout the relationship and shes dependent on your help. She'll probably do it until you stop giving her attention or until her new guy gives her enough of it himself. Don't let her get you down. I still get angry thinking about the stupid s**t she did but i never let it control me. Take all her power away. You are currently giving it 1
Author dannykeyz831 Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 She's 24 but totally acts like a 17 year old. I hope one day she finally realizes all the **** that she's put me through. We've never been in nc for more than 2 months but I'm done with her. She's always had the power and never feels like her love life is ever threatened because of me being her backup guy. When her rebound relationship implodes (like always)..she going to be in for a nice surprise. I won't be there period!
oracle Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Ok so I've been broken up with my ex gf since early july, last saw eachother a month, ago, and have been in nc for 2 weeks. On my last email to her, I said my final goodbye and wished her the best of luck in life. Previously, she had broke nc before this because of a situation that we were having with our landlord and not having received a deposit money that she had put down for us when we were leaving together. Well she had finally received it..not the amount she was expecting but received it none the less. It was that same day that we said our final goodbye. Fast foward a week and a half, she emails me saying how it was total bs that she had not received a higher amount on the deposit money. She sounded pretty uspet. I don't get why she emailed me when she knows that it hurts me just like the first time she broke nc. She dumped me and then started seeing someone else right after and I just hate how every time she has a problem she has to come to me. I've just been angry lately cuz of how selfish she is and I've also started thinking about last year when she cheated on me and how heartbroken I was. I was doing good for the first 3 weeks but these last few days have been nothing but angry thoughts about her. How do I get rid of these thoughts? Read my post at the top of the thread. Apply the three rules to your situation. Also.. keep in mind, any loss has a natural grieving process. Anger is one of those steps, there is nothing wrong with it. Sadly there is no short cut to moving on.
atarisboy86 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 She's 24 but totally acts like a 17 year old. I hope one day she finally realizes all the **** that she's put me through. We've never been in nc for more than 2 months but I'm done with her. She's always had the power and never feels like her love life is ever threatened because of me being her backup guy. When her rebound relationship implodes (like always)..she going to be in for a nice surprise. I won't be there period! Hey Danny, I'm in a similar situation to yours. My ex just turned 23 and also acts very immature. I'm very happy that you're done being the backup guy. I'm glad that you're going to be moving on from that situation. I think we all get there at our own pace, but we have to start loving ourselves and respecting ourselves and having that dignity to not be someone's option when they were our only. Good luck and you WILL overcome this situation and move on! 1
Author dannykeyz831 Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 Hey Danny, I'm in a similar situation to yours. My ex just turned 23 and also acts very immature. I'm very happy that you're done being the backup guy. I'm glad that you're going to be moving on from that situation. I think we all get there at our own pace, but we have to start loving ourselves and respecting ourselves and having that dignity to not be someone's option when they were our only. Good luck and you WILL overcome this situation and move on! Thanks man I really appreciate it. Her maturity level is not on par with other girls her age which is why I think she acts the way she does. She didn't meet her dad until she was 16 so that might have also played a role. She is super religious yet she did what she did to me last year which just goes to show you how underdeveloped her mind is. I get that she wants to try things out with other people and that she's not perfect but all I wanted out of her was lil bit of truth and honesty which I never received. It would have made all those bad situations between us go a bit smoother. Just feel like telling her off.
atarisboy86 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Thanks man I really appreciate it. Her maturity level is not on par with other girls her age which is why I think she acts the way she does. She didn't meet her dad until she was 16 so that might have also played a role. She is super religious yet she did what she did to me last year which just goes to show you how underdeveloped her mind is. I get that she wants to try things out with other people and that she's not perfect but all I wanted out of her was lil bit of truth and honesty which I never received. It would have made all those bad situations between us go a bit smoother. Just feel like telling her off. I completely understand that telling her off might make you feel better but remember what Tree Salmon wrote earlier about the power. Take her power away. She no longer has the power to make you upset. The opposite of love is not hate but indifference. I too have to deal with my ex since the breakup but I treat it like a business transaction...not rude but not friendly...it's cordial business and that's it. No chit chat or anything. You'll get there man...and you'll find a girl that appreciates what you have to offer.
Occu3.14'd Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Danny, The hell with her. I want to hear the most amazing song you've ever produced. Get going on it.
Author dannykeyz831 Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 Danny, The hell with her. I want to hear the most amazing song you've ever produced. Get going on it. Thanks haha. Ya man we need to get going with that. How's the nc been going for ya? I seem to have managed well for the first 3 weeks but as you can see It sort of reached a plateau.
Occu3.14'd Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Thanks haha. Ya man we need to get going with that. How's the nc been going for ya? I seem to have managed well for the first 3 weeks but as you can see It sort of reached a plateau. It sucks. Like you, I was able to make it through the first few weeks okay, but now it seems to be getting worse. Each day that goes by brings me closer to the realization that it really is over. She really is no longer any part of my life. (man it kills me to say that)
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