youngnlove89 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 It's like he died. He is no longer with me. He is gone. He has ignored me in three technologies: texting, dating site, and email. It is over. I frankly get the hint. I mine as well call it a death. It is if you think about it. It's a death of a relationship and I'm in the mourning process. I know I have said bad things about this guy on here, but he was a good person. He did care for me and I believe he loved me in the only way he knew how. Unfortunately, not the same way I did. Tonight is lonely. But I don't feel an ache anymore. I can't cry. I feel rather numb to it all. What is going on? I remember going through previous heartbreaks and crying for days and feeling sick to my stomach. I feel fine this round. I mean, yea sometimes my heart hurts, but in a different way. Like I can't respond to it. I started to ponder whether it was infatuation. Was it really love that I felt for this guy? When we were together, I never was fully happy because he couldn't be what I wanted him to be. I was happy, but just something was missing. I can't put my finger on it. I think I have a problem. I have never told anyone this so prepare and please don't judge. I think I might be a little too into sex. I think I might be addicted to it. And maybe he was what fueled my addiction. I think I miss his sex more than I actually miss him. Because I ask myself what I miss about him and all I can think of is sexual things. Why is this? Is this possible?
Tree_Salmon Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 It's like he died. He is no longer with me. He is gone. He has ignored me in three technologies: texting, dating site, and email. It is over. I frankly get the hint. I mine as well call it a death. It is if you think about it. It's a death of a relationship and I'm in the mourning process. I know I have said bad things about this guy on here, but he was a good person. He did care for me and I believe he loved me in the only way he knew how. Unfortunately, not the same way I did. Tonight is lonely. But I don't feel an ache anymore. I can't cry. I feel rather numb to it all. What is going on? I remember going through previous heartbreaks and crying for days and feeling sick to my stomach. I feel fine this round. I mean, yea sometimes my heart hurts, but in a different way. Like I can't respond to it. I started to ponder whether it was infatuation. Was it really love that I felt for this guy? When we were together, I never was fully happy because he couldn't be what I wanted him to be. I was happy, but just something was missing. I can't put my finger on it. I think I have a problem. I have never told anyone this so prepare and please don't judge. I think I might be a little too into sex. I think I might be addicted to it. And maybe he was what fueled my addiction. I think I miss his sex more than I actually miss him. Because I ask myself what I miss about him and all I can think of is sexual things. Why is this? Is this possible? Who knows what it was. You'll probably come up with ten more ideas in the months to come. As long as you learn and grow from it. It's going to take a long time.
Occu3.14'd Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Seriously youngnlove... You're an attractive and intelligent woman in her early 20's. You could literally go out on one night and come home with 10 different guys' phone numbers. Now if you do this 10 times, you'll have 100 numbers. Odds are definitely in your favor that at least ONE of them will make you happy.
mickleb Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 It's like he died. He is no longer with me. He is gone. He has ignored me in three technologies: texting, dating site, and email. It is over. I frankly get the hint. I mine as well call it a death. It is if you think about it. It's a death of a relationship and I'm in the mourning process. I know I have said bad things about this guy on here, but he was a good person. He did care for me and I believe he loved me in the only way he knew how. Unfortunately, not the same way I did. Tonight is lonely. But I don't feel an ache anymore. I can't cry. I feel rather numb to it all. What is going on? I remember going through previous heartbreaks and crying for days and feeling sick to my stomach. I feel fine this round. I mean, yea sometimes my heart hurts, but in a different way. Like I can't respond to it. I started to ponder whether it was infatuation. Was it really love that I felt for this guy? When we were together, I never was fully happy because he couldn't be what I wanted him to be. I was happy, but just something was missing. I can't put my finger on it. I think I have a problem. I have never told anyone this so prepare and please don't judge. I think I might be a little too into sex. I think I might be addicted to it. And maybe he was what fueled my addiction. I think I miss his sex more than I actually miss him. Because I ask myself what I miss about him and all I can think of is sexual things. Why is this? Is this possible? What I get from this, darling, is that you like drama. Not in an out-of control, LOOK AT ME!!! way, but just something to be aware of. Is that all you desire, at the moment? 1
Dblock10 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 i feel this way to sometimes about my ex, i think thats what i really liked the most, however she is really cute and pretty so that just makes me desire that with her even more. i dont know anymore. its all in the past. Problem i have is that since she left this time to work and live abroad for a year, she has stayed in touch, or tried to. last time she never bothered. but i haven't replied to her msg. i guess hearing about someones life that you want to be part of but can't is only going to work against you right?
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 What I get from this, darling, is that you like drama. Not in an out-of control, LOOK AT ME!!! way, but just something to be aware of. Is that all you desire, at the moment? Drama? I don't know what you mean. I always said I don't like drama. I'm not trying to start it, I just want me ex-bf back and I'm trying to figure out why? Is it because I miss him or I miss who I thought he was? I guess I'm trying to give excuses to why I should not want him back. I'm trying to tell my mind anything so I can move on. They say the mind is the most powerful thing, and if I turned on this switch to love him, can't I turn it off if I really wanted to?
lawlessloveless Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 What I get from this, darling, is that you like drama. Not in an out-of control, LOOK AT ME!!! way, but just something to be aware of. Is that all you desire, at the moment? Drama? Really? youngnlove, you miss him. Maybe you have good memories of a sexual nature that you miss...doesn't mean you're a nympho. It's ok. Every relationship has differences and maybe with him, sex was an area where you both communicated well.
