singerislandbeachbum Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 (edited) I'm a busy businessman who earns great income but have no time for clubs, gyms or much social interaction, so I thought if I could find a young female who I could help-out in exchange we would see each other one to three times a week for dinner and fun activities...After a few days i met her... and for the first six to eight months everything was great. Shortly there after she wanted to take it to the next level where she would stay over and we would enjoy each other a little more and she wanted us to be exclusive. So we worked everything out I stopped seeing a few girls I messed with and we begin a so-call relationship. Everything was going fine for a few monthes until one day I received a phone call from a guy asking if I knew this "girl" I said yes we we're friends and I left it at that, he didn't really say to much so I asked him a few questions and he said they had been girlfriend/boyfriends for one year and he had seen a email from me and it had my information in it so that's why he called. When i confronted her she said he's crazy and he must of hacked into her computer and she would call the police don't worry everything is good. We got past that then she needed to move so I helped her get a new place and went downtown to buy her some expensive sheets from a store there and after get some dinner at a local restaurant. I look up and what do I see her and him walking downtown together and I text her and she doesn't hit me back until the next morning from work, she explains it like he was just following her from a party she was at and she was trying to get away from him. bahbahbah She insisted it was all innocent and pleaded with me to trust her. Like a dumdass I did cause by now its over a year for us and all aspects of our relationship together while hotter than ever. So we stay together. Well on Saturday she was supposed to stay the night but she called after work and said she was tried had a bad day and wanted to put it off till the next night. I got pissed said some things I shouldn't have but being a dumbass man I did so, she got mad said she had to think about things and we didn't see each other at all last weekend. Monday I don't hear nothing then Tuesday came went nothing then Wednesday after still hearing nothing I text her hoping she was alright but got no reply. The only other time sometime like this happen she had car troubles and I found out about it on a automotive website forum. So I went online and there it was a new post from Monday afternoon asking for help on some starting issues with her car because "The Boyfriend" had kicked the key area of the car. Being the nice guy I am I replied as a reg. joe asked her a few questions to see if she would respond, boy did she...plus the forum guys had been teasing her about how the boyfriend would have kicked it like maybe they were having sex or something so I put something in my message to her about what had happen. She goes into the craziest story of how they were with another young couple and he wanted them to all hook-up (what a nice guy) and she said he was really drunk and basically the other girl wasn't having it. So dunkass started kicking the stirring column and broke the windshield and ripped some more things as well.And he hit her too... then she's stuck at his place! But she's totally defending him saying he was drunk and made excuses for and he's paying for everything, mobile mechanic was on the was to fix it but while I had her I asked a few more questions and she answered then all. She said she loved him and would do anything for him including having sex with other girls/couples and how they were exclusive and never cheat with another (what a bunch of bull****") So I asked if they lived together and she said no but they always sleep together at one of the apt's. So at this point I know all the facts and there's no wondering if she cheating she's in a full blown relationship with this guy. The car gets fix at 7 or 8 ish at night and she continues to email me back telling me everything that was wrong with the car, but I'm so mad just stopped hitting her back. First thing in the morning a get a text from her (must of been time he left for work 9:05) her saying thank you for not blowing her phone up and she's been camping and did some soul searching and wants to come see me. I agree and she comes over and tells one lie after another saying how much she care and that our relationship means so much to her bahbahbah... We have crazy sex she tell me everything is great and we're going to move forward slowly but steady and she's detecting something's not right cause she keeps saying I look sad in my eyes but I assure her everything is fine. Now, the question is what do I do Know... 1. Should I let her know what I know from the message way I found out? 2. Get her to come by and confront her in person? 3. Wait and see what plays out? 4. Or just never speak to her again? The some others basic questions... 1. How could she say she loves him when cheating with me for over a year? 2. Why would she go to such lengths to hide this from me and how does she live with the lies and deceit? 3. She had bruises on her saying she fell out of a tree while camping is she being abused? 4. I'm 50 she 30 he's 25 is there anything I should do and not do? Thanks for all your help I know this is wild but it is what it is... Beachbum Edited August 25, 2012 by singerislandbeachbum
Tiera D Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 she is cheating on you both,something tells me shes just interested in your money,dump her ass right now u got all the evidence,some women are great actors,its obvious enough is it not? or tell her u are going bankrupt soon thats why u are sad,see how she reacts i say she will leave u within a week,thats my opinion TD
Author singerislandbeachbum Posted August 25, 2012 Author Posted August 25, 2012 I know I shouldn't care about what happens to this girl but after all she put me through i'm still in love with her and her only life-line, so if I cut her off she's so screwed "Homeless, Carless, Phoneless, Moneyless" until she regroups with his ass or whatever. But I'm such a nice guy its kills me to think someone I loved will stuggle like that! What do you think she's going to do when her life of lies come crashing down? Should I tell the other guy? Thanks for your input
Tiera D Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 she will learn to be independent bro lets realistic,she does not mind on cheating on you or the other guy,my opinion dont tell the other guy,once u dump her she will surely go back to him,unless u want to revenge on her or something.Concerning you love her,love is just hormones u will get over it eventually,trust me on this go No Contact check out to other chicks Tip: Whenever you miss her remember what she did to you,she cheated,lied,you even caught her lying,eventually you will let go honestly let her go so u could heal TD
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