Rachels_p Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 So its along story but I will try keep it short... I've fallen badly in love with a girl who has told me I was her one... but there is some loose wiring I would call it and its perhaps not the healthiest relationship as we tend to argue over nothing all the time! Anyway she is officially my ex now she broke up with me in Apr after much hard work we kinda got back together after two months and it was ok for two weeks but she was different, she was quite cold and distant and I ended up feeling really down and ended it for fear she would because I couldn't deal with it again but I didn't want to anyway we said we would remain friends ( I still did all the begging and pleading ) but she said she thinks its not going to work ... we are in different places and that she loves me but she wants to move on and be happy... we were out other night as friends and said I'm not going to wait around forever and your going have regrets, she kept touching and hugging me and said this is why I love you a few times... so as night drew to a close we had a big fight and I gave her an ultimatum I said we can do things to fix this, see people etc and she basically turned her back on me and walked away saying no! We texted the next day ( we have still texted everyday since break up ) saying your one of the most important people in my life, I want us to be friends ( last time this happened she found out I had a date and went mad and said she couldn't handle it, we couldn't be friends) this is when we made up and tried to start again... now she knows I want her and I'm besotted, I told her yesterday that I was cutting down contact and allowing her to move on and be happy instead of being selfish ( begging ) etc I'm doing because I've been unfair.... which I know I have but I don't want my life without her and I would die inside when she moves on but I love her so much, I want her to be mine for life she knows that... what do I do? Signals are all over the place and its screwing me up... why do they say all these things and then take them away again.. i know she's not bad, she's the best person I've ever had in my life and when I told her that she no I'm not I caused you so much hurt .... I don't if she's scared or that she is basically drained with it all... I want to try avoid texting her but I don't think she would make first move to text me... I think I've lost her.
Author Rachels_p Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 * she said she wouldn't wait around forever.( why even say this then say you want to move on and be happy )
weallfalldown Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 sounds like a yoyo, up and down, damaging load of crap dude, just leave her be and move on...it's hard but has to be done.............
Crila16 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 She may still have feelings for you, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. If she was truly in love with you, she wouldn't be able to stay away from you. The big tip that she's not in love with you...she won't take you back. I don't know about you, but when I'm in love, I can't stay away from the person I want to be with. You didn't screw anything up that wasn't already screwed up. It's a very toxic and unhealthy relationship. It's not going to work. You need to move on and find someone who is more compatable with you. Something healthier than this mess.
Author Rachels_p Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 I know.... I what to see her all time.... we always meet up and have fell into bed and stuff so it just makes it all the more screwed up... its not healthy it does need work so I guess I will know if she bothers to get in touch but your right about truly loving someone.... you would think if someone did they would try everything but as I say she might be drained and I think some past issues are a problem before me... I just needed an outlet and to hear from outsiders or of any peoples truths, hopes etc ... good endings coming from similar situations but the more time goes on I will see its for best hopefully.... thanks guys I just really needed to chat xx
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