I'm nuts Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 I started to ponder whether it was infatuation. Was it really love that I felt for this guy? I think I have a problem. I have never told anyone this so prepare and please don't judge. I think I might be a little too into sex. I think I might be addicted to it. And maybe he was what fueled my addiction. I think I miss his sex more than I actually miss him. Because I ask myself what I miss about him and all I can think of is sexual things. Why is this? Is this possible? I think you owe me an apology, people like you are so easy to sniff out.
oracle Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 You've read my post. You should get this by now Simple.. RULE 2 Its gone! and you can't have it.. you loved his d*ck, you miss his d*ck, Can't have that d*ick Now you CRAVE that d*ck Ya its blunt and its crude but u need a swat upside the head to get thru to you. Obviously if that is what you are pining over, then that is what was primarily keping you interested and there in that relationship And I bet you if you had him back, in 2-3 weeks you would be bored of it. Like the saying goes... Show me a hot wife, I will show you a husband that is tired of banging her. And if you like sex? Great. SO what. Forget what people think. Be happy. Life is short. Just be smart. 2
I'm nuts Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 You've read my post. You should get this by now Simple.. RULE 2 Its gone! and you can't have it.. you loved his d*ck, you miss his d*ck, Can't have that d*ick Now you CRAVE that d*ck Ya its blunt and its crude but u need a swat upside the head to get thru to you. Obviously if that is what you are pining over, then that is what was primarily keping you interested and there in that relationship And I bet you if you had him back, in 2-3 weeks you would be bored of it. Like the saying goes... Show me a hot wife, I will show you a husband that is tired of banging her. And if you like sex? Great. SO what. Forget what people think. Be happy. Life is short. Just be smart. This girl doesn't like to hear the truth, it hurts her, she'll call you a bitter troll
oracle Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 This girl doesn't like to hear the truth' date=' it hurts her, she'll call you a bitter troll [/quote'] Well hopefully that won;t be true. I Try to make people understand that they are their own worst enemy. It doesn't matter what their ex did, is doing, might do, could do etc. etc. etc. etc.et It doesn;t matter if they were good or bad or what they did or didn't do.. YOu stayed all through out it, and now THEY are gone. They are done with you.. thats all the matters. Stop reading between the lines and letting your mind fill in the blanks with incorrect information. And I have said it before and I will say it 1000 times. It all comes down to attachment/control. Love is such an over used term, and after the fact it tends to be spread around and recollected in a fairly inaccurate manner when reflecting on the ended relationship When you no longer have control over the object of your attachment, people tend to go on a mental spriral into the ground 2
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 Thanks oracle for the insight. you are absolutely right, I am my own worst enemy. I'm ready to be happy now! 1
Crila16 Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 I personally think that you're not mourning over this guy like you have in the past, because you didn't love him as deeply as some of the guys in your past. You may not even realize it, because he's the most current. It Doesn't mean you're a sex addict or that it was pure infatuation. It just means that maybe you loved him the only way you knew how. All you have to do is ask yourself a few questions and be truthful. Did you think he was the one? Was he your best friend? Can you picture forever with him? Would you call him a soulmate? Is this the man you've been dreaming of finding since you were a little girl? If the answer is no (which I think your heart already knows)...that could be your answer.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 27, 2012 Author Posted August 27, 2012 I personally think that you're not mourning over this guy like you have in the past, because you didn't love him as deeply as some of the guys in your past. You may not even realize it, because he's the most current. It Doesn't mean you're a sex addict or that it was pure infatuation. It just means that maybe you loved him the only way you knew how. All you have to do is ask yourself a few questions and be truthful. Did you think he was the one? Was he your best friend? Can you picture forever with him? Would you call him a soulmate? Is this the man you've been dreaming of finding since you were a little girl? If the answer is no (which I think your heart already knows)...that could be your answer. Did you think he was the one? No, only because he doesn't think I am the one. I wanted him to be the one, now I'm not so sure. A person can only be stepped on so much. Was he your best friend? He was. Until he started using me when he is lonely and horny. Can you picture forever with him? No because I don't want to continue being treated this way, I don't want to be used anymore. If he can't picture himself with me, how can I picture myself with him? Would you call him a soulmate? I did in the beginning. But if he truly loved me he wouldn't be hurting me this way, he wouldn't want to lose me. He would want things to work out. Is this the man you've been dreaming of finding since you were a little girl? No, because my dream man showers me with love and affection, buys me things to make me happy, includes me in his future plans, doesn't use me for sex, doesn't tell me how he went on a trip with 6 girls to the lake this past weekend, love doesn't do that. Love makes you happy and secure.
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