How some women expect persistence from a man

[rainfall]

I think this is where a man tends to really be on thin ice when pursuing a woman. I have a friend of mine, good looking, doing pretty well in life, very intelligent, etc.

 

He'd get women's numbers and call them, and sometimes women would even make the suggestion of "getting together" , and sometimes make firm plans doing so with him.

 

Well, typically he calls, leave messages, and then they never call back..then he moves on.

 

From the female perspective these women have stated that they were disappointed when he didn't call a 2nd nor 3rd time to get a hold of them, even though they were deliberately avoiding him or blowing him off.

 

Is it true, how many women here will let a guy call her 2 or 3 times, before you return his call?

 

They actually expected the guy, as they put, to put in a LITTLE more effort in being "stalkerish" (THEY didn't use that word,but I just used it to make apoint)

I would never do this I think playing games is stupid and childish. If you like someone I think you should answer the phone when they call or call them back. Why waste time playing games

[rainfall]

I think this is where a man tends to really be on thin ice when pursuing a woman. I have a friend of mine, good looking, doing pretty well in life, very intelligent, etc.

 

He'd get women's numbers and call them, and sometimes women would even make the suggestion of "getting together" , and sometimes make firm plans doing so with him.

 

Well, typically he calls, leave messages, and then they never call back..then he moves on.

 

From the female perspective these women have stated that they were disappointed when he didn't call a 2nd nor 3rd time to get a hold of them, even though they were deliberately avoiding him or blowing him off.

 

Is it true, how many women here will let a guy call her 2 or 3 times, before you return his call?

 

They actually expected the guy, as they put, to put in a LITTLE more effort in being "stalkerish" (THEY didn't use that word,but I just used it to make apoint)

I would never do this I think playing games is stupid and childish. If you like someone I think you should answer the phone when they call or call them back. Why waste time playing games

[Lonely Ronin]

I call twice, and then the ball is her court.

[phineas]

I don't know, I think some women don't like guys who give up easily.

 

I'm one of those types who will give up as soon as I'm given the opportunity to. Keeps life simple I guess.

 

I don't call it giving up.

I call it not wasting my time.

 

If she don't call back, then she isn't interested far as i'm concerned. Oh, well.

rejection hasn't killed me yet.

[mortensorchid]

THere is a fine line between being persistant and being just plain stupid / arrogant. I would return a man's calls, I would be happy if he pursued me. However, I would not want to be with someone who made a plan and then flaked out on it, nor one who did not contact me at least once after the initial meeting. Or a man who completely expects me (or other women) to cater to his every need. Or someone who keeps calling, emailing, texting, IMing even though you have never once returned the gesture.

[phineas]

Those women are called FLAKES. I suggest to all men to steer clear of them.

 

It's also fun to watch them get "pumped and dumped" by every playa who gets persistent and plays her little game, only to toss her away when he's done with her.

 

Then she later, with a straight face, acts "bewildered", thinking that he was into her based on how much he pursued her.

 

I say stay single and keep looking for the few sane women left. Let the flakes grow up to be spinsters.

 

 

My experience is these women for the most part will approach me, show a ton of interest up front then ignore me. I KNOW if I wanted to I could chase & be persistent & most likely get her, eventually. And have.

 

But, at this point in my life the work isn't worth the sex.