amergirl_08 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 I had been dating a man for 3 months and things had seemingly been going great. Two weeks ago he told me he could see himself marrying me one day and had wanted me live with him. Thursday he took his vacation the same week as me so we could go on a trip here in 2 weeks, Friday night he again told me he could see himself marrying me. Saturday he asked me to go to dinner with him to meet some friends of his from out of town. Sunday morning we had a small disagreement and he then decided that we werent right for each other and immediately changed his status on FB and unfriended me on there. He did this via text and refused to talk to me. This led to me angrily texting him most of the day, some mad, some sad, I was just a mess. Said he didnt want to talk to me or see me in person because he would fall for me again. Said he thought we should be further along than we were, said he has lots of demons he needed to deal with and that he was thinking about things. Monday he did talk to me on the phone for a little over an hour, things seemed better. Tuesday day was better but then Tuesday night I tried to call and he didn't answer. I waited awhile thinking maybe he was busy but he never called me back or answered my text I had sent. I angrily texted just as he sent me a text saying he'd call me in a bit *shaking head*. He then said goodnight and that was it. He didn't respond to the few texts I sent, so I decided to send him the email he had asked for Monday on the phone. He had asked for a list of things I loved about him and a list of things I didn't like, he said he'd do the same(I haven't got it). He never responded. I though well he said he didn't think we knew each other well enough yet, so I wrote another email telling him all about me. Again Thursday morning I sent another on telling him more. (I know I entered crazy land *sigh*) Still no response, so I sent one that night explaining how I felt about everything(figured it would sound better than broken text msg convos). He finally responded. Said he felt so bad about hurting me but he had made his mind up and he wanted to move on. He said he had been contemplating the very idea of dating me for awhile. I called his bluff by saying hey you said you wanted to marry me twice in the last 2 weeks, you wanted to go on a trip, you wanted me to move in with you. Nobody who is contemplating the very idea of dating someone would say that, unless they're a player and I honestly don't think he is(believe me I've dealt with players before). I asked to meet in person to talk. He never responded to my statement only to the meeting in person part. He said I never said I didn't want to ever see you again just that I need time to think. I asked how much time. He said a time limit didn't help I need to accept it was over. I said that's not what you just said, you said you needed time to think. He said it's over. I sent one back saying I wasn't a idiot and that's the last I heard from him. I sent one more text later asking if his health problems had any thing to do with it, he never responded. The thing is I put trackers in the emails( I know, again crazy) to see if he was reading them or ignoring me all together, he read all of them several times. He opened them back up late last night long after it was all over. I've left him alone now for like 24hrs, clearly I need to give him space and time now. But am I crazy for thinking there is still a chance? And if so what should I do next?
Author amergirl_08 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I don't understand any of this and I so want to fix all of it but I don't know how.
IncredibleGrace Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Seems like he's confused and flaking out...And I think you know the rules; DO NOT CONTACT him. Sit on your hands if you have to, go out, run, see friends but totally leave him alone. Emailing/texting will push him away...creating distance will make him curious. It's the hardest thing in the world, but the only thing you can do!!! And if there is real love there, then he will come back.
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