Hobbit Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 1/ Being cheated on 2/ Being told "I love you but Im not in love with you" Obviously neither, but which do you think is easier to get over? Personally I wish my ex had cheated, at least I could hate and then move on, none of this bloody left in limbo nonsense
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Being cheated on. By far. That is the easiest thing to get over and I'd never look back.
Crila16 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Someone saying I love you, but I'm not in love with you. If someone cheats on me...it all becomes nothing but shady lies and vidinctiveness and it shows me the person has absolutely no respect or regard for my feelings. Telling me straight up they're just not in love with me, is super hard to do...so I know they actually put a lot of thought into my feelings and it shows they actually do care, they just weren't in love. Not everyone is going to be in love with you. All you need it one person. We just need to be patient and wait for that one. If love were easy to find, finding that special someone wouldn't be so special.
youngnlove89 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 1/ Being cheated on 2/ Being told "I love you but Im not in love with you" Obviously neither, but which do you think is easier to get over? Personally I wish my ex had cheated, at least I could hate and then move on, none of this bloody left in limbo nonsense Welp, I've had both happen to me, LUCKY ME! Being cheated on is the absolute worse! Golly, does it ever hurt. To know they shared your intamicy with someone else. It took me over a year to get over someone who cheated on me. Our relationship didn't just die, he murdered it. I was mad that he killed something that meant so much to me! Being told I'm not in love with you is bad too. I just had it happen to me. It's hard, but I can handle it better because I know there is no coming back. When someone doesn't love you that way, they never will. It's life. It sucks but it's easier to move on because you know there is no hope. You look for that hope though, anywhere in the crevice of your heart but it's not there. Once you realize that, you let go. It's out of our control. and there is nothing to do BUT move on. So being cheated on is worse and harder to move on from then being told they aren't in love with you. Just my experience. 1
Drseussgrrl Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Being cheated on. That way anger would propel me in my healing. Being told "I'm not in love with you" would be quite a blow to my ego and I'd continually question what it was about me that they couldn't love. 1
Vikki_26 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I would have preferred him to cheat on me rather than say he loves me but not enough what I deserve. As there will always be hope for me that one day he will realise what his missed and come running back. It happens, his mum left his step dad and after 10 years they got back together. So if he cheated on me id hate him and never trust again.
Floored Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I got "I love you, I'm just not in love with you." I laughed initially, what a stupid combination of words it is to simply say "I don't love you". But I'm glad I got that instead of "I made a mistake..." Granted, as everyone has said, it has let the doubt of 'what if' creep in occasionally.
Kite Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 /2 being told I love you, but I'm not in love with you. That's what I got. I suppose I should appreciate the honesty, as he could have comfortably stayed with me and cheated on me. I do feel like garbage that has been thrown out.
2muchlove Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I got both from the same girl. God rest her poor soul. She must have lost it years ago. 3
8mia8 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 2/ Being told "I love you but Im not in love with you" Because the love was real and it just didn't work out. I don't believe a person would ever cheat on someone they loved.
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 2/ Being told "I love you but Im not in love with you" Because the love was real and it just didn't work out. I don't believe a person would ever cheat on someone they loved. How is that different from someone cheating on you...? They loved you; the love was real; then they stopped loving you; then they cheated on you; it didn't work out.
8mia8 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 How is that different from someone cheating on you...? They loved you; the love was real; then they stopped loving you; then they cheated on you; it didn't work out. In the second option, the person still loves you (as a friend, like a sister/brother, etc) but just not in love as a romantic relationship. I don't think one would cheat on another if they loved you. They would break it off first and then go on to someone else.
MyHeartTakesOver Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 (edited) I got both in the same breath! Neither but if I had to choose, I'd go with 2. 1 is the physical expression of 2. At least with 2 they had the integrity to tell you before acting it out. Perhaps it is just my temprement, but you don't just hate and move on after cheating. If you really love the person who did it, it becomes an obsession that dominates your entire mental landscape and your partner becomes a person who you don't know because they are no longer the person you thought they were. It's horrendous and I really wish no one had to go through it. Edited August 24, 2012 by MyHeartTakesOver
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 In the second option, the person still loves you (as a friend, like a sister/brother, etc) but just not in love as a romantic relationship. I don't think one would cheat on another if they loved you. They would break it off first and then go on to someone else. You know the second "option" is just a line often used to soften the blow or make one feel better about themselves for having dumped someone, right...?
Tree_Salmon Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Being cheated on is the easier choice. I'd disappear quickly after.
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