bolase Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 I might be being too soft hearted, but my coworker is upset that I rejected him by text. The thing is, he asked me out by text, by email, never in person. So, it would have seemed a bit heavy-handed to me to pull him aside at work and say "look, thanks but I don't like you like that". I was clear in my text that I liked him as a person, but didn't want to cross any boundaries. His response, after pretending to be confused, was that I could've done it in person to limit the confusion and hurt. I responded by pointing out that he only asked me out by text msg, and I was sorry. Just wondering whether you think I owe him an apology for not coming forward at work... I feel really bad, he is a nice guy. I just don't want drama at work!
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 He doesn't sound like a nice guy, he sounds like a dupe. He the heck a) asks someone out that they work with (those people are always always off limits) and b) asks someone out by text and gets mad when they reject them via text? You shouldn't apologize. He should feel bad.
kaylan Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 (edited) Tell him to grow up. You guys were never an item, and you work together. You dont owe him a telephone or in person rejection. If I actually liked a girl and I had the chance to see her often, I would ask her out in person. Dunno why he expects different behavior from you than what hes shown himself. Dont fall for his little charade either. You made the right decision. You arent a kid anymore, and work is more important than some guy you dont even like a lot. Edited August 25, 2012 by kaylan
mortensorchid Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 Well I understand how you are feeling conflicted here. But if this guy asked you out via text message that's really not very brave of him. Now he's angry because you rejected him? That's not very mature of him. You're better off.
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