badanglefish Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 hi guys I have spent all night long reading randomly about people situation trying to seek what as close as possible to mine and apparently i am a big time in needed help. I try to make this as short as possible and realy wish you would have time to read. We met last august on my way back from visitng my friend and he's on his way to his trip. 12 days later he was on the same flight back home and i was on the way to visit friend again. i lived in different country but for work i flown there eery week or so. after the thrid time we met each other he was crying on the phone and told me he was falling for me but he had to stopped he had something unfinished and he scared it would end like it used to have with other girls. He shared a little bit when we first met that he was married but seperated for 4 years and waiting for the diviorce in a month. Then after the called that day we met up and he told me whole scenario with tears. He met this woman 4 years ago but he failed to get to know her. a year later after been serching for her he finally found her but she was already with someone. He was setting his mind waiting for her and had couple of time relationship one was 1 and a half year and one of 8 months in the last 3 years. but the relationship ended since he couldnt lie to them that he was inlove annd is always inlove with that woman he never had. she came around to him when her boyfriend not around and he always falled for her and ended his relationship. eventually before he met me he decided to wait for her wish he had never knew if she would ever break up with her bf to be with him. the day he met me he was fed up with everything and lost then he falled for me and worried that things gonig to end up like how it used to and he didnt know what to do. by that time i just broke up and had no interest in relationship i ten told him to go with the flow. but under one condition if he went back to sleep with her i would never see him again. we then got intimated after about 2 months. things went perfectly between us. we saw each other once a week approx and went one holiday together and stayed together for 2 weeks. when everything rising to the star a week after hloliday after 4 months together he told me that She broke up with the bf to be with him and he had to do it with her. i disappeared for about 2 months until one night of drunk dailed got us back in contact again. after that i found that he never forgot about me made me feel to stay waiting. We found the connection between us stil so strong and its hard to let go. we hadnt seen each other after the break up but mostly 3 times a weeks on skype and few hours each. until one day i decided i couldnt be trapped like this any more. in april i went to holiday and disappeared few days in the moutain. the first time i saw him frustrated and struggling tried to find out where i was. he confessed afer i reponsed that he realized to couldnt lose me. after the holiday he came to see me one night in out of his country when i flown to work there. i told him before he came that if things not gonig to changed i didnt want to see him. we mat and he told me he would go back and try to sort everything out. he made her left her bf and she's moved in with her. its a big story but he would find the way. when he went back he found her not home. she was mad and kind of knew whats gonig on. he then got broken heart after not seeing her at home and asked to be alone for a while to sort things out. its been taking 2 months of not knowing which one to chhose until one night end of june he told me he chose to be back to his gf. and would sort everything out. i then disappeared again for a month after that. but during those time he texted and called mostly ever after day to see if i was ok. he was worried cos the night he pull me of i was in the hospital. he called up my friend try to find out about me. i left it no responsed until he told me that he's decided to leave her. he tried to forget about me since we broke and until then he couldnt make it. in stead of gonig back to sorted his relationship out, he loking for me. he couldnt fight againt his feeling toward me. we decided to come back together and everything went on so well. He was asking me for time since his ex stil looking for place to stay. in these last 3 months she been staying with friends and came home once a weeks during day time to sort her stuff out. he didnt want me to enter the house that we used to be together and see other woman's stuff and i agreed. one night he came home and he asked to not be on the phone, wanted to be along. he was wrecked came home her stuff empty. i understood that it was normal sentimental. 3 days later he told me he wasnt sure about us. last week he disappear for 6 days asking me he wanted to be alone. i then found out that he took her to holiday with him. he call crying said he loves 2 women and didnt know how to choose. i broke my phone sim card and didnt talk until now. i didnt understand whats gonig on? its a psychological problem? i was gone long enough and saw him showing how he could lose everything to have me. then he pull me back to stand at the same painful point. who is the e in this story? i love him all my heart and forgive, is that my problem? we realized we love each other once we lost each other..... but how i m gonig to do this? how to handle this situation if i want my love back or he already had his final choice. let me go a little futher about the girl. she isnot native in the country where he;s from, neither am i. wen he came back to me he told me that he knew that it wasnt her that he wanted to be with since she asked him to married her but he refused. she then moved out.. i am living half world away from him. she;s living next corner. but i was strong enought in his mind to break all of this down or it was only one side story? after the first break up i ddint see him at ll and avoid to go back to his coutry and never did until this august went back on the day we met each other. other than that its 3 times we met each other in april, may and last month all of them in different country that he had to fly to see me a nigh stop during my work. but he stil chose to be with me even though he knew he were not gonig to be together and broke up with her. only thing we were waiting for to go further step was that his ex to moved out. then she did but things changed... i dont understand this.. at all.. i really hope you would have the answer thank you so much
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